Some advice please, what would you do?

evian1

hi, well its all such a mess now! I called the crisis number and explained things to them, well anyway he's in hospital the social worker and doctors offered him a bed and he took it, but he didn't really have much choice, he has gone willingly and not been sectioned. I know he's in the right place for help but I know he'll never forgive me for this! I feel I've really let him down.

shellsuit

evian1 wrote: »

hi, well its all such a mess now! I called the crisis number and explained things to them, well anyway he's in hospital the social worker and doctors offered him a bed and he took it, but he didn't really have much choice, he has gone willingly and not been sectioned. I know he's in the right place for help but I know he'll never forgive me for this! I feel I've really let him down.

Oh honey, you have done the right thing!

You haven't let him down at all ~ he's in the right place so that he can get the help he needs.

I hope he's back with you soon and feeling much more himself x

Mrs_Moc

He's lucky he has you, you have been very brave and when he starts getting better, he will be very grateful to you. I hope he recovers soon for you and the family. You have done the right thing.

Money_maker

You've not let him down. You've looked after him by getting him help. Tell me, if the roles were reversed, would he not do the same to help you?

When he is really better, he will be the man you have loved so strongly and will understand had you not acted, terrible things may have happened.

You have been so brave for yourself and your family - this can only help bind you all together x

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

They wouldn't offer him a bed if he didn't desperately need it.

You've done the best thing (and bravest) for everyone, whether he knows it or not.

Well done - I am sorry if I upset you with my earlier posts, but you have not let him down - you may well have saved him from doing something terrible to himself or to others.

The best analogy I can give is this (but I'm a bit of a mad animal woman, so this is the best I can do)- one day I saw a cat get hit by a car. I ran over and crouched in the middle of the road and got large male friend I was with at the time to stand beside me, making cars drive around us rather than over her whilst my DD1 got the owner. As she was being gently moved to go to the vet, she bit me. Hard. She didn't understand I stopped cars from squashing her - she was frightened and needed treatment.

It's not about being thanked for it. It's about doing what had to be done.

And I am sure that everyone here admires you for doing it.

daska

... and breathe ...

I've been coming back to this thread all day getting more and more anxious, I'm so glad you made that phone call. He will thank you when he is well enough to realise how bad it had got.

(((BIG HUGS)))

jackieglasgow

I've just read this entire thread from start to finish and am in tears. You poor woman. Give yourself some TLC, go to your mother, sister or a friend and get a hug. You have been so brave and sensible about this. He will forgive you when he's better, and you'll both be relieved when life gets back to normal and he is stabilised, able to recognise the people he loves, and you and your children are safe.

Jackie

BitterAndTwisted

Good work Evian1. I'm so relieved. You've done the very best thing possible for your husband and for your family. It was a very brave and selfless thing to do and I admire you for it as I can understand what it must have cost you to do it.

I'm sure when your husband is back to his old self he will understand completely why you needed to do this for him.

LydiaJ

The others have already said it all, but I just wanted to add another voice to the chorus of people telling you that you have done the best thing for him, as well as for you and your children.
It sounds like a lot of people on this thread are so proud of you for what you've done, and I'm one of them.

*Louise*

So glad he agree to go willingly. That alone should tell you not to feel guilty - he knew it had to happen and you are not responsible. You helped him, and one day he will thank you for it

xxx