Help me be strong-I cant cope

lisa.m_3

Hi just a quick one just to say I'm still finding this so hard and thanks for all your support.

pammyj74

This next year is going to be fantastic as long as you dont give in and give up. I hope you have a Happy New Year hun for you and your boy.

sazzybum

My ex husband tried this one-changing it to his name, and when i called and explained it to them, they put a password on the account so that only I could call them and discuss it. Same with Child Benefit. This was a few years ago-but I'm sure they still do it. Once you change it back to your name-ask if you can do this. Godd luck chick! Be strong! xx

worriedsik

lisa.m wrote: »

Hi just a quick one just to say I'm still finding this so hard and thanks for all your support.

Good morning Lisa & a Happy new Year
Of course its difficult lisa just ask yourself what would be worse ? are you finding it difficult to live with him or leave him ? probably both thats why you are finding it all hard and confusing
when somebody you love is controlling you like this it is emotionally torture & you will be hoping that it will get better if you stay with him
Hope is a great thing when directed at the right situation

He was in a pub yesterday spending money whilst you and your little one walked about in the cold trying to scrape up some money to for food !!
Did he return last night ?
I really wish you would call that womans aid number because what he is doing is a form off abuse & you just may need that little bit off help to keep strong

x

lisa.m_3

Hi everyone

I did abit of thinking last night Ive decided although my feelings are hurt I will get over this but it's going to be hard

The things I hate the most are having no supportive family or friends around me.
If he does leave and take the laptop I'll just save slowly for another and i the meantime use the computers at the library or surestart centre.

I want to start work straight away I want to work in a nursery although I'm not qualified Ive searched and written the numbers of preschools that may take me otherwise i'll volunteer my way to qualification.

On Monday I have a early doctors appointment after I take my son to his first full day at school so that gives me time to ring up income support, go to the college or child information services for advice on working in a preschool then go home and ring around my list of preschools on my neighbors phone and also while I'm at the job centre I'll sort tax credits out or might do it tommorow on my neighbors phone hopefully they are open ?

Now I just have to get through today and the weekend. which is going to be hard.

candygirl

Sending you massive ((huggles)) hun, as I know how bad emotional abuse can be, been there done that etc:mad::mad:You are now in the position of making a great life for you and your child, it will take a while to build yourself back up from this, but you will emerge stronger, I guarantee that:D:D
He sounds like a weak and manipulative bully if he has to resort to playing mind games with a 4 year old:mad::mad:.You're well rid;)

worriedsik

lisa.m wrote: »

Hi everyone

I did abit of thinking last night Ive decided although my feelings are hurt I will get over this but it's going to be hard

The things I hate the most are having no supportive family or friends around me.
If he does leave and take the laptop I'll just save slowly for another and i the meantime use the computers at the library or surestart centre.

I want to start work straight away I want to work in a nursery although I'm not qualified Ive searched and written the numbers of preschools that may take me otherwise i'll volunteer my way to qualification.

On Monday I have a early doctors appointment after I take my son to his first full day at school so that gives me time to ring up income support, go to the college or child information services for advice on working in a preschool then go home and ring around my list of preschools on my neighbors phone and also while I'm at the job centre I'll sort tax credits out or might do it tommorow on my neighbors phone hopefully they are open ?

Now I just have to get through today and the weekend. which is going to be hard.

All good positive thinking lisa :T there is support for you here over the wkend xx

busiscoming2

Just wanted to say you are doing so well and you have recieved some great advice.

Don't worry about what he says to your son, he probably won't remember! It doesn't matter what he says or how he words things to other people, the people that know you will see the truth.
Is he really moving out? If you are in rented accomodation is it not possible for you to move out? I don't know if it is the same now (but when I was in your position 15years ago) my local authority paid housing benefit for private rental. Might be worth asking them.
I wish you luck and a happier 2010.

jackieglasgow

Lisa, Happy New Year, Happy New Life!!

On page one someone told you to bookmark this page and come back in a few months and read it, you should do this already. Read your first few posts, and then reread your last post. Look how much stronger you are becoming already. Well done, you are obviously a very strong woman, and now that you are starting to rediscover your strength, you'll be able to deal with this pathetic excuse for a man on your own terms. No decent man would ever treat the mother of his child in this way, no matter what his feelings for her were.

At the risk of sounding very cheesey, you go girl!

Jackie X

pammyj74

Your last post sounds so much better already Lisa, very positive thoughts and a goal to aim for with working. The job centre should be able to help you, even if they suggest a college course in childcare and you may get a apprenticeship (a job where you have day release for college) When you ring the schools ask if they take apprentices so you can get paid as you earn your qualification.

You life starts now Jan 1st is going to be the start of something great for you hun.