Miscarriage support

ttc39

Morning all.

I slept ok again last night but have to say felt shattered and I hadn't exactly done a lot yesterday. Zonked out as son as head hit the pillow.

Hope you are ok this morning Rosie and that work goes ok for you today.

PLMBL - Lara- Samtoby
hope you all have a lovely Saturday and that you get to have some ME time too whatever you end up doing.

My hubbie is working so will be on my own most of the day. We have a wedding evening reception we had accepted invite for a year ago - said we will go.. And if I'm enjoying/ coping being there it then ill stay but if not ill drop oh off and pick up later ( only local) as I won't be drinking.

That's 1 thing I decided early on - I don't want to get back into drinking each weekend , not if I'm going to try again.
May as well save a few drinks for Xmas and birthdays If I'm not expecting but for now I def don't think drink and my emotions would be a good mix Anyhow xxx

please-let-me-be-lucky

Totally agree, drinking doesn't help at all when you are emotionally fragile! My DH doesn't drink at all since his accident and although I would maybe have one or two when out with the girls, it's been so long since I've been out that I can't even remember my last drink! I do hope that you have a nice night tonight though Xx

I got a letter yesterday asking me to go for tests on 23rd October. Doesn't explain any further than that. Haven't heard back about the testing on the twins yet either, but it's a bit early for that as they said 4 weeks and it's only been 2 Xx

samtoby

Time always passes slow when you are waiting for something and fast when you are not!

I am alone (again) my partner is always working DS is with his Dad until four so housework it is. All I blimming do - might do some cooking too.

I haven't had the results on my 2nd stage of my testing yet first stage was fine. Would be nice to know.

I might go out tonight with some friends. I am not sure its one of those I will decide right before the time.

I hope you all have a nice day - I love a wedding so a reception would be nice to keep you busy.

I am praying we will all get pregnant soon and around the same time - all will be ok and we can start a baby after miscarriage thread! xx

ttc39

PLMBL - that's good re your letter, just hope they find some answers for you and your hubbie xx

What you got planned for today? I've just put a load of washing on and put some washing away . Got a HUGE pile of ironing to tackle :-( trying to avoid that one lol but I really should do a few bits this am .

Only had small bit of blood/ discharge yesterday.. Nothing today - so looks like it has stopped - but where are the clots lol xx

ttc39

Samtoby - I know I'll be ok at the wedding reception - just that there will be a few with small babies there but hey ho I've seen them before so should be ok. Hopefully hubbie will stick with me and not abandon me going for constant smoke breaks! Lol

Samtoby I so hope we do all get pregnant the same time ...and soon xx

I was thinking last nite and don't know whether its a valid thought - but may be we should have TTC After MC thread ?

Just that after reading through this thread, it seems as though we post when a mc is imminent,happening etc and a lot of posters who have gone through same kindly come on and help us in our time of need but if we want to carry on talking to people who know what we ve experienced is it an idea to use this thread with "general after event/feelings and emotions " and for how long.. Or should we keep this vital thread for when its an expected mc or actually happening .. Do u know what I mean ? Xx

ttc39

Where are we all based? I am in Northampton. Xx

abis21

TTC - I think people mainly use this thread when they are feeling down and need someone to talk to who understands and has been through something similar.

Some people come back near their scan dates, due dates or other events which bring back memories. It gives an outlet for someone grieving to talk honestly and openly without being judged - and a lot of the other users will have gone through the exact same feelings at some point.

I don't ever think there is a cut off point, and certainly everyone is always welcomed on here as it were. (altho we all wish the thread was empty)

I had a mmc/molar pregnancy in May 2012 and a chemical pregnancy earlier this year, so I mainly pop back on here to see if there is anyone who I might be able to help - as so many people helped and supported me during my darkest times.

When I was ready to TTC again, I joined the regular thread. I did post and fret about complications and further miscarriages on that thread and there were others on there who understood and had been through it too, and the others were probably beautifully naïve about it all - I don't mean that in a bad way.

Prior to my miscarriage and struggles to TTC I just >so< didn't understand any of it. I didn't understand how hard it was and how bleak it seemed at times - and at the start of my journey if anyone else had said they were struggling to TTC or had miscarried etc I would have felt bad for them - but it wouldn't have made me worry for my own journey or anything as I just presumed everything would be ok and that bad things would happen to other people and not me. After bad things happened to me, I realised it would be nice to support and help others where I could.

I think this thread is invaluable. It helps so many people. Just carry on posting here for as long as you need to.

Lots of hugs to anyone who has had to join the thread recently or who is struggling xxx

ttc39

Hi abis - totally agree with your post - I was just worried about clogging it up if I were to post for too long iykwim x

msb5262

I agree with abis21 too - excellent post. This thread is a place for everyone whether they have a threatened miscarriage, a chemical pregnancy, a missed miscarriage or a later loss...it's great to get everyone's input and I think the thread has given support to many people. It's very sad that it should be needed at all.
Thanks again to portsmouthali for starting the thread.
Love to all
MsB

BadlyWrittenPoem

ttc39 wrote: »

We had a boy and a girl name sorted too... Now think if we are e re lucky enough to have a baby born would it be disloyal to still use those planned names?

I don't think it is disloyal. When our baby died, we gave her a different name which we liked and felt fitted the circumstances and we then used the name we had originally planned for our rainbow baby but with a different middle name which is a reference to her being after loss.