MSE Parents Club Part 10

Buttonmoons

Sorry I just re read that and the bit I wrote about junkie etc wasn't V nice. I didn't mean it like that though.

I just have had bad experiences with people on drugs (mugged at 15 and slashed with a knife by one) .....They freak me out!!

ladybirdintheuk

tarajayne wrote: »

Clean, lovely hospital!

It's 25mins and they have already told her she can go to the other ward for meals with the new Mums even though she isn't staying there! :A

What an improvement

cazscoob wrote: »

i have had an awful day

Poo... I'm glad you got it sorted in the end, but how stressful for you. I hope you have a better day today!

Beanie I hope you got some sleep in the end. I think BM is right. If he wants to be part of ambers life he needs to sort himself out. Was he manipulative before you were pg? I'm not clear if it was an issue long term or the way he reacted to an unplanned baby? either way, taking an OD because he isn't getting his own way sounds like another way of trying to maipulate you to me. I'm sure Weezl will be along soon to tell you what she thinks though...

saying that, where is weezl? Has she not been around in the last few days or have I just missed her?

Becles

Sorry to hear it didn't go well Beanie. Stay strong for those bairns, they need you more than him xx

I agree NHS direct are rubbish. Had some crap experiences with them and wouldn't bother with them now. Hope Kiera is better this morning.

*hugs* to all who need them.

Still busy here with a uni assignment to write. Going to finish off part 1 this morning.

ladybirdintheuk

Feelie, I think Izy likes the quinny buzz (we are borrowing it to try it out incase anyone is wondering) she keeps climbing into it and trying to strap herself in. Or maybe Mumms is just rubbish at taking a hint

Cute new thing of the week. Izzy knows where her tummy, toes and nose are and also where mummys tummy, nose and toes are. She still gets confused sometimes which one is mummies and which one is Izzys sometimes :rotfl:. (And she doesn't know which is ~my~ nose, and which is ~your~ nose, but I think that comes later?

We are also a complete failure on the concept Izzys food and mummies food too

elle_gee

Morning all..

*hugs* Beenie.. I agree with BM
*hugs* BM.. hope Keira is brighter this morning. Did you have a bad night?
Ladybird, I think weezl said hi over from her other thread the other day. Maybe she's concentrating on that for a while

We put Rhys in his own room last night but still in his crib and didn't hear a peep out of him until about twenty minutes ago. Not sure what woke him up, but put his dummy back in and his music from the monitor on and he's back asleep now

No bread or milk in the house.. poor planning! Don't know what's for breakfast. Juice and mini eggs, anyone?

ladybirdintheuk

Go for it Elle. We have no bread for sandwiches, so we're going to have to both have lunch from the cafe today. Not very MSE, but never mind. Izzy eats too much to just give her a taste of my sandwich now, so I have to buy her one of her very own. Won't be long before I have to get her kids meals at the pub too.

Those of you with older kids - at what point did you stop taking food along for baby when you went out for lunch, and started to feel like you should be buying something for them instead? At the moment I don't feel like I'm being unreasonable taking my own food (so long as I'm buying something for myself of course!), but I realse I can't keep doing that till she is 14

pigpen

Beenie... Stop right now.. he is NOT your responsibility and as good as your intentions are you do not have the ability to help him..he needs extensive therapy and you can't do that. He is in exactly the right place to get tehe help he needs if he i grownup enough to accept he has a problem and get it sorted. If he doesn't see a problem then they willbe releasing him and he will carry on behaving like he always has. Your responsibility is providing a safe secure home for your children and if he is willing to come in the house with drugs and take them there and leave residue where they are do ou honestly think he can be part of that?

Walk away and leave him to either kill himself with his stupidity or grow up enough to accept the help he is being offered.

If you go see him in hospital he will manipulate you and he will know you are right where he wants you.. hanging like a worm on a hook.. If his daughter is not his number 1 priority she is better off without him!

You don't need him, you've already proved that to yourself. You are a strong independant woman.. and you do not need a loser like him to drag you down!!

I hope you managed some sleep because decisions today would be severely impaired if you are desperately tired!

searching_me

morning ..

beanie i cant add anything extra from what has been added ... apart from if you dont do i for yourself do it for your kids imagine how much damage seeing this could do ..

bm hope keira is feeling better this morning ..

ive got my shrinky type person today feeling more positive about things but had a bad dream last night so feeling alittle pants but i'll snap out of it soon .. jaydens just sat looked at me and gone bright red .. so think its time to change a bum x

aless02

pigpen wrote: »

Your responsibility is providing a safe secure home for your children and if he is willing to come in the house with drugs and take them there and leave residue where they are do ou honestly think he can be part of that?

Beenie, please repeat this to yourself over and over. You are raising 2 wonderful children - you ARE NOT running a rehab centre! He is emotionally and physically* dangerous to their wellbeing and as their mum your responsibility is to protect them. Even if you feel sorry for him, they are still your Number One, NOT HIM.

* not abusive, obviously, but the drugs thing.

P.S. Weezl's around - she's been busy on her other foodie thread and is working today so likely won't be on here either

have a :grouphug:

SusanC_2

Grr stupid interent decided not to connect for an hour. :mad:

pigpen wrote: »

When mine have asked for 'medicine' and they've not needed it I gave them neat lemon juice on a medicine spoon... They NEVER asked again!!!

I'm only talking about if she wakes up in the night crying or something or has been ill recently and thinks she still needs it - if she just asked for it spuriously I would say no.

BeenieCat wrote: »

Rang police - well i warned him i wasn't taking anymore !!!!.

He's upstairs taking an overdose at the min.
This is where he breaks down and i feel like crap and want to help him.

BeenieCat wrote: »

I've not raised my voice at all tonight, i've stayed calm and there was no "huge fight" or anything so i do feel like i over-reacted a little.

Before all of this he was good with Amber and he bathed the dog (not picked up poo tho ), and he made my tea and cleaned the floors and kitchen. But he is STILL justifying leaving me in the !!!!!! when i was pregnant and being outright nasty to me everytime we spoke when i was pregnant and after she was born.

I don't think it's an over reaction on your part if a calm discussion on your part leads to him taking an overdose in your bathroom. The possibilities I can think of are that either he was on the edge already and something would have tipped him over anyway or he was doing it to manipulate you. Whatever the reasons, you can't be responsible for his actions - he is the only one responsible.