just found out hubby having affair

blackpongo1

I have restarted this thread from 26/12/09 for thuse who did genuienly want to help/ give advice THANKS

To date the kids will still visit their dad on thur but i also got a email from him today there was no harseness in it and i had explained to him in a prior email that i didnt want kids to meet his new family but in this email today he said he has no new family the kids are is family I'm so confused???????

delain

Make sure he doesn't run off with them. My ex refused to hand mine back, i had to go to court and all sorts because he claimed i was doing drugs/sleeping around. I wasn't! Get it legally arranged first!

worriedsik

Hi blackpongo

lets hope that this thread stays on the important topic ie you

Ok well i seem to have missed a lot off the last post so........Has he actually went off with another woman ?

blackpongo1

to keep you up to date
after 2 wks of soul searching etc on xmas night i decieded to snoop in his email facebook and bang there was this hussy proclaiming love etc etc etc
so after gathering heart from bed i confronted him about it and i end one f didnt meet the other and i kicked him out .
toss all clothes etc etc out on boxing day and he duly collected i swore that he wasnt going to see kids etc until id seen slictor but fabforty and other kind people get great advice
last night my mum shoed ger aggressive side towards hin after i had said he was going to see kids on thur (shouldnt be doing that etc) so caught between rock and a ahrd place
well today got email from hubby today no aggression in email and when i had agreed to him seeing the kids i told him the kids were not allowed to see his new family but jis email yoday he had no new family i'm very very confused?????????????

msb5262

Hi blackpongo,
Have been following your fortunes - just wanted to say well done for starting a new thread. The previous one lost its way...let's just hope that the posters concerned won't follow you here.
You need sound advice and support; not sure if I can offer much advice but am here to support you.
I'm divorced with three children and can at least tell you how it is, five years down the line - basically ok. Life is good. I'm sure you'll get through the next few weeks/months and feel much better.
Your ex will need to see the children, and they'll need to see him, but try to make sure they're really clear about what is happening when. Also make sure you're clear about when/where they'll be back home.
Best wishes,
MsB

worriedsik

hi pongo

what are you confused about ? is he seeing another woman ? where did he go when you put him out ? x

Zazen999

What did you mean when you told him you didn't want the kids seeing his new family?

blackpongo1

yhe new family i refer to is this hussy and her 12 yr old daughter because i presum that is where he went when i kicked him out
im confused in the tone of his email when he stated that he had no new family so what was/is she where is he if he is not with her as i had said in the previous yhread i stll love him even after all this i know thats hard for many of you to understand but that what i feel

Zazen999

Well, in that case he is being pedantic...don't presume anything. Just say that you don't want the kids seeing his mistress.

worriedsik

Ask him where he is staying pongo

onetomany

you have the right to no where hes taking ur kids hun x