Help me be strong-I cant cope

lisa.m_3

Hi everyone and thanks for replies,

Today has been HARD omg I never thought how hard it would be I have not long got in, we went out at 9am went to the job centre I told them I need to claim income support and need a crisis loan, they gave me phone numbers to ring which are free from landlines but I cant ring them in the job centre and because I dont have a landline we went to a phone box there were hardly any available so I had to walk down the hill and found one outside the art college and omg it was smeared in poo!:mad:
So we walked to the pavilion and there were two red ones both stank of wee and were full of booze and dirty, anyway I rang the number and was on the waiting list thing you know 'your call is in a queue blah blah blah' for 20 mins with a freezing four year old he was shaking so I had to go.

Went straight to my doc's who had a prescription waiting she'd written she wants to see me so we ended up waiting 45 mins !!!

Then I got my son some chips with the last pound I had he ate them and we went home I asked my neighbour if I could use her landline and she said yes, I rang for the crisis loan and was on hold for about 30 mins and the call was 40 mins, they agreed I could have £30 for food and had to go out to get it at half 2 by this time it was 2 o clock so I got my son ready and we rushed there, we were late so we had to wait until 3:mad: then we got seen at 3.15 then I had to go to the post office to get the cheque, then we got some food and got in just half an hour ago....

I still need to ring up for income support can I do this on Saturday ?
I also found out he changed tax credits back to his name:mad: so need to change that back Saturday using my neighbours phone again...

Now I'm home I'm feeling bad again the busy day has kept my mind busy.

God this is so hard.

kindofagilr

I am so sorry you are going through this

Does your partner work?

Just I am thinking once he leaves, or once you find somewhere else to live with your little one then you should be entitled to more tax credits

worriedsik

lisa.m wrote: »

Hi everyone and thanks for replies,

Today has been HARD omg I never thought how hard it would be I have not long got in, we went out at 9am went to the job centre I told them I need to claim income support and need a crisis loan, they gave me phone numbers to ring which are free from landlines but I cant ring them in the job centre and because I dont have a landline we went to a phone box there were hardly any available so I had to walk down the hill and found one outside the art college and omg it was smeared in poo!:mad:
So we walked to the pavilion and there were two red ones both stank of wee and were full of booze and dirty, anyway I rang the number and was on the waiting list thing you know 'your call is in a queue blah blah blah' for 20 mins with a freezing four year old he was shaking so I had to go.

Went straight to my doc's who had a prescription waiting she'd written she wants to see me so we ended up waiting 45 mins !!!

Then I got my son some chips with the last pound I had he ate them and we went home I asked my neighbour if I could use her landline and she said yes, I rang for the crisis loan and was on hold for about 30 mins and the call was 40 mins, they agreed I could have £30 for food and had to go out to get it at half 2 by this time it was 2 o clock so I got my son ready and we rushed there, we were late so we had to wait until 3:mad: then we got seen at 3.15 then I had to go to the post office to get the cheque, then we got some food and got in just half an hour ago....

I still need to ring up for income support can I do this on Saturday ?
I also found out he changed tax credits back to his name:mad: so need to change that back Saturday using my neighbours phone again...

Now I'm home I'm feeling bad again the busy day has kept my mind busy.

God this is so hard.

Hi lisa
sounds like you had a tough day did you get a good chat with your doctor ? i cant believe he has changed the tax credits to his name !! is this legal ? has he used the money ? surly it isnt all his ?
Lisa is he still there ? sorry i might have missed something in an earlier post
i would seriously consider leaving him if he is there and phoning the number you were given earlier & they will help you out doing all the financial stuff etc , you really need to have somebody like them to advice you as a bag off chips is not good enough for the wee one ! not your fault i know but what a pig not letting you have money to feed the child ! :mad: iam so angry for you xx

worriedsik

PS...that is a form off abuse lisa you shouldnt have to be walking the streets trying to get money !! where is the excuse off a man when you were dong this ??

belfastgirl23

lisa.m wrote: »

Hi everyone and thanks for replies,

Today has been HARD omg I never thought how hard it would be I have not long got in, we went out at 9am went to the job centre I told them I need to claim income support and need a crisis loan, they gave me phone numbers to ring which are free from landlines but I cant ring them in the job centre and because I dont have a landline we went to a phone box there were hardly any available so I had to walk down the hill and found one outside the art college and omg it was smeared in poo!:mad:
So we walked to the pavilion and there were two red ones both stank of wee and were full of booze and dirty, anyway I rang the number and was on the waiting list thing you know 'your call is in a queue blah blah blah' for 20 mins with a freezing four year old he was shaking so I had to go.

Went straight to my doc's who had a prescription waiting she'd written she wants to see me so we ended up waiting 45 mins !!!

Then I got my son some chips with the last pound I had he ate them and we went home I asked my neighbour if I could use her landline and she said yes, I rang for the crisis loan and was on hold for about 30 mins and the call was 40 mins, they agreed I could have £30 for food and had to go out to get it at half 2 by this time it was 2 o clock so I got my son ready and we rushed there, we were late so we had to wait until 3:mad: then we got seen at 3.15 then I had to go to the post office to get the cheque, then we got some food and got in just half an hour ago....

I still need to ring up for income support can I do this on Saturday ?
I also found out he changed tax credits back to his name:mad: so need to change that back Saturday using my neighbours phone again...

Now I'm home I'm feeling bad again the busy day has kept my mind busy.

God this is so hard.

That all sounds really hard and depressing. But just to say, you did it so well done! You don't sound like an incapable person to me!

msb5262

I'm with belfastgirl23 - well done. You got through a horrible hard day and did what you had to do. This is just the beginning and the very hardest bit, so take heart. You are also in the best place on these boards for advice and help; everyone is here for you.
Happy 2010, Lisa - things can only get better.
MsB

lisa.m_3

Just a quick reply, he is not here but he did ring and and by the sounds of it was in a pub he asks all nicely about his flight booking apparently no money was taken from the acount but I do have an e-mail confirming it. he is going for one week from the 10th till the 17th. made me think he does only speak nicely when he wants something.
Cant remeber if I had written I saw a text he wrote to his friend this morning saying he is going to move out in the new year or he had more written my wife is putting me on the street.

rachel6188

no advice lisa just massive hugs and support - people here are here for you. take care of yourself hun. are the tax credits in your name or his?? if both contact them and let them know that your ex husband has changed it and is there anything could be done to stop him. xxx

daska

Lisa, you need to get out of there. Keeping you and the child short of food is abuse.

Ring the Refuge ASAP and take whatever help they can offer. They will help you with the benefits, finding a new place to live, everything.

Iapetus_2

I cant offer any advice, just my support. I hope that this is just the first step on the road to a better life for you both. Things sound really bad for you at the moment, I hope that from here things can only get better.

I'm disgusted that your partner is treating you and your son (his son too!) so badly.