9 areas of my life are a mess, I will make each area better every day in 2010

renovation.girl

the director of the company has just lied to my face. its a good job im with fairies or i would have punched her in the mouth

MissOptimistic

Hi Renovation Girl - just a quick post to say Hi :wave:
I love your 'diary' and really admire the steps you are taking to try and improve your life - I disagree that 9 areas is too much to tackle at once, just a few small changes in each area, will make a great difference to the quality of your life - I look foward to reading more!

renovation.girl

today im going to write my letter of resignation (but not date it) ready for the day i leave (imminent), should be good therapy lol. iv got to ring my nvq assessor first and be sure i can finish my course first, but im nearly there so shouldnt be a problem. then i used to work for someone who said they would take me back if i ever needed a job so hopefully if i phone her it should be ok to go back. iv got to give 8 weeks notice or forfeit a referance, seems a bit harsh but hey, i cant work with people who lie, its messing with peoples lives.
my ou course looks like it might be fundable which is great, just waiting for confirmation.
the ginseng is really kicking in now, i feel all capable and feisty, just got to put the new energy to good use.
social services are coming round at 9am so i better go do a bit of tidying up.
take care folksies xxx

renovation.girl

i rang the lady i used to work for yesterday. she said shes got 16 hours for me and was pleased i phoned. im going to see her on friday. cant wait to stick my notice where the sun dont shine. it would be nice to work in an environment where there was a bit of mutual respect, especially considering its childcare and kids pick up on all this stuff.
i went babysitting last night again and earnt £32.50 (paid to study for 4 1/2 hours, great!), im saving some of it for christmas next year. i cant believe how well im getting on with the children, their parents cant get them to go to bed without a fuss, they are little angels for me lol
im feeling really positive today. one thing i didnt mention is that i lost some hair a short while ago and its all growing back now so i feel like i look better which is important.
iv got my christmas present socks on and the fire is blazing in the living room, things are good xxx

have a great weekend xxx

and woohoo i just sold my first thing on ebay, probly @ £14 profit. is my luck on the turn? i think 2010 is going to be a good year

niksyg

Rengirl - things def seem to be looking up for you! I agree with what you say about doing things cheaply doesn't have to hurt, and actually I think that you become happier becauseyou find pleasure in little things because you can't have expensive things! Over the last couple of weeks I have managed to pay £100 off my Overdraft all from ebay profit...it's a great way to get rid of debt and clutter!
Enjoy your fire and have a good weekend!x

PS..how's things with your daughter?

MrsMoo2U

Hi, I just came across your diary via the todays posts links. I am inspired by your positive outlook. It sounds like you have your sights set on the future and the big picture. It takes a lot for us to get to the point of knowing that we need to change, and then even more courage to pinpoint what areas need changing. There is a really good personal development course called Springboard for women that helps you to focus on the different areas of your life and make an "action plan" for improvements. Your post reminded me of this and I have searched out my workbook. I have to say that since doing that course (which effectively is what you are doing) I have
Been divorced ( my relationship evaluation was the main sticking point)
Moved to a beautiful seaside town (always wanted to live by the sea)
Got a new job (had been a civil servant for 25 years and latterly hated it)
Started writing (albeit not for public consumption YET)
Reconnected with my best friend and soulmate and we now live together.

I hope that you get there with your 9 areas. Believe me it is possible (although I still have things to work on) and as others have said, small steps in each will impact on each of the other areas. With regards to your relationship which you say still needs work. I would say - be honest with yourself. Write down what you want from your relationship - what you currently have - what you used to have - what is lacking. Once you are clear in your own mind why you feel a need to do something about it then it will be easier to plan ways of improving it. I found when I did this that my hubby and me really had nothing in common. I loved to debate issues (he saw it as an argument) I love to be creative (he liked to sit in front of telly) I loved the outdoors (he liked the pub). We are both so much happier in our lives now. I am not saying you will split up but you will work out how to spend time together that is quality time rather than just existing alongside each other.
I will lurk if you dont mind and maybe post sometimes. Good luck with the ebaying.

renovation.girl

hey folks
things with my daughter are ok, theres a lot of work ahead but the problem was i never put my foot down and set boundaries, bit of a hippy really. so we are not living together at the mo but spending the odd evening/weekend together working on our differences. social services are nosey but they do have resources which can help people in our situation. we have had a troubled past and we are both trying to work through it. theres lots of love and we are going to be ok but just need to sort a few things out.
things with my partner are ok but im sick of carrying him, he has not been in work since last summer and its a real drain on me. consequently i think resentment is brewing as much as i try to be patient. we are not intimate with each other really. hes my best friend and i want it sorted but it takes effort on both sides i think.
im halfway down a bottle of rose cava, can u tell? hic. i won it in a raffle. what a treat. we are having approvedfoods nut roast for dinner later with roasted (reduced) veg and mashed potato. and if im not too sloshed im going to try to gather my ebay sellable things in one place and take photos ready for tomorrow nite.

the world looks so nice thru a rose tinted couple of glasses lol

just going to have a look at springboard now. thanks everyone, i appreciate the replies, makes me feel less lonely xx

Poosmate

Hi Reno, I'm glad to see positive changes happening for you already. You go girl!

I'm still butt clenching and belly crunching (still not slim though I have too much blubber! and don't do it often enough, might go on a diet one day but probably won't). My mom has not been very well recently and is having tummy troubles (constipation). I realised that I never suffer such conditions and I firmly believe that it's the subtle belly and butt "exercises" I am doing. I don't suffer from bloating or trapped wind (very often, although that could be down to the fact that I live alone and so am totally uninhibited). I've suggested my mom does these simple and subtle "exercises" to see if it helps her.

This thread is great! It makes me feel all warm and fuzzy inside.

Keep it up Renogirl, I'm following you (not in a stalker kind of way!)

Poo

renovation.girl

Poo you make me laugh! I have days of terrible wind but i put it down to my diet being so full of pulses, u can put lentils in anything and they are so cheap and nutritious.
i had a good time at the bootsale this morning and picked up a ceramic coffee maker from 1960 made by russell hobbs and wedgewood, it was 50p and they go for @ £25 on ebay so im chuffed, i also got two dorothy perkins suits in immaculate condition, 50p each, already in the washing machine so im ready for any interviews, i got some vintage perfumes in their boxes for ebay, and a big carrier bag full of fruit and sweet chesnuts for £5, and some other dry foods near sell by date, red rice, seeds and herbs.
im taking my daughters to the cinema this afternoon (we bring our own pop and popcorn and two tickets were from lovefilm so just got to pay for my youngest) then when i get home im going to list my mountain of ebay stuff. whatever profit i make is to pay off my overdaught (like u niksyg)

vegetable curry for tea, my favourite. hope you are all having a lovely sunday xx

MrsMoo2U

Hi, wow, things are moving on for you already. You must be relieved to be sorting things with your daughter. You are so right about things need effort from both sides. I found that I became resentful and very lonely but I didnt have anywhere like this to come to vent at that time. You moan as much as you like here, getting it off your chest sometimes helps to put it into perspective.
That car boot sale sounds amazing. That is something I will have to get into methinks. I guess also that you are a vegetarian - veg curry is my favourite too.
Poo you are so funny I laughed out loud and needed that right now. I will be stalki oops sorry I mean following with interest.
Hope you all had a great Sunday