Miscarriage support

Greener_Grass

So sorry any name I hope they can get to the bottom of the bleeding and get it sorted for you soon xxx

Passed my baby today. Horrible just horrible. In some ways I'm glad it's over (as in I don't have it to dread anymore) but in others I am beyond devestated as it has made it more real. The experience is horrible not to mention the awful cramps. It's left me feeling very angry at the way I was just sent home to get on with it no painkillers nothing

msb5262

Greener_Grass wrote: »

So sorry any name I hope they can get to the bottom of the bleeding and get it sorted for you soon xxx

Passed my baby today. Horrible just horrible. In some ways I'm glad it's over (as in I don't have it to dread anymore) but in others I am beyond devestated as it has made it more real. The experience is horrible not to mention the awful cramps. It's left me feeling very angry at the way I was just sent home to get on with it no painkillers nothing

Very sorry for your loss. I'm not surprised you feel that way

Best wishes

MsB x

threemuttleys

Well...I havent been back to update. Really need to.

Friday, about 5 I started bleeding heavily, passing huge clots. Got to around 9pm, and the bleeding was really heavy...I did pass out for a bit.

q, mad tush to a and e, where it turned out I had lost almost 2 pts on blood. Ended up staying in over night, with various drips running into my arm.

Im still bleeding a little, the scan they did showed all the major stuff had gone.

Now, its just the emotional stuff I have to deal with..if I could stop crying for a whole day I could deal with that.

I just want to say to those ladies who have or are having a mc, ((hugs)) and if you need to chat, then this thread/forum is the place and bigger thanks to the ladies who have posted on this thread before hand

any_name_will_suffice

Greenergrass and threemuttleys- sorry for both of you for the traumatic time you've had. I hope the bleeding stops soon so you can get some closure xx

I haven't heard anything about my "emergency scan" yet, good job it's not really a medical emergency or I would probably be dead by now!

I joke, but I am terrified of getting an infection that leaves me with complications. I keep taking my temperature in case it's high enough to justify going via the a and e route, at least then I might be in the system.

My best friend is 19 weeks pg, she found out just after my loss in November, and I know she put off telling me until I asked her outright if she was pregnant. I was texting her today and asked if she has felt the baby moving, turns out she has since last week. I feel really sad she didn't feel she could tell me, I don't want her walking on egg shells around me, just because my head is a shed! And I don't want this to come between us, she's like my sister and we 've always told each other everything.

Work have been really suportive again, when I told them I would have to go and have another scan ( this will be my third mc since the summer)- I'm sure they must think me and OH are at it like rabbits! :rotfl:

labrydog

I just wanted to say to all those going through this and those of you who are now out the other side - I really do offer my deepest sympathies.

My favourite card said: "Deeply saddened on the loss of your beloved child" - It comforted me so much that someone recognised I'd had a child, not an operation.

No-one knows exactly how you feel, they have never lost YOUR child. But many are well meaning so try (hard as it is) to take things in the spirit meant. NOTHING will ever replace "Puddles" to me, but time is a healer and this last December was the first anniversary in four years that I didn't cry my heart out as soon as I woke up.

Puddles - I will always remember seeing your heart beat . I will not forget.

fran-o

Just popping in to say hello after a bit of a break from the boards. Labrydog, thanks for the lovely words. So sorry to hear about the recent losses. Be kind to yourselves ladies.

My loss was in October, ERPC November, got through December on the good christmas vibes, found January totally depressing like a step backwards in terms of mental health. Hubby and I had a get away earlier this month (I gatecrashed his work trip to the States!) which was a big boost, but I'm still up and down. We're really only just starting to to try for a baby again with enthusiasm rather than sadness.
Had a great day out (lunch and a museum) on Saturday with two girlfriends - one is pregnant. Despite a lovely day I felt like I had to 'hold it together' all day and I burst into tears when I walked back through the front door.
Still waiting for appointment from work counsellor but hope to hear this week...
Big hugs all round xx

Angel9876

Hi, I've been lurking - had a miscarriage at 20 weeks in september, and another early one last week.

Been to the counselling that they offer and thought I was ok, but obviously last week has thrown me again.
My mother has just 'accidentally' told me that my sister is expecting. Due in Sept.

I think I might be over reacting, but feel really annoyed that she let that piece of information 'slip out'. She claimed it was an accident but I could see in her face that it wasn't. I'm still bleeding from my m/c, and feel that she could have waited to tell me that my sis is expecting. I feel gutted all over again - our babies could have been close in age etc.

Would you lot feel the same, or am i turning into a deranged lady who is hyper sensitive about babies? It feels like everywhere I look someone is pregnant/had a baby. I know that there is a baby boom on at the moment, but this is rediculous!

Greener_Grass

huge hugs, i would find that really really difficult. its bad enough having someone online who you know who is due when you were but your own sister that sucks id say your feelings are perfectly normal and i'm afraid I don't know what to suggest

i find it interesting you were offered councelling, i have had two loses now and never been offered anything, just been left to get on with it, i assumed this was normal.

so sorry to hear of your losses,, wish i had something positive to say but i'm afraid I don't. Take care of yourself, it may get easier with time xxx

shelley_crow

so sorry to hear of recent losses, it's so heartbreaking. I had an early miscarriage before christmas (not sure exactly how far along I was when it happened but it was picked up at 12 week scan) and not only do do you lose the baby, you lose all immediate hopes and plans you made for the future.

Must sympathise on the subject of insensitive relatives and friends. I can understand that dealing with a grieving person must be quite daunting but would you ask a woman having a miscarriage, "what's it like?" Said question came from a friend who is a nurse, I told her to go and look in her textbooks for the answer to that one! Said friend is now pregnant and has scan pics all over facebook, she text me a few hours later to tell me. I'm happy for her and know she didn't do it to rub it in my face but it kind of feels like it. Will be deactivating facebook, not strong enough to deal with it yet. Can't help like i'm being petty, is that stupid?

Love to all, it does get better in time, even though it doesn't feel like it at the moment. x

TeamLowe

Angel9876- if it helps i was given the news of my sister's pregnancy in the most delicate way possible- they even brought me cake!- but i still cried for about a week over it. it's so hard because it just brings back all those feelings of loss and the questions of why me and why is it so easy for them?

In time you'll come to terms with it and start looking forward to a little niece or nephew. my niece is eight months now and we utterly adore her. not that it doesn't sometimes make my heart ache when her face lights up at her mummy

and there's nothing to say that you won't still have your child close in age to their cousin, they'll just be younger.