Sashybo's Random Waffles

macgirl

Defo claim for JSA - don't be ashamed! That's what you pay tax and NI for. Pity there as there are so many getting it who have no intentions of ever working (there are a whole family of them near me :mad:) - and there's you in need and won't. Please claim it - you need it

I'm sure the medical and the GP's report will go well. They shouldn't penalise you for what is an illness, so try to stay positive. It's a short period of your life that is in the past.

Good luck with it and have a good weekend xx

sashybo

Thanks mac, I know I should have claimed and could have been claiming for the last two months at least but just couldn't face it. I think I might have to though, as even if I'm offered this job it will still be a few weeks before I start and we are so so skint right now. It's silly really as I know quite a few people claiming due to losing their jobs and they are all decent people looking for work.

I'm trying not to panic about the GP report but will be so upset if it means I don't get the job. My GP is usually very good though and she knew that it was my previous work environment causing the anxiety and could see the difference in me once I'd handed in my notice. I wasn't on medication but did have a previous spell of depression when I was on anti-depressants, stopped taking those 3 years ago though.

OH says occupational health are just covering their backs because it was relatively recent but I can't help being a worrier.

macgirl

I know what you mean, because I'm a total worrier too. It helps if you "act" a bit though. Just be open and unashamed about it and be confident that you dealt with it correctly and are now over it.
They don't need to know you are a worrier, you need to bluff a bit and don't wear your heart on your sleeve.

It's just another life experience. You're not the first person to go through depression and anxiety (I did and both times it was very debilitating) and you sure won't be the last.

Be positive x

sashybo

Thanks again mac, I'm worrying that I didn't explain my anxiety well to the occupational health nurse (i.e. what was causing it) but hopefully the GP report will clear it up and put their minds at rest. I'll just have to hope for the best.

I wish I was a positive person but can be very negative a lot of the time. I think I need to re-train myself or something as it does affect me a lot - I always think the worst or think "I can't do that" and make life more difficult for myself by worrying obsessively.

My mum did say she thought I should go to an assertiveness course (is there such a thing?) as I'm not very confident in myself in unfamiliar circumstances. On the other hand my OH is very confident and assertive at work and in public but suffers from crippling self-doubt at home - and no-one he works or socialises with would ever know. He went for counselling when he was going through a really bad patch a few years ago and it really helped him.

Not sure if I could go for counselling as I find it difficult to talk about things that are worrying me - and have always been the same ever since I was a child. I've always found it easier to write down how I'm feeling.

psychopathbabble

Hi Sashy, sorry I have been so quiet but I have been supporting you!! Hopefully they will still employ you, they may just want a chat about the circumstances of the stress and sick leave?

But you are right, it's best to be honest.... I would only be worrying they would find out later on!!

Hugs and good luck xxx

sashybo

Thanks Psycho, yes I'm hoping they just want to check to make sure it's not ongoing and won't affect the new job.

Had quite a productive day today by tidying the house and getting rid of several bags full of clutter. :j Our dining table is clear for the first time in literally years - it's usually piled with bits of computers courtesy of OH.

Also cleared some stuff out of the pit that is the spare room and OH has found more stuff to ebay. Managed to get rid of some of the cardboard boxes he likes to keep lying about "for ebay" but somehow never uses. :cool:

Going over to my mum's tomorrow since it's her birthday on Monday and giving her her present. Going to make chocolate cupcakes for her in the morning, don't want to make them tonight as don't know how I'd store them and the cats would try and eat them. :mad:

Wesker

sashybo wrote: »

I wish I was a positive person but can be very negative a lot of the time. I think I need to re-train myself or something as it does affect me a lot - I always think the worst or think "I can't do that" and make life more difficult for myself by worrying obsessively.

I'm quite similar to you, i have little self confidence and always run myself down. The job i have at the mo, i have been there 8+ years, longer than anyone else as people come and go a lot, but there are people that have only been there 3 years that are now supervisors.
But i dont want that, even tho i'm sure i could do it, i just dont want the added responsibility and pressure. I just want to go to work, do my job, go home and get paid at the end of the week.
If we weren't at opposite ends of the country i'd get you a job here. We could talk about cats all day long

sashybo

Hi Wesker, yes we must be quite similar - I too just want to do a job and go home and not have to worry about it or have added responsibility even if I were capable. It's hard to get out of a negative way of thinking and it's very ingrained so it's automatic.


:rotfl: Yes, I would enjoy talking about cats all day long. Most of my family are used to me talking about my cats as though they're my children i.e. "The girls did this today..." My mum even calls them her "grandcats". :rotfl::o

I worry sometimes that I'm like one of those obsessive mums that only ever talk about their children.... but I'm even worse because they're cats!

sashybo

:rotfl: Just read my previous post and realised that I sound like a mad person.

It's my mum's birthday tomorrow, so we went to see her and ended up going down to my sister's with her. She was delighted with the digital radio we all paid towards and also got her a box of Hotel Chocolat chocolates.

I made some chocolate cupcakes with chocolate frosting for her instead of getting a birthday cake. The kids got so messy eating theirs :eek: - my sister had to strip the twins. :whistle:

The kids were all excited because we had balloons and were running about mad. The twins were so funny and loved the balloons. My brother had a hangover and at one point was lying in the middle of the living room floor surrounded by balloons and shrieking kids. :eek::rotfl:

The kids then decided to start dressing up - oldest nephew wore a Batman outfit, youngest nephew was successively a pumpkin, astronaut and then Pooh Bear (he really likes dressing up!) and the twins were police and then princesses. :rotfl:

That house is never uneventful.

sashybo

Have been quite lazy today so far but really need to clean the bathroom and do some ironing. Should probably do the hoovering as well but not feeling terribly energetic.

Was having a look on Amazon for books for my nephews - youngest has his birthday in August and oldest in September and usually get them books and clothes instead of toys. I'm liking the look of this one for the youngest but will see if I can get it any cheaper and have ordered this one for the oldest as got him the first two (which he really enjoyed) and it's cheap atm. Need to have a look for the twins as well but am more used to picking books for wee boys instead of girls!

Just read on the pad thread about DT's granddaughter and thought it was so sad. My nephews and nieces are the centre of our family and it would be so hard if something happened to any of them. Poor DT, just hope that they all manage to get through it.