MSE Parents Club Part 10

My_Fathers_Daughter

aless02 wrote: »

Wow, I feel really lucky that not only did my hospital never make mention of "top-ups" or formula" (they assume BFing by default) but there was also no attempt to ever take Finn away and the 1 time he did need to go somewhere, he was expected to be escorted by me or DH (DH took him b/c I needed a nap)...!! I can't believe the inconsistencies around the country!

We never had a problem either. Although we were having no problems with BF (which is, I assume, when they offer formula top-ups). My MW offered to watch Benjamin for me whilst I had a shower, hubby had to go with me because I couldn't stand up very well after the epidural (we actually took a stool in with us so I could sit down in the shower) or said we could take Benjamin with us. So we put his cot just outside the open door of the en-suite.

When Benjamin was taken away for x-rays hubby went with him. The option then was 1 parent only and I am glad that I was brave enough to say 'not me'

elle_gee wrote: »

Mmm.. I did that but most seem to be radiator paint. Didn't know if I could use that on MDF... *confused*

Please don't paint me with radiator paint elle

Becles

xmaslolly76 wrote: »

Cant wait to here what wise words she gives you today at the museum ;-)

Errm none as she was very naughty

She's been going to bed really late. My neighbour died in November and his family are doing the house up now. Don't know them so don't know if it's going to be sold, rented out or if one of them is moving in. Anyway they are DIY'ing it and have been round most evenings drilling and banging until 9.30pm-10pm at night.

So she was tired and cranky this morning and got bored with the museum, so kept having full blown temper tantrums rolling on the floor and screaming I was just ignoring her and looking at stuff with the boys and pretending she was nothing to do with me, while avoiding dagger looks from the more perfect parents whose children apparantly never behave like that

She was really looking forward to the "mouse house" which is a special bit for under 5's, so I told her she'd been too naughty and she wasn't allowed in there. She's really upset about that, so hopefully it's sunk in that tantrums are not acceptable.

workinmummy

Glamazon wrote: »

WM - no money, no drinky!

This is a concept only women understand.

angelfairy

elle_gee wrote: »

Oh, now that's an idea I could manage!

How's you anyway hun? Work improved any?



Mmm.. I did that but most seem to be radiator paint. Didn't know if I could use that on MDF... *confused*

i'm doing okay hun, thanks for asking.

work is still rather poo poo, changes a foot but no one tells us what they are. i want to really enjoy my job again, but i'm struggling with achieving that at the minute.

LO keeps me on my toes when i get in anyway between not wanting to eat, walking around, annoying the dog, ramming a toy car into doors/walls.

glad you got on okay at hosp today,

x

Buttonmoons

No-one even asked me after Keira was born if I was breastfeeding. I was out of my face, being sick and kept falling back to sleep in the delivery room and I woke up and a nurse was feeding Keira a bottle of formula and said to me "She is really hungry, she just took 7oz" "Why don't you go for a shower"

Tbh, It didn't really bother me as I know myself I was in no fit state to even HOLD Keira, let alone attempt to feed her. I do wonder about the whole promoting breast feeding thing, because I saw no signs or mention of it when I had Bop!

I then collapsed in the shower with placenta chunks blocking the drain and that's the only reason they knew I was in there, because the water was flooding outside the door. Jeez louise!

workinmummy

Right, having vented. I am off now, Sainsburys then picking up my boys.

Have a nice weekend all. Bye Bye.

angelfairy

mfd - i forgot to get what i was going to get at lunch (went to the bank instread), think i have one at home

becles - sorry to hear that charlotte had her naugthy head on today. i was looking forward to some great comments also. i like your approach though to the tantrums. i can see me needing to use that tactic in the future. that does annoy me when other parents look at you as if their child never acted that way.

when my LO used to cry around town when she was a baby, the amount of mums i'd get saying 'is she hungry'... how i wanted to say 'yes, but i am starving her for fun'

Glamazon

workinmummy wrote: »

This is a concept only women understand.

