Miscarriage support

sweaty_betty

Part_Mouse wrote: »

Betty

It must be such a rollercoaster,but im glad atlleat they have found a reson for the mc's.Awful though to go thorough im sure. Ive got everything crossed that you get to try the asprin/heparin route.

Its a difficult one for me as i dont ov naturally so in terms of the medics im just lmp unknown but i know for me i just bleed pretty much constantly naturally and for me not to have by now is very strange.

Thanks

Is there any chance that the lack of bleeding could be a good thing? As in the constant bleeding has stopped? (I'm sorry if this is insensitive, I don't know a lot about your history etc)

Gelly123

Hi lovely ladies, hope you are keeping your chin up and trying to stay positive.

Emma - I've also heard the same and my reflexologist has mentioned it too. If I manage to fall pregnant again, I'll certainly be asking about it if I get that far.

PM - Sorry to hear you're not feeling right. After my ERPC in Jan, I didn't have a period for about 33 days so definitely longer than normal but as Sweaty Betty says, if it's still not arrived after 8 weeks, pop along to see your GP.

sweaty betty - so glad they've found out what's possibly causing the mc's for you - fingers crossed your new consultant will be even better than the last.

Having a bit of a rough time at the moment - really starting to struggle with my emotions. Bank Holiday Monday will be the due date of my first pregnancy although, as they were triplets, I know by now that I would have had them by C-section but the date is still significant and I'm dreading it. No sign of another BFP yet.

Stay strong ladies
xx

Part_Mouse

Betty in a way its good not to bleed all the time but as I have no natural cycle I think its likely to go the other way and just stop bleeding altogether which is what used to happen many years ago.

Gelly sorry to hear your struggling to,I'm still a long way off my due date aniversary so can only imagine how awful your feeling.hugs all round ladies.

Miss_Imaginative

Emmaj30: I have heard things about progesterone helping. I figure suggest it to your GP/specialist next time you are pregnant and see what their opinion is.

Part Mouse: It is hard when you don't have a regular cycle to work with. After my final D&C it was about 30 days until I bled, but I was told it could take up to 8 weeks, and if "normal service" hadn't resumed then to speak to my consultant. I agree with the others, give it until 8 weeks and then mention your concerns to your consultant - they will know where to go from here

Betty: While it is frustrating they have found the blood clotting disorder, at least you now know there is actively something you can take (aspirin/heparin) throughout your future pregnancies that should help. My consultant wondered if our miscarriage was caused by a blood clotting disorder too and said that if it were the case we would be on the aspirin/heparin next time too. So sorry that your fab consultant has left, it is even more frustrating that you are back to square one in this instance - but with any luck them starting now should mean they shouldn't be going anywhere in the middle of any future pregnancies!

Gelly: *big hugs to you* I am also beginning to struggle with my emotions too as our little one would have been due on 2nd Sept - really struggling with the emotional roller-coaster of feeling "fine" one minute and not the next. We are all here if you need a friendly ear.

As for me; as I said above I am struggling a bit in the run up to Thomas' due date. Having good days, but a lot of bad days and am struggling to sleep. I keep finding that my mind goes over the entire pregnancy/loss from start to finish very vividly and I struggle to fall to sleep. My bereavement midwife says this is normal and to be expected in the run up to key dates. My parents are visiting on the due date and Hubby and I will be burying Thomas' ashes when we plant the tree we have bought for him.

On a positive note, Hubby and I will be TTC again once the 2nd has passed. We considered starting to try this month, but felt (assuming we caught on straight away) the potential due date of late April/early May was cutting it just a bit too close to the anniversary of losing Thomas. But after the 2nd, all systems go, asitwere.

Mrs_I x

Part_Mouse

Miss I I wish there was something I could do to make things easier for us all. Im not supprised though your finding it all pretty though going.Have you got much support around you?

Im under 2 different hosptials so the care is pretty broken up to say the least,my fertility dr wont be seeing me again until were ready to try again. The other is where I had the erpc.They wernt to happy that I bleed so much so back to see them next week though for now atleast thats changed.

Miss_Imaginative

Part_Mouse wrote: »

Miss I I wish there was something I could do to make things easier for us all. Im not supprised though your finding it all pretty though going.Have you got much support around you?

