am i the only single parent on here

TIGs

I just miss having someone to do things with for me.

Been in a relationship for four years which ended 2 days ago although i felt alone for the last year of it, feeling very hurt and alone at the moment cos the only person i can talk to (my sister) is on her holidays and i don't want to spoil her holiday telling her whats happened. My kids are sad as they keep seeing mummy crying even though i am trying not to do it in front of them. I feel tired all day but try not to fall asleep as i can't sleep on a night. As soon as my head hits the pillow it fills with lots of stuff which makes me restless so no sleep then either.

I suffered from depression a few years back when me and my husband split and i'm scared of going the same way again. I just feel so alone.

Sorry for going on and feeling sorry for myself but felt i needed to talk about it.

Thanks

wishingonastar_3

big hugs to you tigs, you know you'll get there, you have before and will again.

i'm a single mum too, one dd aged 10, light of my life, and its hard work, but worth every bit of it.
i love my independance, and doing what i want when i want. lol. if anyone wants to chat about it, or needs an ear, pm me. been on my own 6 years now and wouldn't change it.

Katyag

My husband left (it was mutual) yesterday so im in a bit of weird place now too. Didnt sleep well last night, put off going to bed til i was falling asleep on the sofa and then when i went up to bed i lay reading a mag for ages again. Was nearer 4am before i fell asleep and then DS was thru 7-8am ish.

Feel sick, no appetite, family dont know yet and i think we are off to a family little birthday tea party today. Husband is coming round on his way to work this evening so not sure how to deal with it when i see him.

Have no transport and need to get shopping, so looks like its back to buses everywhere.

bestpud

This thread couldn't have come at a better time for me!

I am about to seperate after 19 yrs and will be on my own with our 3 children. I'm obviously frightened, even though I know things can't really be worse in the long term, but it's reassuring to hear the good points and know people do manage to move on and enjoy life.

So thanks for making my day a bit lighter,

bestpud

TIGs

Good luck Katyag

I feel the same as you at the minute lost half a stone in a week cos i just feel constantly sick, like i have a brick in my stomach.

If you have msn messenger drop me your addy and maybe the next time we're both awake all night we could have a chat and keep each other company.

Take Care xx

Katyag

Thanks Tigs, ive lost nearly 2 stone in the past few months with the worry of all this happening. Thats a good thing cause i could do with losing quite a bit! My MSN addy is under my avatar pic.

Had a friend round for a little while last night and that helped but not sure im seeing anyone tonight. Still not sure if we are having the family tea party, need to get a present out anyway and get a face on and try and act normal. To scared to tell the family yet because i know im going to get a load of 'i told you so's'.

TIGs

I've added you Katy.

Try not to listen to your family if they say i told you so they'll come round. I'll never forget my sister telling me when i split from my hubby that i was only doing it becasue i wanted to be the centre of attention. Took a while to get over but i managed eventually and we're as close as every again now.

Going the picture in a bit its my sons 9th birthday so gonna try to go out, tried yesterday but kept crying thank god for sun glasses. At least no one will see me in the dark.

Maybe catch you tonight if you're about, take care and keep your chin up xxx

suesuesue_2

Afternoon ladies,
it will be a tough time for you guys for a while, but time does make things feel better, honest!
Keep just getting through each day at a time, reward and congratulate yourself on each success (no matter how small it may seem)

And if you need a chat, hug, moan or cry, i'm usually about on
https://www.loneparents.org

take care
(((((hugs)))))

loopy_lass

im a single mum, have a 15yr DD, she a good kid really, bounces off the boundaires at times, but gets bounced right back ;-) no time or interest in men at the moment, too busy with my daughter and degree & my little doggie

her dad decided a week before she was born he had "changed his mind"... not seen or heard from him since, no money for support either, i am also alone in this world, no family (grew up in care) so its just me n DD against the world... hard hard work, but im doin a degree while she gets to 16 i graduate as she leaves school next year....

hang on in there, it can be done xxxx

loops

Prudent

loopy_lass wrote:

im a single mum, have a 15yr DD, she a good kid really, bounces off the boundaires at times, but gets bounced right back ;-) no time or interest in men at the moment, too busy with my daughter and degree & my little doggie

her dad decided a week before she was born he had "changed his mind"... not seen or heard from him since, no money for support either, i am also alone in this world, no family (grew up in care) so its just me n DD against the world... hard hard work, but im doin a degree while she gets to 16 i graduate as she leaves school next year....

hang on in there, it can be done xxxx

loops

You have obviously put a lot into giving your daughter a good upbringing in very isolated circumstances. Good luck with the degree.