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Craftyscholar wrote:

Remind us O_M what is he good for?????????:think:

Sorry but he really is annoying your virtual friends.

He'd be more use if they were Rover taps.

oakdale_minx

sssssshhhhhhh...........you will make me giggle out loud and he is under the sink now..........hopefully I will have water again soon!!!!!!

Got a letter from Cruella about the re-structure - it doesn't cover everythind discussed so I'll be going back to her and HR on Monday about it. I have to give a decision either way by 2 March.

polki

Hi OM

I can't wait to hear if he fixes the taps! We will all have a party if he succeeds. :beer:

Who is going to put the flat pack together? He could really earn some brownie points here.

and who is going back to MFI for the missing bits? :rotfl:

How is the car going?

Glad to see that you are shopping for the holiday - it shows that you in the right frame of mind.

Good luck with Cruella. :eek: Surely HR took notes. Why have they suddenly changed the date? I'd like to be a fly on the wall when you take her on again.

You sound much brighter. As someone said earlier - it reflects your improved financial situation. Well done on all counts, and enjoy the fishcakes!

oakdale_minx

Give him his due, he fitted the new tap and stopped the leak under the sink. I now have a new tap and can also dry off the stuff under the sink. We'll be doing the furniture between us, but as I've been waiting two years for him to decorate the bedroom and he faithfully promised it would be done by the time the furniture arrives i'm thinking I'm going to be living with boxes in the spare bedroom for quite a while.

The car is good. It has developed a very intermittent squeak on full lock when reversing during a three point turn on a narrow road, I'll have to keep an eye on it.

I lay awake thinking about work last night and it hit me hard that I'm making the decision to refuse a trial for a job I can do standing on my head, that I did for years before Cruella arrived on the scene and years before I started at my current organisation. I'm putting my financial future in jeopardy by almost asking for the redundancy money.

How stupid am I? I realised that I could end up in a situation without a job and using the redundancy money to pay the mortgage each month. All because that silly cow has trodden me so far down into the dirt I can't even breathe any more.......in effect she wins.

However, tomorrow I am going to ask the HR manager to put in writing how long the trial would be, what my situation would be if I said it wasn't working and she said it was (the scenario he said I could end up forfeiting my redundancy) and what my situation would be redeployment/redundancy wise if I turned the trial down as all this was missing from the letter.

I'm almost bloody minded enough to take the trial and then at the end say it isn't working. But if Cruella was being clever and said it was, I could end up with no redundancy and save them £19,000. So I'm not going to give them the option.

As soon as I get the answers from HR, my letter will be going in turning down the trial although goodness knows what I will say when I start being asked why.

OH got quite.....domineering... I think is the best word about it on Friday night. I got a bit upset and he couldn't understand why. He said I had to 'stop revelling in the sympathy vote from people at work who say 'there, there' but do nothing constructive to help'....maybe he is right, but it has been a horrible experience and I feel I'm having to make a very difficult decision. Or maybe he should realise he should never have a job with the Samaritans....

I'm very unhappy about this 'performance' meeting on Tuesday. Cruella is going to be doing her Maggie Thatcher caring compassionate act and I'm probably going to look like the villain. I haven't been able to do anything right for her and she is just using me for almot some kind of sick thrill. I just hope that if there is re-deployment, whoever the manager is understands why I've done what I've done.

BoingBoing_2

oakdale_minx wrote:

OH got quite.....domineering... I think is the best word about it on Friday night. I got a bit upset and he couldn't understand why. He said I had to 'stop revelling in the sympathy vote from people at work who say 'there, there' but do nothing constructive to help'....maybe he is right, but it has been a horrible experience and I feel I'm having to make a very difficult decision. Or maybe he should realise he should never have a job with the Samaritans....

GRRRR that man makes me wanna spit! At least you get sympathy from ppl at work, seems to me that you get little or no sympathy from him at all! (And NO he is not right. Men rarely are lol) It sounds a very stressful situation to be going through, and sometimes you do need a bit of sympathy, it reminds you that ppl do care even though they may not be able to offer any solution.

There there :grouphug: hehehehehehehehehe!

PS has any1 else noticed that if you move your cursor over the group hug icon, it actually says 3some???????

oakdale_minx

I've just sat and worked out when I would leave if they don't find me any re-deployment. The day before my birthday - ouch!!!

