MSE Parents Club Part 10

weezl74

got-it-spend-it wrote: »

*Hopes Weezl doesn't mind me lightening the mood and realises I am in no way trying to trivialise the above troubles.

:rotfl:excellent!

would DH like some of fergie's SMA for his morning cuppa?

weezl74

Becles wrote: »

I'm thinking about cancelling the milk delivery. Prices have just gone up again and the 4pt cartons of milk are often on a 2 for £3 offer in supermarkets. I'm in supermarkets most days for work, so it's no hassle to buy milk after a job. I just feel guilty telling the lady we don't want milk anymore

becles do you have a costco? we make back our yearly card cost in just 10 weeks of milk, let alone all the other bargains

Will your nice plumber move the loo and soil pipe?
xx

chopsticks

Sami_Bee wrote: »

btw that means we lost sophie at the TC
she has been found and nicked I'm sure because it was in the last 20ish mins and we retraced our steps asking everyone and left details with customer services but nothing

Oh no

Scruffy - Happy belated birthday

Weezl - I echo what GISI has just typed. You are so lovely thinking about everyone else and their feelings but you do need to think about yourself. If you want to talk, please don't feel like you have to phrase things in certain ways so you don't upset anyone. I know it's not nice upsetting people but we all know you would never do it on purpose, and we are all big enough and ugly enough to get over it . If you need to talk, please don't stop yourself from doing so on here just because you are worried about our feelings.

Also, I thought the quote from Susan's DH (I think it was yesterday) is brilliant - "breast is best but formula isn't poison".


I think we're going to be in for a trying day today. We've been up nearly two hours and are in a grumpy mood already (Caitlin, not me!). Off to get her some porridge and see if that cheers her up! See you in a while.
xxxx

SugarSpun

money_maker wrote: »

I found out last week that the little boy in Jasmines class who doesnt speak very well or very often is autistic, which we never knew, and only found out because he hit the teacher and threw chairs across the classroom.... I am now slightly concerned. Does that make me sound like a really bad person ??

No, autism can be hard to deal with if you're not used to dealing with it IYSWIM. It sounds like he had a bad day - but an isolated one if everyone's talking about it.

weezl74 wrote: »

I didn't want them to go away quicker, just I couldn't handle the BF thing. It's a great shame because they just lurk so they can do all those really helpful things like checking your latch etc, but to me it was very difficult. But I wanted them to stay so I could ask questions about looking after him...

DH wants me to put that in my birth plan (not to talk to me about BF). I'm too scared though! I don't want to do anything that might alienate them when I need them so much and mine and Kester's lives are in their hands.

Would you feel comfortable talking to them ahead of time? I'm sorry it's such a worry for you :grouphug:

Happy birthday scruffy!

Poor Ed losing his Sophie! Maybe someone will hand it in?

Good luck with the grumpy baby chopsticks... I've got a smiley quiet one here but who knows how long it'll last?!

Becles

weezl74 wrote: »

becles do you have a costco? we make back our yearly card cost in just 10 weeks of milk, let alone all the other bargains

There's one past the Metrocentre but I've never been before. I just thought it was like Makro and you needed to be a business to get in?

Supermarket stuff is convenient I don't mind paying a few pence more, to save the time and expense of travelling elsewhere. I'm sure nobody else micro-analyses journeys as much as I do

Will your nice plumber move the loo and soil pipe?
xx

I can do that myself to save costs :money:Already planning to move the bath taps and waste. Flexible pipes and compression joints make plumbing easy

Could have probably done the radiator myself, but I would have had to drain the system to do it slowly and then pay for inhibitors and stuff to fill it back up. Was better paying for someone to do it, as he did it quick and just lined the void with black sacks to catch the drips while he whipped the old one off and put the new one on.

SusanC_2

hammyhunter wrote: »

DH often works from home and since LO was born he does nearly all the cooking and cleaning! He says it is my job to bring David up which is far more important than housework so he wants to help as much as possible .

My OH did the cooking for about the first six months after Alice was born and a large proportion of the house work. The amount of time I was feeding Alice in the first three months was almost as much as the time he spent working and then as she started to feed less and I had more time I gradually took over. I actually almost had to fight him over some of the jobs because he'd got so used to doing everything when I was pregnant that he would just go ahead and do my jobs instead of doing the things that only he could do. He considers it all to be a joint effort so if he's finished and I've still got stuff to do still then he'll willingly help.

