Miscarriage support

claire16c

I think that's a great post abi.

I sometimes pop back on here now because I see people asking questions that I now unfortunately can answer.

And to be honest even though I'm pregnant now in some ways it makes me think more about my mc than ever before. I also liked it when people who had gone on to have babies posted as it showed me light at the end of the tunnel.

So post whatever you like ttc39! X

Toooldforthis

Still waiting for af ... still negative test .....grrrr

Hugs to everyone x

please-let-me-be-lucky

Agree with everything above, and ttc you post as much as you need to! It's not about clogging up the thread it's about getting help and support. In some ways, keeping the thread active means it can be found easily if, unfortunately, someone new needs it.

Feel free to skip the next bit if it's too much info.

I panicked earlier. I'm losing lots of blood stained discharge, quite jelly like. My first thought was :eek: they didn't get everything out like last time, but then it dawned on my that I'm probably ovulating and the heavy ewcm is bringing out the last of the blood. I feel really weird about this and can't really get my head around it. In one way it feels like my body is betraying the twins, moving on so quickly to try for the next baby. In another I'm pleased it's getting back on track after the trauma. I feel quite mixed and down but not entirely sure why. Xx

PS, in answer to the "where we all are" topic, I'm from Newcastle, although you may already know that from the info beside my user name.

samtoby

I think we can keep coming back here anytime and that is what makes it so good. I am glad its here for me and all us girls (and guys maybe who come for their OH's.) I am so glad it was started.

PLMBL - I had some blood staining for a while with some discharge before it all stopped. My EWCM was later than ovulation this time. I know I ovulated as I had my typical signs as well as positive ovulation tests but it has to be said maybe EWCM only falls down into your pants a day or so later. I don't know. Usually I get EWCM on ovulation exactly so it was a bit later. But today I have egg white discharge which I haven't had before in this quantity! Blinking bodies.

PLMBL - don't feel that your body is betraying the twins. Concentrate on the fact that your body is getting better after the turmoil its been through. Hugs. Must be nasty to see it all again.

P.S I am in sunny Bournemouth and yes it is sunny!

Metranil_Vavin

I pop in to this thread too as it was such a support to me in the early days when I was going through my first mc in 2010.

I couldn't see anyway through my grief and sadness at the time, and thought I'd never hold my own baby. It was such a comfort to be reading similar stories from other ladies going through similar feelings.

If it helps anyone, I now have 2 beautiful children, my son was conceived about 2 months after my mc. I was terrified through the whole pregnancy, and convinced I wouldn't get to hold my baby..but I did.

With my second child (who was only born 12 days ago), I suffered 2 chemical pregnancies before her, and again fretted that I would hold my second baby (being 40 I worried I'd left it all too late), but despite some early bleeding which sent me into a spiral of panic, she was fine.

I don't know if any of that comforts or helps, but suffice to say I was so low after my mc, I could never see a day I'd have 2 little one's.

I'm in London btw.

Hugs and love to all that need them x

Lara44

Hi MV

Congrats on the birth of your new baby! That's lovely news. I am a bit in the same place you describe. My PhD deadline looming which I think is exacerbating those feelings a lot. Especially as I have not much to look forward to except unemployment! It is good to hear positive stories. I hope Samtoby that we will all be having our BFPs together, that would be so nice.

TTC39 - I hope you have fun at the wedding tonight

Samtoby - I got the first 2 thyroid blood tests back and they are ok. Just waiting on the antibodies one like you - they must have a backlog or something. Hope our final results are good.

PLMBL - I felt the same when I saw OV about 2 weeks later. It is getting easier now I have had my first AF and second OV. (((((Hugs to you)))))

I haven't been drinking either. Any time I do I really blub. But tonight we are off out to a burger bar and I am so excited about naughty food and a nice G&T.

I'm in London too.

Hope you are doing okay Rosie.

samtoby

Thank you Metranil Vavin. That means so much to hear you have two lovely babies. But I am sorry for the heartache you have had to endure.

A few people have mentioned Chemical pregnancies - what are these?x

samtoby

Cross posted Lara - Hope you have a great night out. I am just about to have a sausage sandwich before heading down the beach to walk the dog and watch some planes as we have an airshow here on the seafront.

hugs to all xx

Metranil_Vavin

Thank you Lara and Sam. It can be hard to look beyond your grief when you are going through a mc, but hopeful and positive stories from other people really helped me at the time.

A chemical pregnancy is a very early mc. To be honest they have only really come to light in times when very early pregnancy tests are able to tell you days before your period is due if you are pregnant.

Sadly many of these very early pregnancies do not develop past the fertilisation stage, so despite getting a BFP on a HPT, bleeding often starts and the HPT turns negative

They are heartbreaking as you get your longed for BFP, but it only lasts a few days. I had one last September and then another one in October. I was beside myself, and the GP I spoke to was so unsympathetic.

I think I learned that testing early is not a good thing to do, as if a pregnancy isn't to be, I'd rather not know about it and just get my AF and be none the wiser. It is hard when there are tests like the First Response ones that can tell you 4 days early, and the temptation to POAS is so strong when you are desperate to know, but from my bitter experience, the sadness of a BFP that turns into a BFN in a few days, just isn't worth not having to wait a few extra days to test.

Apparently some women are 'too fertile' and their bodies try to fertilise and implant all embryo's, whether they are viable or not.

please-let-me-be-lucky

MV congratulations on your new arrival and having 2 lovely children now. Even better that you have one pink and one blue!!

Thank you for the kind words Sam and Lara. I honestly don't know why it has upset me so much, but I can't shake it. I think last time it had 'dragged on' for 3 months, so when I ov'd/had a normal AF it was somewhat of a relief, but this time it all seems so quick. There is also part of me that wants to use the opportunity to get pregnant again but sensibly I won't because I want to have all the tests done etc first. I don't want to set myself up for another fall.

I hope everyone has a lovely evening, be it watching planes, partying, or if you are sad like me, watching xfactor!!! Xx