am i the only single parent on here

TIGs

i will be taking my kids on our first holiday on our own bit scarey for me but i'm sure we'll have a great time.:j :j :j :j

We're going to Disneyland Paris at christmas, i paid for it with tesco clubcard deals and what i'd saved in the £2 coin saver club on here along with £76 i'd made on quidco.

My daughter is 12 now so i have had to pay full adult price for her but as my son is only 8 he gets child prices, looking forward to it even though i worry about going on my own with the kids i'm sure we'll manage we always do :j

bella4uk

Single mum to 6 kids here. boys 15 13 9 , daughter 8 and boy girl twins 4. Their father died 3 years ago and life has been hell but we have made it through, we were seperated at the time but he still saw the children frequently and was a great dad. It is amazing how you cope with things when you have to, I have had some low times and I think I drink a little bit more than I should a few glasses of wine a night whereas I was only a social drinker ....but hey, it gets me through. And 4 months ago I met a wonderful, intelligent, gorgeous new man who treats me like a princess, so any single mums out there thinking no-one will want you, I am the proof that this is not true.
On another point if anyone on here has lost lost their partner their is a wonderful site where there is a discussion forum to talk to people in the same position, here is the link
http://www.merrywidow.me.uk/

traciemk

thanks for everyone support:p
i just cant get used to the lonelly times
i speak to a few mums outside school gates(the odd hello hows the kids kind of thing but all they talk about his there other halfs)
really need friends who we can go shoppiing with or have a bit of social life ie go out for game of bingo or maybe a chat and drink

just have not got any close friends

moggins

traciemk have you looked at a site called Netmums? It puts you in touch with other mums in your area. I had some great times last year meeting up with other mums and letting the kids play together whilst we all chatted in the park.

suesuesue_2

another site which you may find helpful is loneparents.org
Its a site for single mums or dads, and has lots of useful advice and support via chat rooms.

suesuesue_2

mgardner wrote:

In the meantime If anyone wants a Single Nan, (Grandma) please get in touch, have three other friends in the same position and we oldies get lonely too and would love to be useful again.

I've also recently seen a site called adopt-a-granny.co.uk
It is like an introduction agency for families without grandparents, or garndarents wthout families,
might also be worth checking out??

110frankie

can a man butt in ?
I was alone for seven years after my split up.
My, now beloved, was alone for 11 years with two kids.
The trick, we feel, is to put a lot of effort into finding friends, through work, websites or social clubs etc but don't go searching for a partner.
If there is one out there it will happen.
But your children come first in any relationship.
We've been lucky, I not only found my soul-mate but gained two smashing sons and two wonderful grandchildren.
But we have seen a lot of mistakes made, by men and women, because they got desperate and went for anyone who would warm their bed.
As some have said on here, there is some fun in being single as well - the freedom, the space to do your own thing. Enjoy that and, if you want it, I hope you find someone as wonderful as I did (and my beloved says she did!)

flossy_splodge

If you can manage it you say something like " Mummy had to go to do some stuff but she still loves you and wants me to tell you that". I made the mistake of being too honest with mine as I was bitter, hurt and felt so misunderstood and alone. However now some years down the line I wish I had kept stum about the ex's behaviour. Kids are still in contact and I feel I am on the outside now. Try to keep a bright exterior no matter how it hurts, it will be worth it i promise you. Hugs.:o

comping_cat

Ive been a single mum now for nearly 7 years, i have two wonderful children, DS 9, DD 8. I dont have any family nearby, but i have some lovely friends, some in the same boat as me, but i agree with some of the others, i am very happy most of the time, but sometimes it would be nice to have someone to share things with. In June we went on holiday to Florida (3 years of saving, plus a small loan) but it was wonderful, and the sense of achievement as i was able to do it on my own has been amazing!!!!

Becles

catowen wrote:

and the sense of achievement as i was able to do it on my own has been amazing!!!!

That's what I liked best.

Although I never went as far as Florida - just drove up to North West Scotland but it was just me and my boys :cool: