Miscarriage support

Metranil_Vavin

Hugs abis, I found my GP kind of brushed off the whole CP thing too as if it wasn't important as it was so early, that really got up my nose.

Sadly I've not found much sympathy with any of my mc's from the medical world. The woman who scanned me and informed me about my first mc at 9 weeks was totally devoid of any sympathy or kindness.

It didn't help that she was heavily pregnant herself. I know depts in the NHS are short staffed, but seriously..is it right to stick a 8-odd months pregnant woman in EPU to deliver bad news to other women??

Glad you are feeling more positive anyway, good to be optimisitc , and I have read that you are more fertile after a mc.

an9i77

Metranil_Vavin wrote: »

Hugs abis, I found my GP kind of brushed off the whole CP thing too as if it wasn't important as it was so early, that really got up my nose.

Sadly I've not found much sympathy with any of my mc's from the medical world. The woman who scanned me and informed me about my first mc at 9 weeks was totally devoid of any sympathy or kindness.

It didn't help that she was heavily pregnant herself. I know depts in the NHS are short staffed, but seriously..is it right to stick a 8-odd months pregnant woman in EPU to deliver bad news to other women??

Glad you are feeling more positive anyway, good to be optimisitc , and I have read that you are more fertile after a mc.

MV, regarding the sonographer, they probably couldn't move her when she was pregnant as this would fall foul of employment law - you cannot discriminate in pregnancy for any reason. I agree it sucks but there was prob nothing the hospital could have done about it. I saw that programme about the IVF clinic, one of the doctors was visibly pregnant and it must have been hard for patients to deal with her.

Metranil_Vavin

I think I possibly wouldn't have minded so much if she had, had an ounce of empathy for me.

I guess it might have been difficult for her too, but she was just so annoying. Whilst I was in the waiting room packed with other worried and upset looking women, she was loudly whining at the receptionists that she wasn't being able to go off on maternity leave on the day she wanted.

skintchick

Hugs MV, that's rubbish.

Abis - I found that the medical profession refused to acknowledge my "chemical" pregnancy. My GP said "oh are you counting that?" when I wanted referral for investigations, and the clinic wouldn't see me until I'd had three "recognised" miscarriages.

Which just makes it all the harder IMO.

Rest assured that on here, WE count and acknowledge your loss.xxxxx

abis21

With my mmc, every single person I saw was amazing and so sensitive. I had 2 sonographers, 1 consultant on EPU, and around 10 different staff members for the ERPC (I think I had more attention/complications due to the molar pregnancy aspect). I can't praise them highly enough to be honest - they all did an amazing job.

The doc yesterday was a bit of a dick tho - it has to be said.

I didn't think they'd recognise it Skinty I don't think my blood HCG levels will be high enough to 'prove' that I was pregnant.

I know you all understand tho. Its so good to have this board as an outlet for feelings amongst others who understand. Even tho it sucks that you all understand

claire16c

I think I must have been really lucky in that everyone I came across was lovely at the hospital.

Abi I hope you can get it put down on your notes, maybe take the pregnancy tests in if you have to?

MoneySavingMamma

I do hope they count it Abis! I dont understand why not, if your had a positive test, and it didnt turn into a successful pregnancy, then its just more evidence you need assistance!

Bloods taken today, no scan. Waiting for call with results.
Waiting, waiting, waiting!

Just want to get on with trying again now! No more bleeding since Mon. No pains, nothing. But i cant work out where the baby has gone?!
Test lines got darker, so not just tlp.
But only had spotting, not even a period!
1-2hrs left. :-/

GG are your bloods tomorrow? We seem to be in the exact same situation! Odds are one of us will have good news?

MoneySavingMamma

Less than an hour to go, but very impatient! Just did a cheapy & its a bit darker than before, i'd say 75% as dark as test line!
If all my trouble started a week ago, how come I'm testing so strong positive?!
I dint know what i want results to be, if HGC is up, then theres a good chance of ectopic, so more worry, tests and prodding. But it could be a yickle wickle babba, just hiding!?

If down then its count down the days until jumping in sack!

(Im trying my hardest not to feel any sadness/upset, cried too much last time!!)

msb5262

MSM, it's impossible to imagine what you're feeling like - what a situation. I wish you all the very best and will keep my fingers crossed for you.
MsB x

Greener_Grass

abis i really hope they could this as a loss as that is what it is. Seems very wrong not to count it how are you coping today? how is your husband?

Sorry for all the waiting MSM, i totally understand how you feel and its pants! I really hope its just an ickle baby hiding in there, i hope i get a medal if im right? if your anything like me its a hard place to be in without any definative answers, i cried after my first blood test results when the dr told me basically my baby was dead but haven't cried since. I find it hard to be upset when the situation is so unsure, i'd imagine things are the same with you. Hope time goes quickly and you get a good result xx

I'm not having any more blood tests, having another scan but not until next thursday so another 8 days of waiting for me. I keep feeling happy and positive then over analyse something and panic and feel dread. I was feeling all happy and positive till i remembered getting 2-3 on a digi on the tuesday so that doesn't seem possible that my dates were so wrong based on that apparently 2-3 appears after hcg 200+ but if my levels were only 753 8 days later it doesn't sound right. my head is messed up.

Just had a parcel from my mother who's having a nervous breakdown just now and its full of weird stuff from charity shops, Instantly made me stress even more as she is being let out of hospital to buy all this stuff. my life seems to be one big ball of stress. Can't wait till my husband comes home from work so i can go to sleep and block out the real world and pretend everythings ok