Miscarriage support

Toooldforthis

I've had four miscarriages and the treatment I received in the hospital for three of them was amazing ... the worst time was when I was in hospital and one of the nurses was pregnant which I could deal with what I found hard was her sitting on the bed of another patient whilst I was waiting for surgery discusing knitting baby clothes and her nursery for two hours !
I had no follow up for any of mine either ...

I am 13 wks now and once again I can not fault the care I am receiving from the hospital and staff still have everything crossed x

sweaty_betty

Hello all - just looking through recent posts, I think the miscarriage care varies a lot.

For example, during my first miscarriage I 'phoned the EPU of the hospital where I had my booking in appointment scheduled who basically told me to stay home and take paracetmol - no offer of an appointment/support etc. So I called another local hospital EPU (that a friend of mine had been to when she miscarried) - they told me to come in within the hour and they'd scan me, they took bloods and then I went back 2 days later for more bloods just to make sure the hormone levels had dropped and the miscarriage was complete. They were really lovely and it really helped to have some confirmation of what was happening.

This time (third loss) when I started to bleed, I called the EPU of the first hospital again (as I had been booked in to that hospital and told to call them if I had problems) and was treated the same (go home, take paracetamol, we don't need to see you). This time I called my midwife straight after and she saw me straight away, gave me a scan, made me a cup of tea (!), called in the consultant, etc. They then made me an appointment for another scan 2 weeks later to make sure that the miscarriage was complete. I don't know if this was because they were acutely aware of my situation (losses at 5-6 weeks, then 22 weeks, now again at 7 weeks) and knew that I would be devastated (although to be fair, each miscarriage is devastating). But I think that the EPU at that hospital needs a kick up the !!!!.

I'm having a tricky time at the moment - had a hospital appointment this week to confirm miscarriage was complete, so hard going into the antenatal clinic (although they put me straight into a side room so I barely saw a pregnant person while I was there), then this weekend it's the anniversary of the loss of my twins who were born at 22 weeks last year. A doctor I saw a week or two ago said to me "So you've had 2 losses in the last year?" and I replied "well really it's 3 in the last 20 months" and that really hit home. I'm bizarrely positive about the future, but still having a low time.

carlislelass

I had a miscarriage between 2nd and 3rd sons. The GP came, looked around the bedroom door then told me I could always try again! Made sure I never saw him again...no follow-up support given That was in the 80`s

wendz86

Hello all,

I found out on Thursday that our babies heart had stopped beating at 15+5 (i was 16 weeks at the time). Was in hospital all yesterday, came back this morning. Had to give birth to the baby medically managed because of the stage I was at but was not as bad as I thought. Unfortunately the baby was not in a state they thought we should see it but we are arranging to have a service for OH and I to attend so will be able to say goodbye.

We are very lucky that the care we have received has been great. They have been very sympathetic and helpful at all stages.

We have a 3 year old daughter so that has helped although was very hard explaining to her that the baby is gone.

Sorry to see so many people have to go through this.

Gelly123

Oh Wendz

So sorry to see your post on here. Truly thinking of you and your family at this difficult time.

We're always here for you.

Much love
Gelly
x

wendz86

Thank you, is nice to be able to speak to people who understand x

skintchick

So sorry to hear that Wendz. Be kind to yourself . I found it hard telling my daughter about our losses, but if we can remove the stigma around miscarriage for our children then it at least achieves something.

sweaty_betty

So sorry wendz

please-let-me-be-lucky

I'm so sorry for your loss Wendz. I've got two boys, aged 9 and 4 and I've had 3 fairly recent miscarriages, 1 of twins. Both my boys coped remarkably well, better than you'd think they would.

Be kind to yourself. Lots of love Xx

Miss_Imaginative

So sorry for your loss, Wendz. Take it easy, be kind to yourself and we are always here if you need a friendly ear. Thinking of you and your family.

Mrs_I x