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I want to want children, anyone else the same?
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I know it's weird Skintchick - I just can't explain it, there's something about small babies I just can't take - hence the embarrassed face in the previous post. Maybe it's just because I don't really know how to handle them.
I do like the thought of having what you talk about in your last but one paragraph - but I don't know if I can trust the hormones to overule the other feelings!
You may change your mind, you may not, but it's OK to feel how you feel IMO.
And as it goes, small babies aren;t that interesting or great, but about 6 months they do get a lot more interesting and fun.:cool: DFW Nerd Club member 023...DFD 9.2.2007 :cool::heartpuls married 21 6 08 :A Angel babies' birth dates 3.10.08 * 4.3.11 * 11.11.11 * 17.3.12 * 2.7.12 :heart2: My live baby's birth date 22 7 09 :heart2: I'm due another baby at the end of July 2014! :j
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Yes, you are right about that, but at least you are now free to enjoy life again.However it would've been nice to tell your husband you changed your mind, and not gone off and found someone else behind his back!
But I'm in Peru having a holiday of a lifetime, met many interesting people around the UK, having a great time. So thanks for the opportunity!0 -
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women without kids have more orgasms too apparently (41 percent of childless women have them regularly compared to only 12 percent of women with a child).
http://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/love-sex/consummation/28-of-women-over-35-never-have-sex-1900975.htmlThose who will not reason, are bigots, those who cannot, are fools, and those who dare not, are slaves. - Lord Byron0 -
Sample size is 745 which is too small to have any statistical significance when applied to the wider population.
I sometimes want children, mostly don't (too much on my plate at the moment amongst other things) and am probably going to spend far too long dithering about deciding (I'm 36) to actually have any. I didn't want them at all until a couple of years ago so I suppose I might make my mind up in time.0 -
women without kids have more orgasms too apparently (41 percent of childless women have them regularly compared to only 12 percent of women with a child).
http://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/love-sex/consummation/28-of-women-over-35-never-have-sex-1900975.html
how ridiculous!!
surely thats got more to do with your mindset about sex AND the skill of your partner than wether you have squeezed a melon out of your lemon!0 -
Curious_George wrote: »how ridiculous!!
surely thats got more to do with your mindset about sex AND the skill of your partner than wether you have squeezed a melon out of your lemon!
well maybe having a kid changes the mindset? more tired, more keen to get it over with, worried the kids might hear (for men and women). i know it's a stereotype but perhaps there's more than a bit of truth in it too. it does seem that there is generally quite a period of abstinence after having a baby and that habit of losing sex from your relationship is presumably not always easy to break. maybe that's why people with 2 kids have slightly more orgasms - it shows they did at least start having sex after the first kid!Those who will not reason, are bigots, those who cannot, are fools, and those who dare not, are slaves. - Lord Byron0 -
It was an easy decision (although fairly frightening at times after I found out I was pregnant) for me as I always wanted children.
My mother (who I think has always been a fantastic Mum and I would love my children to think I was half as good), a few years ago, admitted that she had never really wanted children. When she hit 30 she felt that there was a bit of a hole in her life and she then decided to fill that hole with children.
My friend, on the other hand, is adament that she will never have children.
I don't think there's any hard and fast rules regarding wanting children, and I would suggest that perhaps you forget about them entirely for now and revisit your feelings in 5 years or so.
For what it's worth, my mother still isn't a baby person, and, as much as I love my daughter and I'm looking forward to the birth of my son, I'm also not that 'into' babies. For me, the fun starts when they are a bit older and can communicate and develop personalities (at least most the time, but that's a whole other thread!)Working hard in the hopes of being 'lucky'
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I'd say don't worry about it untill (if you haven't already) found the right man.
I was adamant i didn't want kids then met my to be hubby who at the time had a 2yr old who he had at weekends ( i was only 22 myself) naturally when i stayed over i started doing mummy things for him nappys/wiping his nose etc general care for him, then i'd look at how my hubby was with him & that made me want to share that experience with him too but from the beginning.
So my views changed with the circumstances,age & the right man.
We got married then had a little boy together a few years later & the 2year old is now a strapping nearly 11yr old. Don't stress about it yet,wait for the right circumstances it just comes earlier to some than others!.
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I just wanted to revive this thread as it's so interesting. I hadn't really given any thought to kids with previous partners but met current OH and that changed. Though we were never in a rush after getting married a few years ago, we started talking about it this year and started trying in Summer - we found out we are pregnant last week and it feels right. I am battling negative comments from my mum thoughout the years (from the age of 7) about how my sibling would always be 'better with kids' than me and I was 'too selfish' but I realize I am the one that has to get past that as she was always fairly critical towards me. So I guess I grew up more independent ('selfish') than she would have liked, perhaps a self fulfilling prophecy for her. However, I have so much love to give and so does my husband, you have to do what is right for you and not let anyone elses' thoughts or comments into it. Good luck OP whatever you decide.
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Little Sweetpea born 12th July 2011:):)
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