MSE Parents Club Part 10

tiamai_d

They did Ambers sugars at my bedside, both the quick heel pr1ck and the tube collection. But they did ask if I would 'be ok seeing it'. Yeah, it looks horrid and they scream but if you are warned it's not so bad. It was seeing catheters going into her hand that got to me, I had to walk out. It's just standing there, watching, and feeling helpless. She was too young for me even to comfort her, what could I do, it was pointless and upsetting for me to stand there and watch and listen to her scream. So I left. And I don't feel guilty about leaving.

My poor mum had to hold me down at 2 days old for a lumbar puncture, is it a cop out if I said I couldn't do that with a baby? I was prepared to do it with DS2 when he was a bit older because he was older and he needed me there to comfort him. But what can you do for a baby?

Glamazon

sparkle03 wrote: »

It was Very different when I had Lexi, I was told to take her everywhere with me and it seemed as if all babies stayed next to mums bed.

I was told this on delivery but it didn't seem to apply on the labour ward.

Did you say yesterday we had the same MW? Or did I dream that?

SusanC_2

feelinggood wrote: »

That was for my first shower, still on the delivery suite. I then had a private room, with my own bathroom so LO could be with me. Next time I'll stick up for myself more, and not let them tell me what to do. I'd rather not have a shower than leave my baby.

Mine were obsessed with getting me to have a bath. They kept coming back and being really miffed that I hadn't because they clean the room while you have a bath and there was loads of blood on the floor because the midwife had snapped the cord by ignoring my birth plan and pulling it. It wasn't my fault the epidural took seven hours to wear off enough for me to walk.

workinmummy

tiamai_d wrote: »

A box/bag of girly bits. Shower gel, body lotion, sparkly hair stuff, body spray, fluffy socks, coloured lip balms, face wipes, nail polish or nail art stuff with polish remover wipes, hair brush, etc. (make up and polish at your discretion, will mum allow it?) I have a tom boy neice and a girly niece and they both love these hampers, they demand them at christmas! Last year it was a dressing gown, socks and bath stuff.

Thanks Tia. Could go with that. Especially if the make up / nail polish winds the mother up. (My brother and her mum are no longer together - she is a cow )

elle_gee

tiamai_d wrote: »

.. My poor mum had to hold me down at 2 days old for a lumbar puncture, is it a cop out if I said I couldn't do that with a baby? I was prepared to do it with DS2 when he was a bit older because he was older and he needed me there to comfort him. But what can you do for a baby?

No, I wouldn't have stayed for that either (hypothetically obviously). Rhys' room buddy had to have one and I had a cuppa with his mum while they did it. They wouldn't let her stay in the room but she could have watched through the big windows if she'd wanted to. She's a nurse, she knew what would happen so she wandered in to find us (Rhys was in a diff room by then) and we went for a cuppa. Don't blame her one bit!

SugarSpun

SusanC wrote: »

Mine were obsessed with getting me to have a bath. They kept coming back and being really miffed that I hadn't because they clean the room while you have a bath and there was loads of blood on the floor because the midwife had snapped the cord by ignoring my birth plan and pulling it. It wasn't my fault the epidural took seven hours to wear off enough for me to walk.

Indeed, Susan, how dare you be a patient and not fit in with their schedule :mad:

The theme all around seems to be that nurses would like working if every birth was the same and so they knew exactly what the routine would be. But that just isn't how it works.

SusanC_2

tiamai_d wrote: »

They did Ambers sugars at my bedside, both the quick heel pr1ck and the tube collection. But they did ask if I would 'be ok seeing it'. Yeah, it looks horrid and they scream but if you are warned it's not so bad. It was seeing catheters going into her hand that got to me, I had to walk out. It's just standing there, watching, and feeling helpless. She was too young for me even to comfort her, what could I do, it was pointless and upsetting for me to stand there and watch and listen to her scream. So I left. And I don't feel guilty about leaving.

That's different though because you had a choice. I don't think anyone should be forced to stay and witness things they don't want to - it's the babies being removed without parents having any option to come and not knowing where they are or what's being done that I think is objectionable.

elle_gee

Random question.. can you get magnolia paint in a spray can? I want to paint the letters for Rhys' bedroom wall magnolia (they're going on the blue wall) but trying to avoid brush marks on them

SusanC_2

SugarSpun wrote: »

Indeed, Susan, how dare you be a patient and not fit in with their schedule :mad:

I know. :rotfl:

*whispers* I was secretly glad that I inconvenienced tham because I was narked off that they'd ignored most of my birth plan.

angelfairy

elle_gee wrote: »

Random question.. can you get magnolia paint in a spray can? I want to paint the letters for Rhys' bedroom wall magnolia (they're going on the blue wall) but trying to avoid brush marks on them

hi elle :wave:

i'm not sure about the can, but if you cant, what about using a sea sponge (like what you can buy to put foundation on) to avoid brush strokes??

xx