MSE Parents Club Part 10

searching_me

agreed pigpen .. i'll be honest beenie if you were my RL and you told me this i would say to you what i told my work mate whose ex was going down the same route as yours ..... the mans a fool but you're a fool for putting him first ..

the only thing you should care about is your kids .. you complain about how bad your mum is .. well you're just adding to the cycle and you're kids will not be happy with you if you allow this man to treat you the way he is x

searching_me

i was quiet last night as my family have been childish ... havent spoken to my aunt seen she came attention seeking and i told her off so she decided to delete me from facebook .. oh not a great loss but still pathetic x

SusanC_2

ladybirdintheuk wrote: »

saying that, where is weezl? Has she not been around in the last few days or have I just missed her?

I looked yesterday and she's busy on her meal plan thread.

ladybirdintheuk wrote: »

Those of you with older kids - at what point did you stop taking food along for baby when you went out for lunch, and started to feel like you should be buying something for them instead? At the moment I don't feel like I'm being unreasonable taking my own food (so long as I'm buying something for myself of course!), but I realse I can't keep doing that till she is 14

I never took food with me. I usually just get a side dish and then divide the food up between us.
ETA: I mean a side dish in addition to what I would get if it was just me on my own.

jillie1974

Familygirl wrote: »

Hi Everyone

My little girl is 16 months and enjoys her bottles one on a morning and one before bed, she has one formula and one whole milk. I don't know whether to just use whole milk for both, but I am confused by the adverts saying '80% don't get enough iron blah blah, but will get it from follow on milk blah!'

What are your views??

Thanks
FG x

the panorama programme said that if they have a balnced diet there is no need for the milk advertised as for 1 year+

My_Fathers_Daughter wrote: »

Never been to Tenerife. Please no horror stories!!

We are 5 star all inclusive so we will just sit in the hotel and drink and eat ourselves into oblivion :cool:

ooh nice one! which hotel is it?

dont go near the Veronicas area of Las Americas!!

jillie1974

beenie- (((hugs)))

you have been so strong!!
second what BM said. if he cared about you or amber or your DS in anyway he should not have done OD in your home. hospital will do psych on him first. so he might not be out today.

SugarSpun

My_Fathers_Daughter wrote: »

:j:j:j:j

I have just booked a holiday

Enjoy yourself, lovely girl, you deserve a proper break.

BeenieCat wrote: »

He was ok til about 30 mins ago when he started manipulating me again. Asked him to leave and he refuses cos has nowhere to go.

Rang police - well i warned him i wasn't taking anymore !!!!.

He's upstairs taking an overdose at the min.
This is where he breaks down and i feel like crap and want to help him.

You know he manipulates. This is a classic example - and I'm horrified that he brought enough "medication" to overdose on into a home with two children in it. And since he brought it all rather than just what he needed for yesterday, clearly he planned in advance that he was going to arrive and refuse to leave. Don't be manipulated by him.

BeenieCat wrote: »

Oooooooooooooooooookay

I think i may have over-reacted a tad in my bid to be all strong and take no crap.

<snip>

I've not raised my voice at all tonight, i've stayed calm and there was no "huge fight" or anything so i do feel like i over-reacted a little.

Before all of this he was good with Amber and he bathed the dog (not picked up poo tho ), and he made my tea and cleaned the floors and kitchen. But he is STILL justifying leaving me in the !!!!!! when i was pregnant and being outright nasty to me everytime we spoke when i was pregnant and after she was born.

He's trying to justify the unjustifiable, trying to make you feel like you're wrong for how you feel, blaming your mother as well as you for his problems - and he left you in the !!!!!! while heavily pregnant and to cope with the first few weeks of Amber's life alone. He effectively left you to give birth alone. Seeing him looking pathetic shouldn't stir anything in you other than a sense that he did that to himself, in your house, where your children could have seen it or got into his drugs.

Since he is apparently still alive, I'd say you underreacted. Don't go to see him and I'd seriously recommend that you call the police asking how you go about keeping him away from you and your kids once he's released.

You can do it Beenie, just keep him away from the three of you.


