Some advice please, what would you do?

belfastgirl23

Also just as an aside, it's very very rare on this board for everyone to agree and the fact that we all agree completely that you are potentially in danger and need to act as soon as possible to protect your entire family (including your DH) should tell you how serious this is.

verysillyguy06

Totally agree, it wont get better without change of medication or at least another apponiment with his specialist. He is losing hold of reality and is almost for sure connected to his mental health problem.

Has he been drinking over the holidays? This can play into his behaviour.

Phone his GP unless its the same that has been so helpful to you, in which case call the specialist he is under.


Also once things have been sorted, see if your husband could not arrange for his specialist to be more in contact with as well as you surely should have some information on his condition. He also mahy at the moment not take his medicine. Some just stop because they think they are better....


I would still consider taking kids maybe for the w/e to mums......


Good luck but please act !

evian1

Thanks for your replies and concerns. It is true whoever said it's gone on for quite awhile it seems almost normal for him to be like this, although the past few days he's been fine. And I do know that he would never ever hurt his children. He is not a big drinker and we only ever drink together over a meal so I know its not alcohol related.

paddy's_mum

For God's sake woman!

You could "never get him sectioned" Why the hell not? If he fell down, broke both legs, suffered coma inducing head injuries and needed massive amounts of emergency help, would you truly, really stay silent and deny him your help and then tell the coroner that it was because you knew he hates needles and hospitals worry him?

If you think we're all so mistaken in feeling such fear for you and your children, let alone your husband, why not phone your Mother and ask for her honest, blunt, speaking-out-of-love for you advice. Perhaps you'll listen to her and get yourself to a place of safety.

Women's refuges are full of people like you who hung on out of misplaced love and ended up being beaten black and blue. There's a place for loyalty and I'm the first person to applaud it ... but for the sake of your children, this isn't it. Can't you see that? ETA On what basis, other than trust, can you say that you know he would never hurt you or the kids? I can point to a graveyard's worth of people who believed that until events proved them disastrously wrong.

I'm bowing out now before I say too much and wound you while also getting myself banned. I wish you luck, genuinely I do, but find it hard to sit back and support someone who is behaving in the same short-sighted way as those idiots who take their young children walking along the seafront during extreme weather. Good luck but please, please reconsider your position and take action NOW!

JBD

evian1 wrote: »

Thanks for your replies and concerns. It is true whoever said it's gone on for quite awhile it seems almost normal for him to be like this, although the past few days he's been fine. And I do know that he would never ever hurt his children. He is not a big drinker and we only ever drink together over a meal so I know its not alcohol related.

Evian, I'm sorry but you can't be absolutely certain that he would never hurt his children [or you or himself for that matter]. I don't wish to be rude, I'm sure he may be a lovely man, but many violent acts are commited by mentally ill people during psychotic episodes. That doesn't mean that the person concerned is a bad person but that they are unable to control their own actions or to act rationally.

Zazen999

evian1 wrote: »

Thanks for your replies and concerns. It is true whoever said it's gone on for quite awhile it seems almost normal for him to be like this, although the past few days he's been fine. And I do know that he would never ever hurt his children. He is not a big drinker and we only ever drink together over a meal so I know its not alcohol related.

You don't know that - read your first post on here again. In your own words, he thinks they aren't his children.

We replied because you asked and yes, we are concerned. I'm not sure what you wanted us all to say when you asked for advice - did you want us to say 'sit tight and cross your fingers'?

joeblack066

I would leave.

shellsuit

What would I do?

Honestly?

I'd have him sectioned so he can get the help he needs.

If you truly care for him and your children, you will do this so he gets the attention he needs.

JBD

Evian, as a former nurse I would like to add that I do have some experience of working with mentally ill people. I can clearly remember being attacked by a patient with schizophrenia. It happens every single day. When stable they can be totally calm and pleasant people yet when psychotic they can be capable of extremely violent behaviour.

*Louise*

Reading the first post gave me a shiver of unease

Get yourself and your children somewhere safe then get him help

You may think he will never hurt you or the children, and usually you would probably be right, but it sounds like he is losing stability and you CANNOT predict what route he will take....and you said yourself that he occasionally says they are not his children.....

Paranoia alone will take over, don't just sit and wait for a major incident, please get the kids out of the way and have someone else help you to help him.