I do as well - I wish there was something, anything, someone could do! I do have plenty of support, but sadly they are all hundreds of miles away as Hubby and I moved away for his job 5 years ago. Phone-calls, emails and visits a-plenty though. I'm very glad my parents will be visiting around the due-date, it will support us a lot and share the load for Hubby too.

Im under 2 different hosptials so the care is pretty broken up to say the least,my fertility dr wont be seeing me again until were ready to try again. The other is where I had the erpc.They wernt to happy that I bleed so much so back to see them next week though for now atleast thats changed.

That must be so frustrating to be under 2 different hospitals! Is there any way you could transfer so all your care is at one hospital in future? At least the hospital where you had your ERPC is looking into why you bleed so much - hopefully you will find some answers next week.

Mrs_I x

Part_Mouse

Miss_Imaginative wrote: »

I do as well - I wish there was something, anything, someone could do! I do have plenty of support, but sadly they are all hundreds of miles away as Hubby and I moved away for his job 5 years ago. Phone-calls, emails and visits a-plenty though. I'm very glad my parents will be visiting around the due-date, it will support us a lot and share the load for Hubby too.


That must be so frustrating to be under 2 different hospitals! Is there any way you could transfer so all your care is at one hospital in future? At least the hospital where you had your ERPC is looking into why you bleed so much - hopefully you will find some answers next week.

Mrs_I x

I know what you mean about support being far away,saying that though the 'support' has been very mixed. Im glad to hear your parents are visiting.

Unfortunatly I had to go to a different hosp from where i was having the fertility treatment as they dont do anything beyond trying to get your pg and as i found out if something does go wrong then you have to go elsewhere.Im not sure there every going to find out why/get ontop of it if it returns. Its been a prob for many years now,before that it was the other way completely. I even bleed whilst injecting the fertility drugs:o

Miss_Imaginative

Part_Mouse wrote: »

I know what you mean about support being far away,saying that though the 'support' has been very mixed. Im glad to hear your parents are visiting.

It is hard with the support being so far away, isn't it? Have you found the support being rather mixed too?? Some friends I've found have been brilliant throughout, but then others have shown sympathy in the beginning but are now expecting us to have "got over it".

I'm really pleased and rather relieved my parents are visiting too - I hadn't even considered it until my Mum rang and suggested it. Yet another good idea of hers.

Unfortunatly I had to go to a different hosp from where i was having the fertility treatment as they dont do anything beyond trying to get your pg and as i found out if something does go wrong then you have to go elsewhere.Im not sure there every going to find out why/get ontop of it if it returns. Its been a prob for many years now,before that it was the other way completely. I even bleed whilst injecting the fertility drugs:o

That is such a shame, as it would be far easier and less stressful for you to have your care all in one place under one consultant (but I suppose life is never that simple is it!). I really hope they do find the cause for it all - it might be the turning point for you and your OH and give you the answers you need and hopefully another BFP! (Got to keep trying with the optimism!)

Mrs_I x

Part_Mouse

Miss I were very much on our own here,we dont know anyone here either and bar seeing my mum we didnt see anyone throughout the mc,not even mil etc came to see us Ive never felt so alone than lying on an a&e trolly in the middle of the night in agnoy on my own.

I doubt they will be able to find out whats going on and has been with my body,Ive had 2x hsg and a coli plus various hormones over the years and nothings really helped.The only way we got our bfp was with 6.5 weeks of injecting plus iui.

Miss-L

I'm sorry to everyone here who has experienced miscarriage.

Part Mouse - Please don't think your alone. I think you're confusing the 'aloneness', loss and empytness of lossing your baby with the 'aloneness' of people not caring. It sounds as if you have a very supportive husband, and loving Mum. I'm sure there are many people who think of you too. In no way am I trying to dismiss how you feel, I'm sending you my best wishes!

Miss I - Having gone through two miscarriages in the last year, I know anniversarys are hard. I still spend alot of time thinking about my babies. Plan something for your due date - don't leave it to act upon 'spontaneously'. I wrote earlier in this forum how I chose to remember my daughter (2nd miscarriage) if thats of any interest. I just think its makes it easier if you have a plan for the day rather than just wondering what you may do. It was an emotional day for me and I can't say it necessarily gets easier afterwards - my thoughts turned to what life would have been like mothering my much wanted and beautiful little girl. However, it's and important milestone - just try to celebrate the time you spent with your son Thomas. I like to think Thomas would have wanted to see you happy, after all babies are happy when their parent(s) are happy.