Miscarriage support

gratefulforhelp_2

So sorry for your loss, mssas.

AmandaD28

msas I'm so so sorry you're going through this stay strong and big hugs

xxx

Metranil_Vavin

Hugs msas xx

Metranil_Vavin

Ali I'm glad to hear that the hospital were supportive.

Thinking of you x

portsmouthali

Sorry for your loss mssas xxx The physical pain is so awful, it really takes your breath away. Don't hesitate to contact your EPU if it gets too bad, they can prescribe some heavy duty painkillers to ease things for you. Hope the worst of the pain is over, take care of yourself xx

Nice to hear from you Susan, hope you're keeping well xx

Thanks MV, I know you're always thinking of me :hello:

GP I've had loads of internal scans where they've checked my fallopian tubes etc, but not as part of the recurrent miscarriage testing so hopefully they'll do that next time x

nikki_angel

Morning All,



I have read through the last dozen or so pages and want to send you all my heartfelt sympathy for your tough times. I am so sorry to bump this thread but I need advice. I recently got my positive on 1st July but had only been trying to conceive for 2 weeks so assumed I feel whilst on the pill. My last LMP was on 10/05/11. They scanned my on the 1st August and they saw a sac and fetal pole measuring 6 weeks but no heartbeat. At this point they were not worried as my dates weren't certain and this sort of fitted in with the 2 weeks that we started trying. They wanted me to come back for a viability scan 2 weeks later which was yesterday and they saw hardly, if any, change in the size of the sac and fetal pole. They advised that I have had a missed miscarriage and talked me through the different management styles but to be honest it's all a blur.

The consultant said that he would expect me to lose the baby by myself within the next 2 weeks, when I will then have a scan with blood tests to see if everything has settled. It's the whole 2 week wait again. One when you are trying for a baby and one when you are losing one.

Do you think that a 6 week baby will be ok to manage naturally? I was all for letting it just happen but after a night of not sleeping and not knowing I don't know if I can have this hanging over me. Is it right that this can take weeks?? I know that I have my scan on 26th so if nothing happened by then intervention will happen but that is still 10 days away and feels like a life time.

Please help. I feel so lost.

QQuaver

I'm so sorry Nikki (((hugs))).

I think it is OK to let it happen naturally as the baby is very small.
Unfortunately it can take weeks for your body to realise what has happened.

There's nothing I can say that would make you feel better. When I found out I had lost my baby, the few days I had to wait for an op felt like a lifetime. I just wanted the baby out of me asap.

The emotional pain will ease with time. Actually come to think of it, it was 2 years ago yesterday that I had my op, but as you can see, I've completely forgotten that until just now.

Take care.

Just_Peachy

Hi Nikki,

So sorry for your loss, it is an awful time. I had a miscarriage in March and I think I was 6 - 7 weeks, this happened naturally and tbh it wasn't that painful (like a heavy period) I bled fully for one day and then after that it was just brown discharge (like the end of a period) I'm not sure if the baby had actually grown to 6 weeks though because my hormone levels were very low (they never got higher than 719) so it is possible it had stopped forming weeks before I actually started bleeding.

After having some pain, I had my blood taken at hospital on the Thursday night and the following day the hospital called to say that the hormone levels were much lower than they'd expect (600) and could I come in for more blood tests. I had the blood taken on the Sat morning and was called back Sat night to be informed the levels had only gone up by 100 so it was very likely I would lose the baby. Then the following morning, I started to bleed and miscarried

It really was awful, but because I'd had the blood tests at the hospital, I knew that things weren't good so I was prepared for the loss, it would've been much worse if I had just started to bleed without warning. Once I knew that it was very likely I'd miscarry, I just wanted it out of me and over and done with, which my partner found very hard to understand, but I guess it was my way of dealing with it. It never hit me at the time and I didn't really get upset, but a few weeks later I was so upset about it, to go from being pregnant to not being pregnant so quickly was horrible and I felt useless.

But on a happier note, I fell pregnant again within 2-3 weeks of the miscarriage and am now 23 weeks pregnant and everything is fine this time.

Take care xx

SusanC_2

nikki_angel wrote: »

Do you think that a 6 week baby will be ok to manage naturally? I was all for letting it just happen but after a night of not sleeping and not knowing I don't know if I can have this hanging over me. Is it right that this can take weeks?? I know that I have my scan on 26th so if nothing happened by then intervention will happen but that is still 10 days away and feels like a life time.

I'm so sorry for your loss. Just like anything there can be huge variation - all mine happened naturally without any complications but sometimes people do have complications. With missed miscarriages it can take a long time before it actually happens but if you decided to wait for it to happen naturally, you could at any time decide to opt for surgical management. There isn't really a right or wrong course of action - it's just a case of choosing whichever you feel most comfortable with.

nikki_angel

I called the EPU and they have booked me in for an ERPC for Monday and I am to go in tomorrow for blood tests. I have since seen that there have been cases of mis-diagnosis of missed miscarriage due to tilted uterus. I have a tilted uterus and the first scan 2 weeks ago was done internally and the one yesterday through the belly. Surely they can't compare the two different measurements????