Now What Would You Do In This Position?

daska

Sally, did you ever contact the CSA? Now would be a good time as you can give them the name of the company he works for and as soon as they contact him he becomes liable for paying maintenance.

kindofagilr

MichH wrote: »

Sally you sound like a great Mum and have done exactly the right thing by letting the kids make up their own minds.

My Dad left my Mum alone with me and my brother (we were 5 and 3 at the time, now 39 and 37). Dad had access to us 24/7 but chose to leave and not look back. 2 years ago (over 30 years after Dad left) I got an email from a girl claiming to be my half sister, I have since found out I have 4 siblings I didn't know about and have met them.

I have since met with my Dad a few times, but it is a struggle - my Mum never once slated him, but I know he never gave her a penny after he left, nor did he bother with me and my brother. By allowing your kids to make up their own minds they will be grateful for that as they get older, they may or may not want to build a relationship in the future with their Father (my brother doesn't want to know our Dad). I always thought having my Dad in my life would fill the void that I felt was missing, all it has done is prove to me that my Mum did a great job of bringing us up.

I hope that this situation resolves itself without putting you under too much stress, you've had enough of that already! Take care.

Thats something that has me wondering, I mean dad was 26 when he left, so I could have brothers or sisters somewhere and I really wouldnt know??

Zazen999

kindofagilr wrote: »

Thats something that has me wondering, I mean dad was 26 when he left, so I could have brothers or sisters somewhere and I really wouldnt know??

I found one of my half siblings through the infamous Facebook.

kindofagilr

Zazen999 wrote: »

I found one of my half siblings through the infamous Facebook.

LOL

I wouldnt even know where to start looking

SallyUK

HIya Daska

Yes, away at the beginning, but they said then that they couldn't get involved due to the fact he was working in Middle East, but was paid by his company who were based in America. They told me this was out of their jurisdiction.

Sal
x

daska wrote: »

Sally, did you ever contact the CSA? Now would be a good time as you can give them the name of the company he works for and as soon as they contact him he becomes liable for paying maintenance.

SallyUK

Quite possibly kindofagilr

I always used to think what if I met someone I really, really liked and it ended up we were related, or my kids did! :eek: Don't suppose it's that impossible, is it?

Sal
x

kindofagilr wrote: »

Thats something that has me wondering, I mean dad was 26 when he left, so I could have brothers or sisters somewhere and I really wouldnt know??

Zazen999

SallyUK wrote: »

HIya Daska

Yes, away at the beginning, but they said then that they couldn't get involved due to the fact he was working in Middle East, but was paid by his company who were based in America. They told me this was out of their jurisdiction.

Sal
x

That's interesting; I wonder if because you opened a case whether it would be backdated; to when he came back into or started working for a company in this country?

SallyUK

Hi Zazen

According to that page I found about him, he's still working abroad.

Sal
x

Zazen999 wrote: »

That's interesting; I wonder if because you opened a case whether it would be backdated; to when he came back into or started working for a company in this country?

Zazen999

SallyUK wrote: »

Hi Zazen

According to that page I found about him, he's still working abroad.

Sal
x

Oh, sorry - I assumed a british company. Doh!

daska

OK, I'm just nosy, I googled the info you put in the thread and it came up with one result which was in scotland (though the company is american).