MSE Parents Club Part 10

weezl74

OK caught up now, you can all wake up and chat to me:p!

Mel, I hope it's ok I've quoted you in my sig! I know you weren't talking about me at all, but I feel like your quote is of great use to me when I'm worrying and overthinking :):o (and I don't even drink coke:rotfl:)

weezl74

sami, interesting thought about the physiological 3rd stage being aided by BF.

I think I might have to see how confident I feel in asserting the 'please don't force me to try/touch me/stand and watch while I do this crying... (re: BF)' I really didn't feel able to let them know how bad it was for me, and felt that they just so believed in BF (as do I) that they couldn't see me as unusual. I asked for some G and A to see if I could let F latch on that way. MW said: But you just pushed the baby out! Me: 'honestly this is worse for me:(' MW::rotfl:(thinks I'm joking)

We were relieved that the third stage was so quick cos then they kind of went away quicker.

I didn't want them to go away quicker, just I couldn't handle the BF thing. It's a great shame because they just lurk so they can do all those really helpful things like checking your latch etc, but to me it was very difficult. But I wanted them to stay so I could ask questions about looking after him...

DH wants me to put that in my birth plan (not to talk to me about BF). I'm too scared though! I don't want to do anything that might alienate them when I need them so much and mine and Kester's lives are in their hands.

Sorry, bit of a deep post for this early in the morning! :)

best go and obey new sig. Aaaaargh, no peanuts!

wi3adora

Morning Weezl x (and anyone else that happens to be up)

Just getting myself ready for work (boo hiss) I really wish we had a uniform as it takes me forever to find something to wear (that not only fits but I feel comfortable in) plus if you don't wear the right thing you get funny looks, it's like being back at high school!!

weezl74

morning Dora I'm sure you look fab! Funny looks? Are they 13 yrs old?

got-it-spend-it

Morning. Who took my lovely sleeping baby and replaced him with a whingey one? I have a manky sore throat so maybe H does too?

Weezl- I think you should put it in your birth plan about BF. Have you been able to discuss it with anyone this pg? I know we've talked at length about traumatic births on here, and the need to talk them through with someone. Could it br for you that the whole BF thing was maybe the traumatic part and that it would help to talk it through ahead of Kester's birth? Just a thought (and probably not a very useful one but it is before 7am)! Hugs to you anyway.

wi3adora

weezl74 wrote: »

morning Dora I'm sure you look fab! Funny looks? Are they 13 yrs old?

Thanks x Uhm not quite but some act that age (no offence to anyone with a very nice 13yr old ) it's more the ones who are a size 0 who can wear whatever they want and it looks good mainly the ones who haven't had children so don't have extra lumps and bumps where they don't normally!
I mean who has time in a morning to put extensions in and curl all their hair, full make up and be wearing the latest fashion when you've got a baby? Or is it just me??

got-it-spend-it

money_maker wrote: »

aww poor ed losing his sophie and poor you for paying all that money and letting him lose it Hopefully someone nice might hand it in

wi3adora wrote: »

Thanks x Uhm not quite but some act that age (no offence to anyone with a very nice 13yr old ) it's more the ones who are a size 0 who can wear whatever they want and it looks good mainly the ones who haven't had children so don't have extra lumps and bumps where they don't normally!
I mean who has time in a morning to put extensions in and curl all their hair, full make up and be wearing the latest fashion when you've got a baby? Or is it just me??

Definitely not just you Dora! If we have to be anywhere before 10 I just put my hair up.

weezl74

got-it-spend-it wrote: »

Weezl- I think you should put it in your birth plan about BF. Have you been able to discuss it with anyone this pg? I know we've talked at length about traumatic births on here, and the need to talk them through with someone. Could it br for you that the whole BF thing was maybe the traumatic part and that it would help to talk it through ahead of Kester's birth? Just a thought (and probably not a very useful one but it is before 7am)! Hugs to you anyway.

thanks GISI :A sorry you have a poorly throat. Take it easy today.

I've talked to my brother and to DH... they aren't the most touchy feely of chaps. Their advice was very practical though.

Part of me would like to share it on here, but I also feel that the internet is a prime place for misunderstanding and feelings running high. A lot of my stuff is about how much I beat myself up about not BFing Ferg. In my head I know I didn't do an awful thing, probably just a less than ideal thing. But in my feelings, I did a bad thing.

The problem with expressing that feeling on here though, is that others who have also FF could easily feel that if I judge myself harshly for not BF, then maybe I feel that way towards them, ie judgemental (I genuinely don't and have asked myself searchingly that question).

Anyhow, it feels a bit precarious to launch into that because as I think I've said before on here, but I think while you were still over on the other thread :rotfl:I really value and like the support and friendship on here, so I don't often say in case I lose you all.

Does any of that make any sense GISI?

Really must go stock up on coke and peanuts now!

got-it-spend-it

Oh Weezl, you're such a sweetie always thinking about the feelings of others. I totally understand where you're coming from. I really meant could you speak to a MW about your feelings about BFing, as well as your physiological reasons etc but do it ahead of the birth so don't feel you have to explain yourself (not that anyone should have to) when you've just given birth and at your most vulnerable.

In other milk news* I have accidentally cancelled our milkman delivery today so OH will not be terribly impressed when he gets up!

*Hopes Weezl doesn't mind me lightening the mood and realises I am in no way trying to trivialise the above troubles.

Becles

Sami_Bee wrote: »

Becles - thanks for the graze code :kisses3: got my 1st box today, I love it
I now have codes too if anyone wants? x

Pleased you liked it. I get the nibble one and they've been yummy so far.

I've still got more codes if anyone wants one - first box free, second box half price.

money_maker wrote: »

I found out last week that the little boy in Jasmines class who doesnt speak very well or very often is autistic, which we never knew, and only found out because he hit the teacher and threw chairs across the classroom.
Now, I have no issue at all of him being in Jasmines class, he has every right to be there, but apparently he has had violent outbursts in school several times and a few of the other kids are quite scared of him. Jas sits at the other side of the classroom, so doesnt seem too bothered by it and that is why she never mentioned it to me, as thats just the way he has always been, but I am now slightly concerned. Does that make me sound like a really bad person ??

There was a boy like that in Josh's class but he had a special needs teacher sitting with him at all times. He did have violent outbursts but he was taken out of class if he got too bad. Sadly the autism got worse and he was having too many outbursts for the school to cope with, so they had to work with his Mam and get him into a special school.

He was a lovely bairn when he wasn't having an outburst. Josh had a party and I felt awful inviting the whole class but not this particular boy. Other parents were all "ooh you must be brave inviting K" as nobody else invited him to stuff. It was a traditional party with party games and then a buffet. On the day his Grandad brought him and he managed to join in a few games and he was very well behaved. It started getting a bit too noisy for him, so he wanted to go early. We hadn't eaten by then, but I gave him a plate and helped him pick some goodies to take home for his tea. He was absolutely over the moon because he'd been to a party and his Mam said he talked about it for days - bless him!

Bathroom plans have changed again now. There's a false wall behind the toilet as it used to be a seperate toilet and bathroom. Going to investigate knocking the false wall out and moving the toilet back to make a more square shaped room.

I'm thinking about cancelling the milk delivery. Prices have just gone up again and the 4pt cartons of milk are often on a 2 for £3 offer in supermarkets. I'm in supermarkets most days for work, so it's no hassle to buy milk after a job. I just feel guilty telling the lady we don't want milk anymore