am i the only single parent on here

Doodles

Hi Tracie
I'm a single mum too. Have a wonderful 10 year old son, brought him up alone for the last 8 years and although at times it has been extremely hard, life is more easier now in many ways (well, until he hits his teenage years I suppose!).

Prudent

Sunnydoo wrote:

Me too-i have a 7 year old DD

Gave up a steady job to do an access course & eventually train as a teacher

Don't have family nearby so it's difficult but we manage ok ![/quote

I am in a very similar position. I am a single mum, one daughter 14. Been on my own with her for four years. I have no family locally, but do have good friends. Like you I manage, but combining single parenthood with teaching can be tough going.

KathrynPenguin

I am a very recent single mum, hubby moved out a month ago and still appears but really only causes more grief when he does. My DS is just 4 and way too much of a handfull for me! He loves male company though and when taken anywhere will search out a "daddy" to play with.

balijay

Yep single mum here too! DS is 7 and DD is 3. DD has taken our divorce a lot harder than DS has - she just has no idea why daddy no longer lives at home and she is finding it tough. Am determined to stay amicable with ex for their sake though - its easier for them to deal with and that in turn makes it easier for me. Would like to know what others think about meeting someone new - would you stay single rather than risk putting your kids through another messy break-up?? I'm not sure - I,m only 25 but my kids have to come 1st at the end of the day.

Prudent

I have chosen to remain single. My dd was very pushed out of her dad's life when he left. Until then she was very much a daddy's girl and it hit hard. He has lived with a couple of other women who have children since and she has felt (and has been treated as) very low down his priorities list. Anyone who I have liked enough to date has had children and it has made dd feel very insecure. She has also found it hard to adjust to the other children being in the equation when she has been bought up an only child. I guess if I met someone who I liked who didn't have children, or whose children had grown up it would be different. However dd also nearly grown up herself, so wont feel tied for ever.

astonsmummy

I'm a single mum too! Have been from pregnancy, My DS is now 2!
It is hard, i'm lucky to have a very supportive mum. To be honest i hate being single, most of my friends are in relationships and some are even married! (i'm 21)
But i would rather be single than back with spud's father!

RVK2

Single mum of 38 in Hampshire. I have a daughter of 12. Been on my own 2 years now after 14 years of marriage. Finding it difficult to have any kind of social life as I don't have family very close and only a couple of friends that I'd trust with DD - I guess that what happens when a Geordie moves South and is shy too! lol

Broken_hearted

I'm not a single mum but as OH is disabled I am restricted as if I was. Other than the company I have to do everything by myself and have to find childcare if I want to go out.

Prudent

RVK2 wrote:

Single mum of 38 in Hampshire. I have a daughter of 12. Been on my own 2 years now after 14 years of marriage. Finding it difficult to have any kind of social life as I don't have family very close and only a couple of friends that I'd trust with DD - I guess that what happens when a Geordie moves South and is shy too! lol

Hang in there. I already had good friends in area when marriage split. I found that friendships grew stronger - I had fantastic support from friends- and I got some great new friendships too. Accept help, even if its only asking somone to pick something up when they are shopping. Most people like to help each other out. We have an inbuilt need to give to each other - I think its to do with our sense of worth. Your friends will feel trusted and valued if you let them help out. There will be opportunties to do things for them too, so don't feel bad about it.

tankgirl1

astonsmummy wrote:

I'm a single mum too! Have been from pregnancy, My DS is now 2!
It is hard, i'm lucky to have a very supportive mum. To be honest i hate being single, most of my friends are in relationships and some are even married! (i'm 21)
But i would rather be single than back with spud's father!

snap!!! except my DS is only 9mths, and im 26

i too hate being single- i really miss the companionship more than anything. and having a wee baba means its not easy to get out and meet people!