Miscarriage support

McRach_2

*Newbie Alert*
I've been reading through many of the threads throughout these forums and just wanted to say what a great thread you've made and how lovely it is to see everyone comforting and supporting each other in such difficult times. Unfortunately i had my 2nd MC at the beginning of the month at exactly 6weeks. I had seen the Dr the day before and booked into the midwife, i almost feel like i 'jinxed' myself.
I'll be back later as i'm being rushed out now, many thought are with all of you x

TeamLowe

Sorry to hear of your loss McRach x

McRach_2

Angel9876 wrote: »

Hi, I've been lurking - had a miscarriage at 20 weeks in september, and another early one last week.

Been to the counselling that they offer and thought I was ok, but obviously last week has thrown me again.
My mother has just 'accidentally' told me that my sister is expecting. Due in Sept.

I think I might be over reacting, but feel really annoyed that she let that piece of information 'slip out'. She claimed it was an accident but I could see in her face that it wasn't. I'm still bleeding from my m/c, and feel that she could have waited to tell me that my sis is expecting. I feel gutted all over again - our babies could have been close in age etc.

Would you lot feel the same, or am i turning into a deranged lady who is hyper sensitive about babies? It feels like everywhere I look someone is pregnant/had a baby. I know that there is a baby boom on at the moment, but this is rediculous!

Ohh no it's definitely not just you, at the moment there are 5 pregnant ladies around me and it's heartbreaking! 2 of them i work with, one being my boss who is only a year older than me who i see everyday! The other pregnant one announced it to the whole world when she was 4 weeks and i just wanted to shake her and make her realise that anything can happen in the first 3 months, i also find it ridiculous that when she told people she was expecting, every person asked her who the father was :eek: I have no words of advice only to say that i'm sure so many on here understand how you feel and that we're all struggling, at least you have a place you can vent and not be judged so to speak x

msb5262

Hi McRach,
I saw your post on the TTC thread - glad you have found this thread as it's a good place if you need to vent, moan, cry or ask questions about miscarriage.
You must be having a hard time with pregnant women all round you...how is your OH doing?
MsB

claire16c

Hi Mcrach, its hard to hear when other people are pregnant isnt it.

I dont think I could bear it if one of my friends were to get pregnant at the moment.

I think its hard to feel like you havent jinxed yourself as whatever stage you loose a baby you are bound to have had some kind of appt or something, so you automatically think that, I know how you feel.

McRach_2

msb5262 wrote: »

Hi McRach,
I saw your post on the TTC thread - glad you have found this thread as it's a good place if you need to vent, moan, cry or ask questions about miscarriage.
You must be having a hard time with pregnant women all round you...how is your OH doing?
MsB

Hi There
There are so many lovely and supportive threads and people on here, wish i had found it sooner!!
Ohh it's most definitely hard, especially more so this week as my first week back after the MC and seeing how much my boss has progressed, i suppose the only way i can ignore it is by getting even more involved with the children.
He's not one for sharing really, keeps it quiet and to himself, i talk to him about it and try to get him to open up but it's like getting blood from a stone. I often ask my mum to chat to him if i'm out of the room when visiting but he's not having any of it! We all have our own ways of coping, maybe this is his yet i sometime get the feeling that he just thinks " we got PG once we can do it again" Exasperating

msb5262

McRach wrote: »

He's not one for sharing really, keeps it quiet and to himself, i talk to him about it and try to get him to open up but it's like getting blood from a stone. I often ask my mum to chat to him if i'm out of the room when visiting but he's not having any of it! We all have our own ways of coping, maybe this is his yet i sometime get the feeling that he just thinks " we got PG once we can do it again" Exasperating

Sorry to hear that. I think men are often keen to keep it all on a strictly factual and/or mechanical level...they find it very hard when women are emotionally stricken by losses. Maybe your OH is sharing his feelings with a mate..who knows? They like to do it their own way!
How are you doing yourself?

McRach_2

msb5262 wrote: »

How are you doing yourself?

I'm up and down. I can be fine and dandy then the next minute i just want to be by myself and cry. Upon finding out about my PG i came off my anti-depressants cold turkey so that's most probably playing a factor too

msb5262

Oh McRach - another factor to make this a hard time for you. Make sure you talk to your GP about your meds so at least they know what's happening with you.
Hope you're having a reasonable weekend and that you can share some of this stuff with RL friends.
Look after yourself
MsB x

McRach_2

msb5262 wrote: »

Oh McRach - another factor to make this a hard time for you. Make sure you talk to your GP about your meds so at least they know what's happening with you.
Hope you're having a reasonable weekend and that you can share some of this stuff with RL friends.
Look after yourself
MsB x

I'm hoping to stay off them now *fingers crossed* but yes, it's not great for my already unpredictable mood.

My lovely OH had arranged a surprise for this weekend as it's my 'birthday weekend' (not actual til Tuesday) and had 2 friends come stay that we haven't seen for 2years so that's been a lovely distraction.
They left today so me and OH are just watching a film together *when i log off* and doing the 'relaxing thing'

Hope your weekend has been pleasant x x