Miscarriage support

Leopardlady

Morning ladies,

So sorry you are going through such a tough time winnie, please take care of yourself (((((hugs)))))

Tinks sorry you are still getting +tests, maybe you should head back to the doc to have a blood test to see what level you are at, then you can hopefully see when it will all be sorted.

I asked to see someone about everything but my gp said they will not take us as we have only had 2 mc, but he will organise early scans for when we next get pg.

Take care everyone, i hope that today is a little better than yesterday

Metranil_Vavin

Morning all - Tinks I can so relate to the anger thing. I feel really annoyed when I see pregnant women and depressed watching things like the Jeremy Kyle show where so many wasters and bums seem to be able to pop kids out with no problems..half of them seem to regard their kids as an inconvenience :mad:..how is that fair???

I'm too scared to do a pregnancy test as seeing a positive when I know my baby has gone would just upset me all over again. My bleeding has stopped though, so hopefully when we go back to EPU next Wednesday we'll be given the all clear and we can start trying again. Not sure how 'sexy' either OH or myself feel at the moment though to get BD'ing

Winnie - so sorry to hear what an awful time you've been having. It's so unfair

Metranil_Vavin

In fact...can anyone tell me how they get back into BD'ing after a MC?

To be honest, OH and I can tend to be lazy about sex anyway, so I'm worrying a bit about us getting back on the bike, so to speak!

valkirn

Metranil_Vavin wrote: »

In fact...can anyone tell me how they get back into BD'ing after a MC?

To be honest, OH and I can tend to be lazy about sex anyway, so I'm worrying a bit about us getting back on the bike, so to speak!

Tbh hun i really dont think anyone can give you an answer to that, me and my oh are also lazy about sex but after the mc this time he was more worried of hurting me.

For us it started again after i had almost cried myself to sleep, and when he asked why i was crying and i just said in all honesty i just needed to feel close to him again, as close as i could humanly get, and we just went from there.

Now we are back at it if you like but for now its just a case of having it because we want it iygwim and no protection and if it happens it happens, which at the moment is unlikely as im coming up 11 weeks after the mc and still no af

Metranil_Vavin

Thanks V. I think there is so much pressure on us at the moment to get preg, I'd be suprised if OH could actually rise to the occasion!

Maybe we'll get back on it this weekend. I do just want to check with the hospital that there is no chance of infection if we have unprotected sex.

It just seems such a long road

ladylegs

Metranil_Vavin wrote: »

In fact...can anyone tell me how they get back into BD'ing after a MC?

To be honest, OH and I can tend to be lazy about sex anyway, so I'm worrying a bit about us getting back on the bike, so to speak!

Hi MV,
Well, once you've clawed some pma back- mine came pretty much after the angry phase you just mentioned, it felt like we were closer than ever because of the mc- sounds cheesy but the support he gave me was amazing and I just wanted his baby more than ever.
I'm optimistic again now but I could only have sex again once all the negative emotions had gone - the envy, guilt, sadness, anger etc...
Give it time and make sure you make love rather than "babydance" first.
I hope af returns soon for you x

valkirn

Metranil_Vavin wrote: »

Thanks V. I think there is so much pressure on us at the moment to get preg, I'd be suprised if OH could actually rise to the occasion!

Maybe we'll get back on it this weekend. I do just want to check with the hospital that there is no chance of infection if we have unprotected sex.

It just seems such a long road

Mv- I know its hard hun but try not to let anyone pressure you into anything, just take things at your own pace and if ppl ask just say it will happen when it happens xx

Mine came back after the angry period but then the why set in for me and it seemed harder to crawl out of it especially now that my afs are refusing to return, so roll on tomorrow when i have my blood tests and hopefully that will sead some light on things x

tinkwings

piratefairy wrote: »

oh tink i know how you feel, i couldn't talk to anyone about mine :S family still dont know now, OH at the time did, but he didn't want to talk about it - he's a great one for denial, and in the end it caused the breakdown of our relationship...
how are things with your OH? my advice would be to try and talk to him and be there for each other..

Thanks PF. Just back from doctors had to have blood tests as I am still testing + it may mean I need a further scan & another op. God I hope not. My doctor suggested the counselling service that the EPU provide so may give them a call today. I have been signed off for another week.

I just want to get away from this house & here, wish I could.

DH is supposed to be Day off today but has had to work this morning to finish TB tests (he is a vet) his job comes before everything. I wish i cold talk but just not ready to yet. I know he is and i feel like such a cow for not being able too and for feeling angry at him as one person who did not listen to me.

tinkwings

Metranil_Vavin wrote: »

Thanks V. I think there is so much pressure on us at the moment to get preg, I'd be suprised if OH could actually rise to the occasion!

Maybe we'll get back on it this weekend. I do just want to check with the hospital that there is no chance of infection if we have unprotected sex.

It just seems such a long road

MV are you going to ask when you can try again? At the EPU?

portsmouthali

Tinks, I did a test again today (as advised by the EPU) and it showed a very faint positive. Didn't realise how much it would upset me, but it really did so I know how you feel :sad: It really does hurt. I was told to take another one in a weeks time by which time it should be negative.

My bleeding has almost stopped now though which I'm very pleased about.

Winnie, how awful for you I can't imagine going through it a 3rd time, in fact the thought of being pregnant again absolutely terrifies me at the moment. Where I live, they won't refer you for tests until you've m/c'd 3 times, but my GP has said I could have early scans if we decide to try again.