Another terrible night from Molly, screaming - full on outrage - for four straight hours. She seemed to just wake up and expect it to be daytime and playtime and then get angry when it was dark and sleepytime. I am seriously hurting and have a meeting to go to at 12:30 where I have to explain what I've been up to and it's not been enough because I'm spending so much time wrestling Molly at night that I can't focus during the day.

emlou2009

Hehehehehe - if you ask Seth where a hat goes he puts his hand on his head!

cazscoob

beenie i hope you managed to get some sleep last night knowing that he was in the hospital and safe. You are not feeling anything as deep down you know you have made the right decision and evn though its hard you need to stick by it for the safety of yourself and the kids. i have had that feeling and i know how strange it is and how guilty you can feel for just having had enough! i would stay away from the hosp as he will only make you feel worse, you have done your part and called the hosp. pm if you need a chat ans we are all here behind you

thanks lady am hoping for a better day and plan on buying new jeans for a hen night i have a week on sat!!!!

csh_2

Sami_Bee wrote: »

no it's not good its parp! you would almost certainly hate it, I felt a bit guilty selling mine to the unsuspecting pg girl knowing she'd probably curse the day in a few months

Whats wrong with the 3d? I have the SX Sleepover and love it!!!! It is a big pram tho and takes up a lot of room, but I wouldn't swap it for anything!

pigpen wrote: »

NHS direct are w@nk... most useless service ever provided. They decided my daughter was teething when in fact she had a raging ear infection (I knew that but was seeing how good they were) I've rang them a few times and they NEVER, not even once got it anywhere near.. Measles with Koplik spots was a viral rash and nothing to worry about.. in a 17 week old baby, bacterial pneumonia was 'just a cold'... I'd not ring them again ever!!

I rang NHS24 (Scotland) when I was so sick from the HG I couldn't think straight. They were fantactic and phoned the EPU for me and arranged everything so I just turned up at the hospital and fell into a bed and was hooked to a drip without even talking to anyone, so thumbs up from me :T


Beenie I have PM'd you. What a !!!! sucker.

I am ill! Wah wah, my throat is killing me and i'm very sorry for myself!

Went swimmimg with K yesterday, he loved the water but HATED the changing rooms! I've never heard him scream like that in his life! I was scared lol

Sami_Bee

ladybirdintheuk wrote: »

Feelie, I think Izy likes the quinny buzz (we are borrowing it to try it out incase anyone is wondering) she keeps climbing into it and trying to strap herself in. Or maybe Mumms is just rubbish at taking a hint

Cute new thing of the week. Izzy knows where her tummy, toes and nose are and also where mummys tummy, nose and toes are. She still gets confused sometimes which one is mummies and which one is Izzys sometimes :rotfl:. (And she doesn't know which is ~my~ nose, and which is ~your~ nose, but I think that comes later?

We are also a complete failure on the concept Izzys food and mummies food too

yours/mine comes much later, only the last few months that Chris has got it right consistently. We have finding nemo style 'mine' 'mine' 'mine' moments which ends in us both rotfl'ing and he get very grumpy if you say MY Julie (my sis) he says " NO MYYYYYYYYY Julie!!"

ladybirdintheuk wrote: »

Go for it Elle. We have no bread for sandwiches, so we're going to have to both have lunch from the cafe today. Not very MSE, but never mind. Izzy eats too much to just give her a taste of my sandwich now, so I have to buy her one of her very own. Won't be long before I have to get her kids meals at the pub too.

Those of you with older kids - at what point did you stop taking food along for baby when you went out for lunch, and started to feel like you should be buying something for them instead? At the moment I don't feel like I'm being unreasonable taking my own food (so long as I'm buying something for myself of course!), but I realse I can't keep doing that till she is 14

I'd buy an extra side like susan, I think I started when he was 2 - he's not a big eater but I have to get him his own if we're at a pub or something.

pigpen wrote: »

Beenie... Stop right now.. he is NOT your responsibility and as good as your intentions are you do not have the ability to help him..he needs extensive therapy and you can't do that. He is in exactly the right place to get tehe help he needs if he i grownup enough to accept he has a problem and get it sorted. If he doesn't see a problem then they willbe releasing him and he will carry on behaving like he always has. Your responsibility is providing a safe secure home for your children and if he is willing to come in the house with drugs and take them there and leave residue where they are do ou honestly think he can be part of that?

Walk away and leave him to either kill himself with his stupidity or grow up enough to accept the help he is being offered.

If you go see him in hospital he will manipulate you and he will know you are right where he wants you.. hanging like a worm on a hook.. If his daughter is not his number 1 priority she is better off without him!

You don't need him, you've already proved that to yourself. You are a strong independent woman.. and you do not need a loser like him to drag you down!!

I hope you managed some sleep because decisions today would be severely impaired if you are desperately tired!

What she said :T esp the bold bit - beenie Destiny's Child's independent woman should be your theme tune (Ali mcbeal stylee)