Miscarriage support

Toooldforthis

Morn how is everyone doing ? X

please-let-me-be-lucky

Hope you feel better today TOFT. It's early days as you say to be making any decisions one way or the other. I hope you and OH can agree on a conclusion.

Today should have been my due date. I cried lots last week in the build up but have only had a few tears this morning. We decided not to try again for a while and I was happy with that decision, but today I just wish I was pregnant again!

claire16c

How are you doing tofy?

Please let me be lucky really sorry for today.

I've got about 7 weeks til my due date & am currently fighting off tears as got a bfn this morning. So only one chance left now for a bfp before it which I guess I assumed back in December I'd have by now.

Toooldforthis

Hugs to you both .... this miscarriage has hit me so so much harder than the previous ones.... I feel like im in limbo not pregnant but still haven't decided if I want to try again which previously gave me hope.... age is not in my favour and the fact at the mo I wish my OH would just disappear I can't bear him at the mo which saddens me so much but I cant help it....
I know I'm waffling but does that make any sense ????.

tea_lover

Makes perfect sense toft xx.

When my OH's out I'm desperate for him to come home (not usual for me lol) but within minutes we're arguing about something again & I just wish he'd p off.

fran-o

Having a bit of a blue day, just logged in and read through... tea lover, too old - so sorry you're having a rubbish time at the moment, will be thinking of you both.
claire16c - Im in a similar place to you in terms of timing, coming up to my would-have-been due date, totally thought I'd be pregnant again by now, really sad that I'm not. Trying not to focus on 'trying' as it puts pressure on us and makes us anxious, but so want to feel like we did 6 months ago when we got our positive...
A close friend had her baby a few weeks ago, it didn't surprise me that it upset me, and yesterday got tearful again at the shops trying to choose a baby gift. When baby was born I had a tearful weekend and hubby was quite harsh about it, not very understanding at all. But in the end we talked lots and that was good, we both felt better after even though it was horrible at the time. I think sometimes I expect hubby to understand how I feel but I can't expect that understanding if I don't talk to him...
Anyway, yesterday he went to the states on business for 5 days and I miss him already

just_trying

First big hugs to tea and toft, and everyone else who needs them.

I am going to write this post, but my heart feels like it's breaking just doing it. I sadly had a mc last week at 9 weeks and don't think I will get over it. I had only told 2 people my OH and another forum user. My OH Is being great, really supportive but I can't stop crying and feel so depressed. I do have 3 other kids so I know I am lucky, but the pain is unbearable. I am trying to be strong in front of the kids, but I feel like crying. I feel short tempered towards other people aswell, one example was in the supermarket and lady was going through the back, I must have been slightly in her way but didn't realise she shouts mind your back, wouldn't normally bother me but I quickly turned around and said I think the word your looking for is excuse me. My OH was shocked but understood it's just not me.

I honestly don't think I will try again, I've got 3 and feel I need to be grateful for what I've got.

Thanks to anyone who reads and big hugs to you all xx. I just hope it gets easier and I haven't upset anyone xxx.

lilymay1

Just Trying - Just because you have 3 other children doesn't mean you should feel any less pain than someone who has doesn't have any. Don't apologise for feeling hurt and upset. And for what it's worth - your comment to the rude woman at the supermarket was totally acceptable whether or not you were feeling upset. Good on you.

Big hugs to all those with due dates coming up. My DS was born 6 days after my DD and although at the time I thought it would help to be pregnant again, the anniversary of her death was horrendous. I went to Dunelm Mill with my mum to try and keep busy but was a blubbing mess the entire time. One of my friends sent me a picture of her grave because they had been to put flowers on it and I just got hysterical. It really was awful. I suppose that anniversary is a little different to a due date one, but I do understand the pain. I am so so thankful we got pregnant again quite quickly after she died. Had we suffered with the secondary infertility we have this time I think I would probably have killed myself.

I can't imagine not wanting to try again, so you ladies who are stuck in limbo really do have my sympathy. I hope you are able to come to a decision that you feel at peace with

Lily xx

TeamLowe

Just trying all the love in the world to you, take good care of yourself, sounds like you're in good hands with your partner

Please don't feel like you should feel any less pain because you already have children, a loss is a loss no matter what and you're entitle to every part of your grief

Lots of love for those approaching due dates- it's so hard to think of the world as it should have been.

My angel would have been nearly eighteen months now. Instead I'm all but giving up on the idea of having my own children and feel like the pregnancy was just the cruellest of jokes- to show me so much happiness then take it all away again, replaced with deep despair and now seemingly no chance of ever feeling like that again.

Oof. Not said that before. now I need some chocolate x

tea_lover

TeamLowe, good luck finding some chocolate...I think I've eaten all of cadbury's output