I've already started planning what to do though. I will do AQA as much as possible and probably do some ebay selling. A few years ago I toyed with selling on antiques from auctions. I'll step up the mystery shopping as there are loads I don't take at the moment and I'll make up any monthly shortfall with redundancy money each month. I might even take a part time admin job in the mornings maybe and top it up with AQA until something 'career wise' comes along.

It is scary. I was made redundant in 1999 but was living with my ex so we just used his salary and my redundancy until I got another job. That wasn't so bad, but when I look back, we frittered horrible amounts away on meals,holidays and antiques. Makes me wince now thinking back about how much longer the money could have lasted.

I caught the very end of Pay off You Mortgage in 2 Years. It was looking back at some couples who attempted it and one chap was selling chocolates and giving truffle making displays at sheltered housing accommodation. He is making £800 a week! He showed how they were made, gave out samples and then took orders for boxes of them.

The area I live in is ram packed full of sheltered housing - if I could get the courage and confidence maybe I could give something like that a shot.

Bunnyinthelights

GO OM!
That man was a TOTAL flake (excuse chocolate pun, but seriously! What a twit!) DO THE CHOCOLATE THING!!!
(I, for one, will be beating down your door for a truffle)
I'm trying so hard to understand this job situation (who'd guess I went to uni, lol) but it really makes my brain hurt. I wish Cruella dead and I wish your OH would just join the circus and let you find a lovely SUPPORTIVE man.
Can I come down for a weekend and do soem cheerleading-'Go OM! You're the Best!' to help boost your confidence? We all think you are a star and I admire you so much.
Bunny

oakdale_minx

oh, bunny you are so lovely! Keep reminding me to check at my onsite news agents to buy the magazine with you in this week!

Funnily enough, the chocolate guy is a member of MSE!!! I looked at the programme thread and he has posted a couple of times.

My job situation is basically -

I've been in my job for 8 years and I have 16 years in total experience.

6 years ago my job was changed a bit and became two separate areas, but one of the areas wasthe one I have 16 years experience in.

Cruella wants the job to be 100% the area I have experience and feels it is a significantly different post so is allowed to offer me it on a trial to see if it suits us both. She is basically kicking me as she knows this job is my background.

I'm a tad insulted as it is basically the job I was doing when I joined the organisation 8 years ago!

My choices are to either take the trial, or not.

If I take the trial and all was hunky dory then I would just do this new job, but I'd be stuck with her.

If I say it worked and she said it didn't after the trial finished I would be re-deployed and then possibly made redundancy.

If I say it didn't work and she said it did, apparently this means I'm turning down 'suitable alternative employment' and means I could forfeit my redundancy if no re-deployment was found for me. However, the HR manager said Cruella wouldn't do this. But I want it in writing.

If I turn down the trial, I would go to re-deployment on 1 April. HR would then have 7 weeks to find me a suitable new job at my organisation. If this failed, I would be made redundant. But I also want this option in writing because it was discussed in the meeting but not detailed in the letter.

It's basically take the trial, or not. But I'm covering all aspects in case they try to get clever!

tootz

can someone please explain mystery shopping to me and how to get involved in it please?

Tootz

Bunnyinthelights

OM-
Let me get this straight-they want to trial a job you already do?
MAN, let me at that Cruella beyatch! She needs a rigth seeing to!

So, chocolate man is somewhere lurking *shhhhhhhhhh, be very quiet, don't want him to hear me saying he was a !!!!!! CLiff Richards impersonator* hummmmmmmmmmmmmmmm, seriously, I keep shouting at the screen when he was on! Over spending £2500 A MONTH!? Even I with my montrous debt wasn't THAT bad!

I've had a hellish day, I had the little one I child mind for the last 4 days 13 hours each day and she has doen nothing but whinge, cry, !!!!!! and puke. My own 2 klids were little devils as well and my husband is now pushing me to back to a 'normal' job as it's been so stressful this weekend...What could I do that would bring me in £1000 so half could go to childcare and the rest to my debt?! But sanity is a priority.. I don't like who I am with my own kids half the time from stress...

Answers on a postcard please...
Bunny