MONEY MORAL DILEMMA: Should Spencer trade in the engagement ring?

cashndash

he shouldn't do either - £7k or £4k for a ring is madness. She should want to marry him because they love each other, not for a bit of bling!

drewscott

Ditch the wench completely - I couldn't the idea of even dating someone who were that extravagant and high maintenance!

MrParr

Personally, this is an interesting dilemma as although my OH is not materialistic enough to want a £7k ring, or even a £4k ring, I find it interesting that some people think that £4k is a lot to spend on a ring.

As I am thinking of buying one shortly, I was just interested in finding out how much is acceptable (and not an insane) amount to spend on an engagement ring?

ThinkingOfLinking

*Louise* wrote: »

If he is daft enough to spend and extra 3k on just a name he is letting himself in for a heap of trouble. That would be MENTAL.:D

Likewise I wouldn't advocate putting it in a famous box either - why lie to someone you love.

He should buy a ring (even 4k is riduculous, I would be terrified to wear something that expensive!) and he could always buy her a 'Cart-any' piece of jewellery for a christmas present at a later date.

I totally agree. I wouldn't want such an expensive ring anyway, and brand doesn't matter. I'd happily wear an Argos ring (as long as it looked nice) if it was from the man I love.:smileyhea

BigMark

If she insists on a £7k ring then make the gold digger buy her own!

fruugal

No, certainly not! He should not lie. He should put the ring on her finger having kept it in his pocket, for she should be delighted that he wants to commit. She may not want to be engaged herself, in which case he'll have the ring back in his pocket.

The provenance of the ring is beside the point. If he wants he can always buy a little pendant or single charm bracelet to suit his wife to be, from whichever Bond Street jeweller she is most in love with.

Cautionary note - if she's more committed to a brand than a style of ring then is she the gal for him at all?

Now, Mr Parr. It depends how much money you earn as to how much you will want to spend on an engagement ring. A ring that you and your gal like is far more important.

I had a problem with precisely that with my husband who wanted the biggest and most bling ring in the shop. I wanted a pretty well-designed ring that not everyone else I knew would have. I ended up with the ring I liked best, which I could wear every day without damage, and which the wedding ring snuggled into. However, my fiance, as he became, insisted that a big rock had to be worn too so he purchased a huge stone surrounded by diamonds, and I wore that on the other hand.

hillijx

How much you should spend is totally down to the person and their income, on one hand you can't let it put you in debt for the rest of your married life, but on the other hand it will be something that will last forever and be passed down to your children. The general rule of thumb is 2 months salary......... please note - I am not advocating that rule!!!

But I agree- if she was that bothered about the make then maybe he is marrying the wrong person!

I say don't lie - that would not make for a happy marriage!!!

Proofraider

No - these things always get found out! What happens if she ever gets it valued for insurance??

[Deleted User]

WhyIsSavingSoHard wrote: »

I wouldn't want £4,000 spent on a ring either, as to me that's nearly 63 weeks of Job Seeker's money!! To some though, it's only a day's work.

But, back to the question, I would advise strongly that he doesn't disguise it. DO NOT start marriage on a lie. If she loves that £7,000 ring that much, chances are she'd know the difference. My marriage ended due to lies, so I'd definitely say no

Arent you hoping to get a job before 63 weeks? :-)

[Deleted User]

If he can afford £7K then buy the one she wants. Lying is not cool.

Then again if either of these rings is more than he can afford and she knows it, then this is bad.