MSE Parents Club Part 10

got-it-spend-it

Shepherd's pie is lamb cos shepherds have sheep! Cottage pie is beef (says the vegetarian)!

cazscoob

i just cant work out how she managed to escape lol!

Weezl dont get too worked up about BF and i think they should have taken your concerns on at the time. With Charlie i really struggled to BF he would cry a lot as he was hungry and i just couldnt satisfy him, i ended up putting him on formula and feeling awful but it was what was best for both of us at the time. i think it is sometimes easier if you are the one making the descion rather than having no option.

jillie1974

Glam- cant believe your OH, i know i have probs with DH helping out but he would have got a right earbashing if he'd complained about what tea he had!!!

Sami- oh no losing Sophie! I'd ring today, sometimes the cleaners pick things up as they are going along and bring them back to cust serv, so it may not have been there when you asked.

can i just say (and this might be a bit .... controversial) but as a mum who had no choice but to FF i feel that BF is pushed so much that us FF mums dont get any support at all. It was very hard for me to be told i wasnt able to express anymore but i feel that there is nowhere that i can get support for FF. We can have problems as well with feeding... i think as well, knowing that i will have to change my BP meds to pg safe ones, then being able to BF/express for a week or so and then go to FF, i'm really not sure i even want to try the BF next time



sorry if i have opened a can of worms. not saying in anyway that BF is wrong etc.....as i really wanted to do

jillie1974

going to Lowry is fine with me...but Tuesdays are 'Senior Day' so be prepared for lots of tuts at noisy babies or them all trying to poke, hold and smile at babies...
maybe another day???

Fitzio

Morning all,

Belated Happy Birthday to Scruffy.

NMS/Glam – I was just messing about with my avvie and decided I can find my own posts better with the yellow flash! Too many baby pictures. I need to find one that will stand out. Or I might change it back, who knows.

Aless – What size of nursing bra are you after?

Caz – Well done Erin (although probably not want you want, she is a quick learner!!)

Weezl – I am not sure why you decided to FF rather than BF, but feel free to talk about it on here. I was kind of the same and beat myself up for a while over it. I have happily FF for a few months now but for the first 2 weeks, every time H cried for a feed, and I had to heat the bottle, I was in tears feeling that I was unnecessarily delaying her feed whilst faffing about with bottles! I knew that it was what was best for her as after 3 days of expressing, she was dehydrated, but I felt like I had let her down. But I know it was just baby blues and hormones making me cry as I always had a balanced view before the birth (I intended to try BFing but knew it was not a given and I was happy to switch to FF as it has no detriment to the baby)!

From my experience, midwives are not that militant about BFing, but as that is what the current guidelines are, they have to promote it. If you say you want to BF, they will do everything to help you, but if you are up front about wishing to FF, they tend to respect that and give you help if you ask – they just can’t actively promote it. Don’t be scared to tell them what you want. I think you just have to say you have your reasons and wish to FF and not discuss it if you don’t want to, and they will be fine with it.

Busy day today – off to Kindermusik in the morning, then Baby Clinic for weighing in the afternoon. Might pop into my parents between times. Or some shops (Boots/Homebase etc).

Has the price of formula gone up? H is on Aptimil and it’s usually £7.90 everywhere, but was £8.40 or thereabouts in Tesco last night. Has it gone up everywhere?

Mazcabs

jillie1974 wrote: »

can i just say (and this might be a bit .... controversial) but as a mum who had no choice but to FF i feel that BF is pushed so much that us FF mums dont get any support at all. It was very hard for me to be told i wasnt able to express anymore but i feel that there is nowhere that i can get support for FF. We can have problems as well with feeding... i think as well, knowing that i will have to change my BP meds to pg safe ones, then being able to BF/express for a week or so and then go to FF, i'm really not sure i even want to try the BF next time

sorry if i have opened a can of worms. not saying in anyway that BF is wrong etc.....as i really wanted to do

I had no choice with Henry either after being stuck in theatre for 2½ hrs after he was born they had to give him FF and so I struggled to get him on BF whereas William was straight on BF but with too much supply he struggled... anyway as long as we all remember that we all have different opinions and are all entitled to have them thats all that matters.... I do agree that there should be more support for FF mums as well

got-it-spend-it

I think you're totally right Jillie. All MWs and HVs should be Able to provide feeding to all mums- I personally think in some ways FF requires more support because of the whole sterilising, powder:water ratios, how much has bubs eaten etc. I would be a bit stumped by it all tbh.

I think, sadly, it is like so many things and depends on the MW involved. My sister FF both her LOs out of choice first time she got given a hard time by MW, second time they were really supportive of her choice.

Mazcabs

Fitzio wrote: »

Has the price of formula gone up? H is on Aptimil and it’s usually £7.90 everywhere, but was £8.40 or thereabouts in Tesco last night. Has it gone up everywhere?

Williams on this and I bought one at the weekend it was still £7.90 in Tesco near me

I must admit the HV I had visit at home was very understanding especially after discussing the way it was affecting the way Henry was with me.... I always meant to ask you Sami how Chris is with you as you BF Edgar. It totally changed how Henry was with me and I couldnt cope with that - going from doing loads for him to him crying when I even tried to change his nappy as he didnt want me... All changed when I started FF!!!

Millie's_Mum

I've mentioned before that I am on the parent forum for a surestart group, I am fighting at the moment for a feeding group, rather than a BF group, some of the surestart/HV people do not understand why I am adamant it should be a feeding group rather than a BF group.

Would any of you mind if I used some of your comments in my argument? Jillie, particularly what you said about feeling that there is no support.

Fitzio

Just checked Tesco website and it's £8.49 on there. Still £7.90 on Boots website so might go and stock up!!