MSE Parents Club Part 10

SugarSpun

SusanC wrote: »

:eek: Why would one in five babies need to be taken away from their mothers?

I think the nurses tend to want to allow new mummies to sleep and are quick to take the baby. Molly was whipped away because I was in recovery, and I had no idea why - especially as OH was also there and not allowed to see her. It absolutely broke my heart.

tiamai_d wrote: »

And just for your amusement, I just changed a sparkly, glittery pooy nappy! Christopher has been at the glitter and some sequins too!

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:
I'm with you on the jar food.

jillie1974

SusanC wrote: »

I just can't understand why they would just take the baby away without you (and think it was okay to do so) unless there was a very good reason for doing so. Like a life or death situation or where you aren't in a position to be able to accompany for whatever reason. I'm sure medical staff wouldn't just wander off with say someone's six month old unecessarily so why they would think it okay to do with a newborn is beyond me.

think because the jitters hadnt stopped after 24 hrs they wanted to check to make sure his bloods were ok. the paediatrician came and was lovely, but i wasnt given the option to go with him. although it was 1am...tbh i dont know where he actually was. they said 'nursery' but dont know if it was the one on my ward or the scbu/nicu one. he was gone for 9 hrs in total

Glamazon

just looking thru the first 5 years book my sis gave me to fill in

Top 40 song when I was born - Dizzee Rascal 'Holiday'
Top UK film - The Final Destination

could have been a bit more interesting than that!

tiamai_d

workinmummy wrote: »

Its my neices' 8th birthday next Friday. Does anyone have any ideas for presents for girls of this age. I have no idea.

A box/bag of girly bits. Shower gel, body lotion, sparkly hair stuff, body spray, fluffy socks, coloured lip balms, face wipes, nail polish or nail art stuff with polish remover wipes, hair brush, etc. (make up and polish at your discretion, will mum allow it?) I have a tom boy neice and a girly niece and they both love these hampers, they demand them at christmas! Last year it was a dressing gown, socks and bath stuff.

Glamazon

Jack went to neo-natal - the first time he was gone for 45mins! I was worried sick and no-one woul tell OH anything.

Next time baby will not be let out of my sight (unless in the case of surgery, emergenicies etc) and I will be doing all his cares. I guess it will be easier next time because I know I will FF from the off so not have people taking him away for top ups because his blood sugars are too low.

Hopefully I won't have GD & can have a 6hr discharge!

SusanC_2

feelinggood wrote: »

They made me leave LO when I had a shower. Will not let them do that next time.

We were told that if we left the room, we should take the baby with us (although we also had ensuite bathrooms so I never did leave the room).

sparkle03 wrote: »

I had J in 2003, it was around 3 o clock in the morning and he was crying, I was walking round and soothing him (had tried feeding and he had just been changed) A nurse/midwife came over to me and said 'Dont worry I'll take him' I told her that I was fine and could manage but she was trying to take him from me as I was saying this and I let her get hold of him she popped him in his cot and started to wheel him to reception area. I followed as most of the other mums were sleeping and I didnt want to disturb them.
Once off the ward I noticed there were about 7 babies all being cared for by the nurses. I asked if I could take J back with me as I felt uneasy without him there. She replied 'I was only trying to help you, you silly girl'. I took him back to my bed and had a little cry

:mad:

ladybirdintheuk wrote: »

Our hospital had a policy of not taking baby anywhere without a parent. I'm not sure if that would have changed if there was an emergency though, as if I was on my own, and something had happened, presumably they would have had to? (Wheeling me down the corridor after her might not always have helped very much... ) I had ot go into surgery for 4 hours afterwards - I don't know if they would have brought her in too if DH wasn't there to take care of her? (Poor baby was starving when I came back!)

Emergencies are acceptable - I don't think it unreasonable to separate a mother and baby due to an emergency. It's just that one in five seems an excessively large proportion of mothers/babies to be separated and unless it is necessary it should not be imposed.

elle_gee

tiamai_d wrote: »

.. Although, I do recommend that if your baby is taken away down, you stay where you are for an hour because you do not want to see your baby having wires and tubes put in. It was bad enough seeing other babies being 'settled in', I could not watch that happen to my own.

They always booted us out into the corridor when Rhys or another baby in Room 1 needed something "in" or "out". Sometimes it was plain "wait out there" and other time it was "you might want to not see this" :cool:

Newest babies I saw were 34wk twins who'd just been born by section (mum knew of an issue all along so 34wk section was planned and all calm, iyswim). They were brought up in a travel inci, both wrapped up in blankets, still not cleaned up, about 10minutes old. I saw the nurses dress them up for the first time - I was in tears watching it! (they were brought into the SC room - there's intensive care, high dependency then special care. Rhys was still on a sats monitor but don't think the twins we ever connected to anything).

jillie1974

K latest thing is when, he's had his feed. and done his burp to turn his head and give me a big smile. as if to say 'arent i very good mummy?'

sparkle03

It was Very different when I had Lexi, I was told to take her everywhere with me and it seemed as if all babies stayed next to mums bed.

feelinggood_2

SusanC wrote: »

We were told that if we left the room, we should take the baby with us (although we also had ensuite bathrooms so I never did leave the room).

That was for my first shower, still on the delivery suite. I then had a private room, with my own bathroom so LO could be with me. Next time I'll stick up for myself more, and not let them tell me what to do. I'd rather not have a shower than leave my baby.