MSE Parents Club Part 10

Sarah_Joanne

sparkle03 wrote: »

I had J in 2003, it was around 3 o clock in the morning and he was crying, I was walking round and soothing him (had tried feeding and he had just been changed) A nurse/midwife came over to me and said 'Dont worry I'll take him' I told her that I was fine and could manage but she was trying to take him from me as I was saying this and I let her get hold of him she popped him in his cot and started to wheel him to reception area. I followed as most of the other mums were sleeping and I didnt want to disturb them.
Once off the ward I noticed there were about 7 babies all being cared for by the nurses. I asked if I could take J back with me as I felt uneasy without him there. She replied 'I was only trying to help you, you silly girl'. I took him back to my bed and had a little cry

When I had Alfie and just after DH left us (about 4am) and with me still in a delivery suite side room thing on my own Alfie started crying. Not long at all til MW came in, took him off me and said she'd settle him and find a cot for him. I was still so dazed and confused I didn't really think much of it. Not sure exactly how long he was gone for, maybe 20 mins or so. Had forgotten about that until just now. There was no need to take him off me. And my legs were still useless so no way I could have gone anywhere after him.

And the only way I could shower was if I left him on the ward in his own or with DH.

SusanC_2

elle_gee wrote: »

Random question.. can you get magnolia paint in a spray can? I want to paint the letters for Rhys' bedroom wall magnolia (they're going on the blue wall) but trying to avoid brush marks on them

This is what came up on Google. I'd try Martin's shopbot.

SugarSpun

SusanC wrote: »

I know. :rotfl:

*whispers* I was secretly glad that I inconvenienced tham because I was narked off that they'd ignored most of my birth plan.

Will your OH be more confident to shout up and tell the midwives to follow the birth plan next time? I really did feel that mine was more concerned with what the nurses thought of him/us than my feelings - he was all about speaking to them in German so they'd feel more comfortable, but that came at the expense of my comfort and I felt very much marginalised in my own labour. Then when things went wrong it was just awful because nobody had the time even to explain anything so he was getting all the information he could and then not passing it on.

Glamazon

SusanC wrote: »

I know. :rotfl:

*whispers* I was secretly glad that I inconvenienced tham because I was narked off that they'd ignored most of my birth plan.

I complained to the Head of Midwifery that we were told at Parentcraft not to bother with a birth plan as it wouldn't be followed. :eek:

I only told her because she did my booking in appointment and one of my later check ups (she was covering staff shortages) and had told me to make sure I wrote up a birth plan once I had been to Parentcraft!

In fact I complained about the Parentcraft as a whole because it was dreadful - we were unlucky that the usual MW was on leave when we went and she is fab!

I had my birth plan in my head (never got round to writing it) and OH knew my wishes as well but next time I will definitely write it down.

aless02

Wow, I feel really lucky that not only did my hospital never make mention of "top-ups" or formula" (they assume BFing by default) but there was also no attempt to ever take Finn away and the 1 time he did need to go somewhere, he was expected to be escorted by me or DH (DH took him b/c I needed a nap)...!! I can't believe the inconsistencies around the country!

workinmummy

Can I ask if anyone actually gets this "wetting the babies head"?.

Oh yes we will all go out with you and get bladdered new daddy, as you did so much work in carrying that baby for 9 months and then pushing it out.NOT

Yes OH wound me up again. Just asked if i can lend him some cash (Via text obviously, as he has lost the use of his voice-box), whilst he goes out with his brother on Saturday to wet his Neices head.

Now I know its his brother, but
1) His brother did not turn up to Alex's head-wetting
2) It was supposed to be last Sunday. OH booked Monday off work for his hangover. It was cancelled but OH went out anyway with his mates, spent the last of his cash and festered in bed all Monday
3) I have plans that involve Joe and I time, and he is to look after Alex.
4) He says his mum will have Alex. I do not want her to. I do not want to palm him off at weekends, as he spends enough time away from us in the week.
5) I'm a stroppy cow.

Last nights sleep high has well and truly worn off :mad::mad::mad:

Edit: There is also a lot of PMT mixed in there too.............

elle_gee

angelfairy wrote: »

hi elle :wave:

i'm not sure about the can, but if you cant, what about using a sea sponge (like what you can buy to put foundation on) to avoid brush strokes??

xx

Oh, now that's an idea I could manage!

How's you anyway hun? Work improved any?

SusanC wrote: »

This is what came up on Google. I'd try Martin's shopbot.

Mmm.. I did that but most seem to be radiator paint. Didn't know if I could use that on MDF... *confused*

Glamazon

WM - no money, no drinky!

SugarSpun

workinmummy wrote: »

Can I ask if anyone actually gets this "wetting the babies head"?.

I would say no for all of your good reasons, and suggest that if the niece's head needs wetting that they use some sort of Johnson's product to do it and not just render the new dad incapable of doing anything useful to help his wife.

tiamai_d

SusanC wrote: »

That's different though because you had a choice. I don't think anyone should be forced to stay and witness things they don't want to - it's the babies being removed without parents having any option to come and not knowing where they are or what's being done that I think is objectionable.

I completely agree. How hard is it to say 'baby needs this because, it may make him cry but he will forget about it quickly, do you want to be present for it or will you get too upset?'.

Elle, you can get spray paint in any colour, try B&Q or most hardware shops.

WM, head-wetting is archaic. Yes, great idea to take a dad out and get him !!!!ed so he is useless for days, denying a new mum of her (usually) primary support person just so you can congratulate him for blowing his load about 9months ago.

I'd tell him no. He had his night out last week.