am i the only single parent on here

elisebutt65

Another one here:hello:

I've been divorced about 3 years now. Have 2 boys - 11 and 6. Eldest has ADHD and is a real terror!!

I have a long term boyfriend but we're not going to live together as it's just too much aggro - we both like our own space;)

I'm at Uni fulltime, studying for a degree in Tourism Business Management and am about to start my final year, then I'm going to do a PGCE in further education so I can be a lecturer, even though the money isn't as good as a teacher, I can get better hours.

I moived to the Midlads about 6 years ago just before littlie was born as my then husband had to transfer for work and so I ended up stuck here, basically . I have eventually found some friends but it is soo hard, especially when most of them are form Uni and therefore about 20 years younger than me - lol

flufff

Been single since 2001.I'm 34 had been married and with him for 10 years when he !!!!!!ed off and left me with my 9 week old son.I had 3 children with him plus my eldest is autistic from a previous relationship.Made my life hell through couyrts for 2 years before it came out he was under a physchiatrist which explained alot.
At first all I wanted was someone to love me,never thought it would happen then I discovered the kind of men interested in single mums are either spongers,layabouts or want no strings sex.So I made a conscious decision for my kids sake to stay single.I did go through a phase of dating but just made a few good male friends not relationship material,but wouldnt have them round my kids either.
I think at first its very daunting being alone.I worry as i have no family,no social life no close friends but me and my kids do lots together they keep me young.
But as times progressed Ive actually discovered I like my own space,money and freedom and not having to answer to a man.
Having said this I now have someone in my life past few months.I only see him weekends as he lives 60 miles away.Has a divorce to go through and has to sell his home.It suits me but we want a future together.If things go pear shaped I'm staying on my own as you have to get through too many bad ones to find a decent one.
The internet is a great place to meet people.Good cure for lonliness in evenings but be careful if you meet anyone,people arent always as they seem.Beware of dating sites men are just out for sex in general.

sticher

chatta - SNAP!!

Fiona

scoobydo_2

Hi I'm single now for almost 4 years since ex left me and the kids lad 14 girl 12 !!! Its not easy but I set up as a childminder and am ok . But very lonely as its left me with out any friends I never go out as I don't have real friends just people I know if that makes sence .

Alison

astonsmummy

tankgirl1 wrote:

snap!!! except my DS is only 9mths, and im 26

i too hate being single- i really miss the companionship more than anything. and having a wee baba means its not easy to get out and meet people!

Tell me about it, i do get to go out some weekends, but u cant really meet blokes as they r usually after one thing!

The other thing i hate about being single is holidays!!!! Y are we penalised for being single? would love to take spud abroad but the prices are extorshinate! (soz cant spell)

Kimberley

I'm a single mum to 3 and to be honest, it's great to have independance I love being single, although i do miss the company at night :rolleyes:

elisebutt65

Kimberley wrote:

I'm a single mum to 3 and to be honest, it's great to have independance I love being single, although i do miss the company at night :rolleyes:

Yeah but you get to sleep diagonally across the bed, steal all the pillows and roll up in the duvet - lol

mgardner

traciemk wrote:

hiya im tracie single mum of 3 children
am i the only single mum on this site love to chat to other regarding how you cope being on your own........................

No of course you are not love, theres loads, this is a great site to chat with
others in the same position.

I was a single Mom to teenage kids and am now a single Nan ( my Son recently got divorced after 17 years, My very much loved Daughter in Law is being a real pain about access, so its a battle. Hang in there love and post on here you will soon get the support and advice that makes it all worthwhile.

In the meantime If anyone wants a Single Nan, (Grandma) please get in touch, have three other friends in the same position and we oldies get lonely too and would love to be useful again.

Destiny33

Its so nice to know that single mums here arent treated like lepers lol

As some may know from previous threads (i know, i talk too much lol) DS is just turned 3 (where does time go?) and i've been a single parent since i was a few months pregnant.

Does get lonely sometimes but thats a small price to pay and i'm very lucky and happy with my lot

Here is my salvation, he is in bed now and i'm saving money and hopefully will manage a wee holiday later this year, not been away for 4 years so fingers crossed.

thanks everyone for all help and support, cant thank some people who will know who they are enough

D
xxx

Jet

mgardner wrote:

In the meantime If anyone wants a Single Nan, (Grandma) please get in touch, have three other friends in the same position and we oldies get lonely too and would love to be useful again.

What a lovely thing to say. I often think there is probably a generation out there without grandchildren who would love to have them.

My son doesn't see his Dad's mum because my ex hasn't spoken to his Mum for 5 years and now doesn't know where she is. If I thought it would be beneficial, I might try and find her myself but it will upset the whole family including the only Aunt and Uncle and cousins he's got.

My Mum's not on the scene either and both grandads have died. So I know my son would love to adopt some grandparents!