I am lucky in that my OH prefers drinking indoors than going out - he's a scrooge so wouldn't pay bar or pub prices anyway!

However, he never has cash (won't use cash machines or pay for anything on his card) so I always get 'Oh, can you get me some beer or ??? when you shopping?'

So far this week he's had 2 crates of beer, £10 for his chipped windscreen, Pantene Shampoo (he won't use anything else and I'm not paying for it!) EPO capsules (he takes these for Eczema and they do work) and deodrant - £37!

All bills are split so I have to work out what extras I've bought him and add it to the share he needs to give me - such a pain in the !!!!!

Not usually such a problem but when you're on a measly £123 a week it becomes a problem!

Shouldn't moan - he asked me yesterday whether I needed him to pay more towards the mortgage and bills til I go back to work. I stupidly said 'No I'm OK for now!' :doh:

Glamazon

Buttonmoons wrote: »

No-one even asked me after Keira was born if I was breastfeeding. I was out of my face, being sick and kept falling back to sleep in the delivery room and I woke up and a nurse was feeding Keira a bottle of formula and said to me "She is really hungry, she just took 7oz" "Why don't you go for a shower"

Tbh, It didn't really bother me as I know myself I was in no fit state to even HOLD Keira, let alone attempt to feed her. I do wonder about the whole promoting breast feeding thing, because I saw no signs or mention of it when I had Bop!

I then collapsed in the shower with placenta chunks blocking the drain and that's the only reason they knew I was in there, because the water was flooding outside the door. Jeez louise!

:eek::eek::eek: :eek::eek::eek:

ladybirdintheuk

workinmummy wrote: »

Can I ask if anyone actually gets this "wetting the babies head"?.

Oh yes we will all go out with you and get bladdered new daddy, as you did so much work in carrying that baby for 9 months and then pushing it out.NOT

Yes OH wound me up again. Just asked if i can lend him some cash (Via text obviously, as he has lost the use of his voice-box), whilst he goes out with his brother on Saturday to wet his Neices head.

Now I know its his brother, but
1) His brother did not turn up to Alex's head-wetting
2) It was supposed to be last Sunday. OH booked Monday off work for his hangover. It was cancelled but OH went out anyway with his mates, spent the last of his cash and festered in bed all Monday
3) I have plans that involve Joe and I time, and he is to look after Alex.
4) He says his mum will have Alex. I do not want her to. I do not want to palm him off at weekends, as he spends enough time away from us in the week.
5) I'm a stroppy cow.

Last nights sleep high has well and truly worn off :mad::mad::mad:

Edit: There is also a lot of PMT mixed in there too.............

Few issues there!

1 - Wetting the babies head in general` I file away in the "boys are weird" file for definite, but tbh I would also put it under "small battle" (as in save your energy for the big ones).

2 - Not spending enough time with the family I sympathise with - DH spends far less time than he used to at the pub, but still I can't understand why he would want to be there instead of with Izzy. I would like to be allowed the occasional night out every so often, but not all the time... and not half the weekend as well. I don't mind him going, I just prefer if goes in the evening when Izzy was sleeping (then at least it is just time with me he is missing out on, and it is very obvious he doesn't care about that very much. I do try and get him to take her too on weekend daytimes, but he always wants to go at naptime or lunchtime, and refuses to feed her in the pub on his own (I think he is embarrassed as she makes such a mess!).

3 - Borrowing more money to spend on beer - I'd say tough, if you've drunk it all then it you can't have any more! With my DH I will sometimes give him enough to buy a couple of pints on a Saturday afternoon but only if he has done XYZ before he goes. (But that is mainly because he likes his routine on saturdays and if he doesn't get to the pub then he is horrible, so I'd rather be rid of him )

Bloody men :mad: What do we need them for? (I'd never get into my jars and would have to get brave and escort spiders from the premises myself... there must be some other uses for them too, but it has been a while :rotfl: )