Wedding list: They have asked for money

Becles

onlyroz wrote: »

What on earth does this mean? I've taken my kids to a few "posh" weddings and both times they were given chicken nuggets. Why can't they be given a small portion of whatever the grown-ups are eating?

We had that! The menu was all posh and the hotel gentleman was a bit OTT with his descriptions of dishes, but we managed to finally settle on "chicken breast in a piquant jus". Then he said "oh and we'll do chicken nuggets and chips for the children".

I insisted the children had the same meal as the adults and he seemed surprised and said not many people do that.

shellsuit

red_devil wrote: »

we went to a wedding reception once the buffet food was poor quality and we were hungry and had to stop off on the way home for food. You shouldnt have to do that at a wedding reception. I guess its all they could afford though.

Good food makes an event it dosent matter whether its a buffet or not but the food should be nice and quality not cheap and nasty.

Don't be bloody ungrateful!

Of course it would be nice if everyone liked the same, but just because you didn't like it, doesn't mean everyone else didn't either.

I thought the whole point about weddings was to share in a very special day with the bride and groom ~ not to b!tch about the quality of the food.

Honestly. :rolleyes:

Ms_Piggy_2

Loopy_Girl wrote: »

Why is it rude? People spend a fortune on a wedding and they don't want a screaming baby ruining the ceremony or a rake of kids running about at the reception....I totally get it - and I'm a parent!!!!

Absolutely nothing wrong with the sentiment.

LOADS wrong with the way it was phrased. Perhaps they were trying to be funny/tongue in cheek?

euronorris

Ms_Piggy wrote: »

Absolutely nothing wrong with the sentiment.

LOADS wrong with the way it was phrased. Perhaps they were trying to be funny/tongue in cheek?

I think they were, as it's almost worded to rhyme.

But, I don't think they read it back objectively, or asked for someone else's opinion. Shame really, it would've only taken a few minutes and saved them this embarrassment as I assume the OP isn't the only one to have taken offence.

onlyroz

Becles wrote: »

I insisted the children had the same meal as the adults and he seemed surprised and said not many people do that.

Don't get me started on sub-standard children's menus. I hate the idea that when we eat out we should fob the kids off with tripe as we tuck into our succulent dinners. Don't restaurants think kids have tastebuds?

rocketdog_2

That is absolutley awful. They'll be lucky to have anyone turning up with attitudes like that!

skipsmum

tiamai_d wrote: »

How many people actually take their own children to a friends wedding anyway? The reception has always been a deffinate no, like an unwritten rule. Only children that are usually at weddings are the children in the family.

We had 60 kids at our wedding reception, and around 100 at the evening do.
I had 10 bridesmaids!
This was what we wanted, weve been foster carers for a long time and our own children have grown up with our friends children. We didn't spend much, everyone helped out with the food and decs, we borrowed circus stuff and bouncy castle from friends, and MIL made all the bridesmaids dresses.

However, I can see this isnt everyones idea of a good wedding, I think the problem is in the wording which comes across as rude. Its probably not how they meant it!

isitenough

Wow, couldn't believe the invite. Nicer ways to put it me thinks! The requests are fine, but the wording need work!

A cousin of my dad's got married last year and didn't invite children - which was fine but the children she speaks of are married in their 30's and 40's! We didn't even get an invite, they said it was a tight budget and tight space-wise. Funny that they had 120 people there and more than enough to accomodate another 120! We wouldn't have gone anyways! Given that there's only a handful of our side of the family left (only 4 out of a possible 12 went) it was strange. I'm not bothered but my parents were slightly miffed.

bex2010

I think the wording about children was a bit cringe worthy - it could have been better said. Suggestions for present: what about giving £20 - £30 but having it changed into the local currency of where they are honeymooning? or if you really prefer to buy them something what about a good bottle of champaign? But personally wouldn't be spending loads on a work colleague.

melancholly

i guess i don't have kids - but i have been to weddings, bought presents, stayed in a hotel, bought gifts for new born babies, been to christenings, bought more gifts, stayed in more hotels....... i guess i completely understand the sentiment and think it's just a joke not an insult. but people see things differently - clearly... maybe those with children should be able to realise that and this couple who sent the invite should have realised that other people don't share their sense of humour?!

storm in a teacup!