I want to leave my OH but he owes me money

Aruna

about £1600 he's borrowed off me in the last 6 months. He says he can't pay me back now because he hasn't got the money. (he works fulltime) Is there any kind of letter I can draft and get him to sign and admit that he owes this money before I leave, (incase he denies owing this money)?

It's taken me years to realise what a gold digger he's been, he's only happy and nice to me if I give him money or my cards to withdraw cash, if I say no he distances himself from me and becomes unfriendly, cold, and moody. He snaps and becomes rude if I ask him to pay it back on the day he would have promised to

I refused to let him use my debit card on monday and he hasn't spoken to me for 7 days now, he's sleeping on the other side of the bed avoiding body contact with me. I'm fed up of buying his love all the time.:mad:

whitewing

This won't be what you want to hear, but I think you will be very unlikely to get the money off him.

If you want to leave, then I would do that anyway, rather than put up with his behaviour.

Of course, it has taken you a long time to realise. I have the same problem with certain members of my family and I've only started putting my foot down at the end of last year.

faithcecilia

One of my exes owed me money (over £2k). He never denied he owed it, but it was in the end the only thing that kept us together. It was a lot of money, but accepting it was gone and stopping thinking of it as owed was what finally freed me of him - I no longer had any reason to communicate with him. I still see it as the best £2k I ever spent!

Running_Horse

I had the same with an ex. It's only money. Get over it and move on with your life.

Firefly

I think £1600 could be a small price to pay for your sanity and a happy future. Leave him very very quickly and move on.

cobbingstones

I was just gong to say the same as firefly. Think of the money as an investment for a much better life and get rid of this awful man who can't be helping your self esteem if he treats you with such disrespect.

Go for it! Forget the money, move on.

miss.bint

Are you Kerry Katona!? ;):D

Just kidding!
Seriously, don't hold your breath for getting your money back - just get rid of him now before you give in to him again!

He's a leech. And you let him, he'll bleed you dry.

busiscoming2

Agree with all the others, leave anyway and accept the loss of £1600.

MrsTinks

You could get a written letter signed by him admitting he owess the money and then you MIGHT be able to go through small claims - but it would depend on him signing to admit he owes the money and then that he has the means to repay you... And it would still not be a given that small claims would find in your favour.

Barny1979

Yeah, sack him off, you may be down £1600, but getting rid of him now will save you thousands in the long run

dtc04

what are the chances of you getting the money back even if you stay? Hes still trying to get money off you so Im guessing not very high

I know its a lot of money but personally I would cut my losses, £1600 isn't worth you being miserable