Becles wrote: »

Went for desserts and decided to let Charlotte have a slab of chocolate fudge cake thinking she wouldn't eat it all. She did. Big mistake! It's taken ages to get her into bed this evening as she is hyper. I tucked her in and went in the shower and when I came out, she was bouncing around on the landing with the dogs and singing a song about gingerbread men :rotfl:

I wonder what Alice's excuse is - she's often like that but without the cake. (Belated Happy Birthday to James.)

Sami_Bee wrote: »

yes it is but I'm not sure what happens when there is no BFing and no syno-wotsit jab

I didn't have the jab and ALice didn't feed for 24 hours and I was fine, I think it's just that there's a greater likelyhood of PPH - not that you would definitely have it.

money_maker wrote: »

I found out last week that the little boy in Jasmines class who doesnt speak very well or very often is autistic, which we never knew, and only found out because he hit the teacher and threw chairs across the classroom.
Now, I have no issue at all of him being in Jasmines class, he has every right to be there, but apparently he has had violent outbursts in school several times and a few of the other kids are quite scared of him. Jas sits at the other side of the classroom, so doesnt seem too bothered by it and that is why she never mentioned it to me, as thats just the way he has always been, but I am now slightly concerned. Does that make me sound like a really bad person ??

You do get "normal" children dong that kind of thing from time to time too. Have the outbursts ever been directed at anyone or are the children who are scared just frightened by witnessing him getting angry? Is the child concerned or the ones who are scared newer to the school? I would have expected that if they were used to his behaviour they would not be bothered by it. If you are concerned, I'm sure the teracher would be quite happy for you to speak to her about it and she may well be able to reassure you.

weezl74 wrote: »

Re: lotus birth (I had to google it ) wow! amazing! I was trying to remember how long fergie's cord stayed on and with us it was 7-8 days IIRC. I guess a lot of it for me would be about how many friends/family would be expecting to meet/play with him/join in with stuff like nappy changes/baths etc.... and how it'd be to do with how weird they found it that they were cuddling a baby plus placenta, IYSWIM?

Plus (I feel a bit materialistic for thinking this-selfish mummy ) I also had a pang of 'oh I can't get him dressed and pop out to Ikea for a family trip with Fergus' (and get those endless being stopped and asked about him by women in their 50s that you get when you take a newborn out with you- and you feel like a minor celebrity for a few weeks ). I can't get my head round how you'd put a newborn and the placenta in a sling/baby carrier. And what clothes would he wear? See I'm just not very practical!:rotfl:

So why am I saying this-just to ask I suppose if you also would feel the loss of those things, or maybe they're not actually out of the question and I hadn't thought of it!

We didn't do all those things in the first few days anyway (and the placenta gives you a better excuse not to ). Alice was born on the Tuesday, we went home on the Wednesday, my mum and brother turned up (unarranged - it was a bit of a shock) on the Saturday, BIL visited briefly on the Monday (this had been arranged before Alice was born, he lives a long way away and was passing by), mum and brother visited again the following Saturday (but this time they told us) and then on the Sunday (so 12 days old) we went to church, friends for Sunday lunch and then church again. You can transport baby in the car - you just have to make sure you have the placenta in an appropriate position and for clothing you would use clothes that have openings in the appropriate place (so T-shirts and babygrows rather than vests and babygrows). Not sure that a sling would be practical though.

On the breastfeeding, it might be worth discussing it with your midwife beforehand and definitely either put something about it in your birthplan or ask OH to have a quiet word about it so that you don't end up feeling all stressed/pressurised about it atthe time.

weezl74

Becles wrote: »

There's one past the Metrocentre but I've never been before. I just thought it was like Makro and you needed to be a business to get in?

There are also a list of jobs/professions you can be to get in.

You get 2 cards so you could split membership costs with a local friend?

Meddlesome thought..... doesn't susan's OH have a small business? :rotfl:

SusanC_2

Becles wrote: »

Supermarket stuff is convenient I don't mind paying a few pence more, to save the time and expense of travelling elsewhere. I'm sure nobody else micro-analyses journeys as much as I do

You mean everyone doesn't calculate the cost of the journey vs the saving of going there?

weezl74

SusanC wrote: »

You mean everyone doesn't calculate the cost of the journey vs the saving of going there?

I use 40p a mile as my reference point when debating whether a bargain is worth travelling to

SusanC_2

Alice has just come downstairs with a plait in her hair - I never would have thought her hair was long enough. She also has Winnie the Pooh up her cardigain as her latest thing is carrying her "babys" in slings.