Miscarriage support

Toooldforthis

I think last night lasted about 200 hrs! No sleep for me :-(
Can leave here in an hour and I hope I'm early on the list x

any_name_will_suffice

Thinking of you today TOFT xx

TeamLowe

Thinking of you toft, hope today goes smoothly x x

Budget_Budd my niece is nearly one now, and she has been a source of comfort and unbelievable joy to me x

Toooldforthis

Sitting in a side room waiting to be called x

Part_Mouse

Hugs toft thinking of you xx

Metranil_Vavin

TOFT - lots of love coming your way.

xx

tea_lover

TOFT – thinking of you and your OH today. I hope it all goes ok and you’re back home soon x.

Budget_Budd – big hugs x.

Thank you for all the lovely replies the other day ladies, it really is a massive help to hear from people who get it. I think that’s the main problem with OH, he just can’t get his head around the fact it was ever real. And I can’t get my head around how he can think that when he's been to that many appts with the FS, when he listened to me whinging about injections for a month, when he was there at the hospital for EC and ET, when he spoke to embryologists, when he saw the +ve tests...

He’s never really ‘done’ grief. Even when people really close to him have died (young relative, close friends) he’s obviously been upset. But then it’s like he can turn it off and just move on. Whether he actually does that, or it’s just that his way of coping is to not think about things I’ve never found out!

He has apologised for not handling things better, which is a start I guess. Things between us aren’t too bad atm, although I’m pretty sure that would change if I mentioned IVF again.

Have had an ok few days but struggling again today (I blame work!) I just have no patience with anybody. The woman I work with (who annoys me at the best of times) has been moaning for the last hour about how her dog had to go to the vets over the weekend. I realise I sound like a heartless b.itch, and I realise that pets become part of the family, I do get that. But seriously, she’s been crying for an hour about this trip to the vets… part of me wants to scream at her to !!!!!!, to tell her I’ve just lost my longed-for ivf babies and that THAT is something to cry about. But I will continue biting my lip. It doesn’t help that our scan should have been this Thursday, the closer we get to the date the worse it seems to be. If it’s this bad with a scan date I dread to think what the due date will be like (Christmas day – great timing).

Wow, what another epic rant…. can you tell that this thread is fast becoming my therapy?!

claire16c

TOFY - thinking of you this morning.

I hope you are early on the list as that's what you want.

When I was at the hospital because they would only let my DH come in at a certain time I wanted to be near the end of the list as I didn't want to go down until Id seen him, but they put me near the start as there was a cancellation, but another lady wanted to get it over with, so she heard me asking to be moved later, and she said shed swap with me. So keep your ears open just incase something like that happens.

Tea lover - ugh yes when someone whinges about stuff like that its not easy to deal with. The mile stone dates are really hard too. I tried to forget which 'week' I would be, but the due date is approaching for me now and I don't have much hope of being pregnant before then and at the time I convinced myself that was how I would deal with it..

do you think your OH would go for another round of IVF if you pushed for it?

tea_lover

claire16c wrote: »

do you think your OH would go for another round of IVF if you pushed for it?

I really don't know. At the moment he's very much not keen, whether he'd come round I just don't know.

He says it's too much of a gamble, which is really infuriating as ok, the odds aren't great. But we know that if we don't try the odds of it happening naturally are absolutely miniscule... so surely the low IVF odds are still better than that?!

He also really pee'd me off the other night by telling me about his friend's sister's hairdresser's cousin's next-door neighbour who tried IVF 7 times then stopped and got pg straight away. :mad::mad: Great for them. I'm sure some people do just relax and it happens. But when there's hardly any ovulation, even less working sperm, and we've been trying for 4 years without a sniff of a bfp I think we can safely rule out miracle conception.

claire16c

tea_lover wrote: »

I really don't know. At the moment he's very much not keen, whether he'd come round I just don't know.

He says it's too much of a gamble, which is really infuriating as ok, the odds aren't great. But we know that if we don't try the odds of it happening naturally are absolutely miniscule... so surely the low IVF odds are still better than that?!

He also really pee'd me off the other night by telling me about his friend's sister's hairdresser's cousin's next-door neighbour who tried IVF 7 times then stopped and got pg straight away. :mad::mad: Great for them. I'm sure some people do just relax and it happens. But when there's hardly any ovulation, even less working sperm, and we've been trying for 4 years without a sniff of a bfp I think we can safely rule out miracle conception.

Yeah those type of stories annoy me tbh because I just think well there's probably someone else for whom it never worked, you know? You can plan on a miracle happening!

Also I think there's a difference in that some people have explained reasons for infertility and some don't. If you've been told there is something missing its hard to be positive about that! You can relax all you like but physically stuff still has to work.

I'm just at the drs for my cd21 blood tests. A ton of spare seats & a lady has sat right next to me. Let's hope she's not contagious!!