Miscarriage support

msb5262

Hello mv

I've always read the TTC thread and now the under 12 weeks thread, just to see how you're all doing, and I really wanted to PM you and Penny in the last week or two as it's been so awful for you.

Didn't feel I could as I didn't "know" you, but you have both been in my thoughts a lot....hold on and you will get there.

Don't be too brave - you probably feel all cried out at the moment but don't be scared to cry some more. Eventually all will be well.

I think one day in the future, your body will know and you'll know too when it's all meant to be, so best of luck.

MsB x

Metranil_Vavin

Thanks msb...really kind of you.

My PMA will be back in force soon.

OH and I are going to go out for the day tomorrow just to treat ourselves and get out of the house. A change of scene is definitely in order. I've been couped up for the last 2 weeks.

SUESMITH_2

i found the miscariage association a great help. many years ago now, but you never forget.

my friends also bought me trashy magazines, flowers and cooked for me - i was so greatful for what they did for me

Metranil_Vavin

does anyone know if it is ok for me to have a glass of wine this evening or should I lay off it till everything is gone?

Lauralou

MV i personally wouldnt know. I had my first glass of wine at the weekend as ttc is on hold and oh my i felt tipsy after one:rotfl:

Just want to say thanks to everyone for sharing your experience, i do find it comforting to know that people have gone to have a baby after having a miscarriage.

billybobberyl

hi all im sorry that there even needs to be a thread like this but as many of us know its a part of life.
i had my a m/c in nov and we are currently ttc again but i still have days of terrible sadness and i do find talking about it helps somewhat.
as awful as it is to think that others are suffering too its also in an odd way a comfort as i feel less to blame, it truly is one of those things.
sorry if that seems insensitive.
i too think the ttc thread is great but do feel i should only discuss the ttc now not the m/c and this is great so ty portsmouthali x

ladylegs

Ali What an inspired idea for a thread.

MV I think you deserve a glass - and if it is red, well, it is good for circulation after all!

It is one month exactly since my really quick miscarriage. Bleeding for one entire day, symptoms departed quickly and everything was gone, just like that. It's obviously nowhere near as bad as some of your experiences (hugs and thoughts to all x)but I felt pregnant and then just empty. I have been generally okay but I still don't like to look at pregnant women or see mums and babies as it is stil too raw. We'll get there and we'll cherish them because we know what it feels like to lose them.

Caroline73_2

I just wanted to send hugs to you ladies - it's a horrible thing to happen. Don't forget the OH's though as they are grieving too. when I had mine, everyone ran around fussing after me but said things to my hubby like 'make sure you look after her' etc. I was physically not right but we were both emotionally shattered.

My experience was an unplanned but much wanted pregnancy. I hada bit of spotting and then an empty sac at 10 week scan, I had a D&C but they didn't get everything and I miscarried at home a week later. I fell pregnant again 3 months later and had my 20 week scan the same week I should have given birth. Everything went really well with that pregnancy and little man is four now.

money_saving_diva

Thank you for starting this thread.

I had a missed miscarriage in April 09. I was devestated. We have a son, which I had the perfect no problem pregnancy with. When I got pregnant again I was just so excited and I had all the same symtoms as the last pregnancy. I even had loads of sickness. I had no bleeding at all. We got to the 12 week scan to be told the baby had died at 8 weeks. I didn't even know missed miscarriages happen with no warning. Our lives were turned upside down. I opted for an ERPC 2 days later because I felt I didn't want to bleed or see anything (if you understand).

I can honestly say that the mmc is the hardest thing I have ever gone through in my life. We are still not over it and I don't think we ever will.

It took us a few months to get pregnant again. I am now due in June. I have worried so much during this pregnancy. I worry about everything and I feel guilty for the amount I worry.

I must say the miscarriage association website was very helpful.

Mokeyjen whatever you do for your friend will be appricaited. I just wanted to say though the most important thing you can do is be there for her to just talk (if she wants to). She won't probably feel like she can just bring the subject up so ask her if she would like to chat. Most people I know didn't know what to say and so said nothing - this is hard to deal with as you think no one cares but instead they are just worried they will say the wrong thing but saying anything is better than ignoring the fact your friend is grieving for her baby. Only one of my friends really asked me if I was ok and how I was coping. (All said they were sorry etc got me flowers, but no one wanted to actually let me talk about it with them because they found it hard but i found it hard that no one discussed it at all)

Big hugs to all the ladies that have been through miscarriages.

ManOnTheMoon

elliebobs wrote: »

Thank you MOTM for your kind words.

I too am a regular poster on the TTC thread and suffered a M/C in December so am in limbo here really as not ready to TTC just yet so can't post there and also don't want to bring the thread down for the newbies.

Experience wise...It was our first experience at PG and I thought all was well until I went for a scan at 8 weeks to be told that no heartbeat was present and all growth had stopped at the 5/6 week mark. We/I opted for medical management as I wanted to avoid surgery however it was not effective so ended up having surgery anyway which was effective. However, this meant that the entire process took around 8 long long weeks.

Devastated isn't the word to describe that moment but...it really does get easier although I still have bad days.

Luckily, my EPU and my super lovely OH were absolutely fantastic which I'm sure helped the healing process.

LL; I'm so sorry, I didn't realise you had M/C. x

I'm sorry for your experience too, and every other mother (and father) who have suffered in this way.

I feel privelidged to have never been through this, and a bit guilty as i've been so lucky, and wish you all well.