Reformed shopaholic? please can you give me the benefit of your advice

ThinkingOfLinking

Anglea, it's just amazing, isn't it?! I think it's mad how much I used to hoarde and stockpile. I hope to keep on finding more things to sell for a good while yet...and I hope to win stuff to sell too (Half the competitions I enter is with the intention of selling it on if I win).

Just trying to get a half decent job...well any job really...but nowhere seems to be hiring at the moment.

Frogletina

CompletelyLost wrote: »

Also welcome back Frogletina. I'm not sure what to say about Beau. It does sound like a very odd situation/relationship and I do sometimes wonder if some of your posts about him are in jest or not

Anglea wrote: »

Welcome back FR, what's the latest with muse and beau?

CL - I guess it is an odd relationship, but none of my posts are in jest. Everything I have said is how it has been.

Anglea - I have not heard from Beau since he messaged me on the first day I was back here. However, my friend who is still in Turkey until tomorrow has not seen him either so he may still be at his father's house where there is no internet or hopefully he is looking for work elsewhere.

I had not heard from the muse all holiday, but I messaged him today to say I returned from my holiday on Saturday and he has replied telling me what he is up to.

Bym messaged me a couple of times while I was away but I have not heard from him since I came home. His last message was to ask when I was returning to England.

Frogletina

Anglea

Hi all

FE, you must have been a hoarder extraordinaire to have acquired so much stuff, you could have opened a shop I bet.

Mind you I think most people have far too much nowadays. I can never keep up with things at home, and often think that if I only had the bare minimum then it would be easy to deal with.

At this moment, my house is like a Chinese laundry, so much bedding to be put away and I'm horrified to open the airing cupboard as everything falls out as there is so much of it - even though it's been organised but it gets out of control very easily.

Fr -I'm wondering if you are going to start making a plan for your love life or are you going to keep all these 3 on the backburner in the hope that one of them might eventually become Mr Right?

ThinkingOfLinking

Anglea, as well as the over 100 pairs of pants and over 100 pairs of socks, I had about the same amount of pens, and tonnes of makeup and stockpiled toiletries; it's insane. I'm just going to keep going and strip it right back as it's actually a pain in the bum having so much stuff.

I think it's easier if broken down, ie just go through one drawer a day. If you love it, keep it. If you're not sure, try it on and then decide. Then either: Sell it, give it away to a friend or charity shop, or do my classy thing of wear it one last time before binning it (this is what I do with pants and socks destined for the great wardrobe in the sky!) If you try and do too much, you'll get demotivated and give up, thinking there's too much to do and that you'll never get anywhere. Which you won't, in all fairness!!

Still got some books to make a decision on....found a pile of DVDs to get rid of last night, so that's something.

ziggles50

ooh are they romcom, chick flick type dvd's?
My housemate had about 200 but out of all those i am only interested in about 10- our taste is totally different!

ThinkingOfLinking

ziggles50 wrote: »

ooh are they romcom, chick flick type dvd's?
My housemate had about 200 but out of all those i am only interested in about 10- our taste is totally different!

Nah, it's all a random assortment of stuff I've either never even watched, or stuff I've watched once and wasn't impressed. Got tonnes of clothes still to list but it's just too much effort at the moment as you need to photograph them and describe them etc...I'll pull my finger out and add them soon though.

CompletelyLost

Hi alllllll,

My driving lesson wasn't great. I've had two really bad lessons (out of 12, so not that bad really) and that was one of them! Hopefully next time I will be slightly more composed.

Some news! I have an interview on Friday aft :eek: And I'm honestly feeling ill with worry and totally out of my depth. They are a massive company -- not even on the same scale as most of the places I've applied to and been rejected by, and I know the interview process is gruelling. Someone I know told me about the vacancy. I can't say I'm hopeful but I'm sure it'll be an "experience" :o:o Eeeeeeeeeeek indeed.

Frogletina: I hope you didn't find my post insulting. What I meant to say is that you seem like a very intelligent, thoughful person from your posts, so I find your situation with Beau slightly... unexpected?... but I am sure you know what you are doing. I'm probably not making sense so I apologise.

All the talk of clearing out is making me irritable. Once the weekend arrives I can (hopefully) relax and start to think more about decluttering again. I also need to get comping as I've been slacking recently... I did win an amazing prizes last month worth £1500, but have no idea whether to keep it or sell it. It's a 40 inch tv and home cinema system. I almost had a heart attack when I opened that letter!!!

Frogletina

CompletelyLost wrote: »

Frogletina: I hope you didn't find my post insulting. What I meant to say is that you seem like a very intelligent, thoughful person from your posts, so I find your situation with Beau slightly... unexpected?... but I am sure you know what you are doing. I'm probably not making sense so I apologise.

No need to apologise CL. Sometimes I find it hard to understand the situation, but loneliness makes you do unexpected things. I have been single for almost 10 years now and the thought of being with the beautiful beau on holiday was a welcome change.

Anglea wrote: »

Fr -I'm wondering if you are going to start making a plan for your love life or are you going to keep all these 3 on the backburner in the hope that one of them might eventually become Mr Right?

Anglea. I really don't know how to make such a plan, it has taken me a long time to find the lovely muse and the gorgeous Bym. I'm afraid that there will be no-one else out there for me and so I hold onto what I have even though what I have is far from perfect.

Anglea

Hi girls

CL I'm excited for you with the interview :j and also glad your driving experiences haven't put you off from carrying on.

I'm peeved as more of those hard white spots have appeared on my face and they won't shift, I've just tried with a needle. I had a blood test on Monday to see if it's cholesterol that's causing them.

Any of you ever had them?

Fr - I can't help but wonder the reason you don't meet a decent compatible bloke is because of the way you think about yourself. You might even have seen him already but don't register because you've got the other three on your mind.

That's how I met ex, he was with a group of young men and I only noticed his blond friend. Similarly he didn't notice me but only my blond friend. I wasn't looking for a b/f at all during that time as I planned going overseas. So it was a bit of a surprise all round to find myself not only with a b/f, but getting engaged.

ThinkingOfLinking

CL, well done on your win. If it were me, I'd sell it because I don't need it but it's entirely up to you of course. What kind of job is it; don't name the company but just curious as to the field, ie marketing, retail, medicine, etc. Hope you get it anyway; good luck!!