MSE Parents Club Part 9

Krystaltips

Urgh, just got a waste of paper letter from the CSA telling me nothing I didn't already know... But it's addressed in my married name... I've never changed it with them because the less he knows about our life the better... Hubby says it doesn't matter whether he knows or not... But I don't want him getting all territorial and feeling he needs to stake a claim or something...

jillie1974

Tigsteroonie wrote: »

Good point. Mind you, I don't think I've actually tried on any clothes in a shop for donkey's years, I generally buy big and then take it back if it looks ridiculous. Perhaps I should have told them I'm fed up with dressing in Tesco & Asda clothes?

i just said i have no fashion sense whatsoever and just dress the same all the time.should have said i'm an asda girl!! then they asked me who's 'style' did i like... mind went blank.... so i said holly willoughby lol!!! can think of loads now

just wait and see now. prob wont get picked

angelfairy

Krystaltips wrote: »

Urgh, just got a waste of paper letter from the CSA telling me nothing I didn't already know... But it's addressed in my married name... I've never changed it with them because the less he knows about our life the better... Hubby says it doesn't matter whether he knows or not... But I don't want him getting all territorial and feeling he needs to stake a claim or something...

how is that they have got your married name then??? i didn't think agencies really spoke to each other.

Krystaltips

angelfairy wrote: »

how is that they have got your married name then??? i didn't think agencies really spoke to each other.

As a rule they don't... The only thing I can think of is child benefit, I don't know any other way really... Maybe someone else will know... <ahem>3<ahem>

angelfairy

Krystaltips wrote: »

As a rule they don't... The only thing I can think of is child benefit, I don't know any other way really... Maybe someone else will know... <ahem>3<ahem>

ah that's a point, although a bit poor security wise if you didn't want the other person knowing your married name and change in circumstances.

angela6834

AF...hope things start to get better for you soon. I had really bad sleeping problems with DS and all i can say is, like everyone has, it does get better ( he is 17 tho!! only kidding) DD1 and Rose were and are both angels for sleeping but it honestly not down to being a good mummy or not as they have all been put down the same. Im sure the sloppy kisses in the morning make you feel better. The poem for Weezl made me cry too.

MFD...missed Benjamin's first word...bless, they are growing up so fast

Feelie...I hope you can speak to someone soon and feel a bitter. I have no experience of this but hate hearing you feel so down.

Weezl...you are such a lovely person, I really dont like the tought of you doubting yourself at all. Im sure if you can manage to get some sleep, you'll feel much better. There is 17 months between my eldest 2 and i know i found the second pregnancy hard. You are such a support to everyone on here. I hope you can feel that back when you need it x

My_Fathers_Daughter

Oh my lord!!

My heart is thumping so much!!

The big boys at the *quango I work with* want to come and meet with us on Tuesday for us to prove that what we said in our tender was true. As long as they are happy that we weren't telling porkies (which we weren't) then we will be awarded the contract in Mid-Feb!!

Not celebrating yet, and it could still be a long time yet - some of the ladies here weren't even mummies yet when the initial decision was due (8th November) but it is all looking VERY positive!!

Mini YAY!!

I actually heard that they were coming to see us a few days ago but I didn't dare believe it until I just received an official meeting agenda now!!

Scared!!!

Pink_Princess_1

Krystal - We have had lots of dealings with the CSA and I can honestly say they are a nightmare. We found out in Oct that not only had OH's son left college and was working full time but he also didnt live at home. We reported his ex to the csa but they told us the if she was claiming CB we had to pay. They advised us to report her for benefit fraud which we did in oct and heard nothing.

Oh stopped his direct debit in Dec and we get a phone call this week to find out why?? So what I did this week was find out ex's phone number and rang her pretending to be from a government agency to see if her son was still in full time education. She answered all my 'security questions' and then eventually admitted he didnt go to college and what would happen to her for claiming:eek: I told her to ring the csa and CB to say she wasnt entitled and they would make her pay back the money. I cannot believe if the fraud dept had made this phone call back in Oct we would have had it all sorted by now! Have informed CSA of this and they were ringing her this week so just waiting for an update. Oh is so annoyed that hes paying her £200 a month for nothing

Good luck MFD - keep us updated - how exciting for you

feelinggood_2

How exciting mfd! Keep us posted, I've got
my fingers crossed!

3onitsway

Krystaltips wrote: »

As a rule they don't... The only thing I can think of is child benefit, I don't know any other way really... Maybe someone else will know... <ahem>3<ahem>

And she appears.

Hmmmm - i'm not sure. CSA have access to Child Bens and Tax credits systems, as well as the central benefits database that has everyone who's ever claimed anything on it. But I think they're meant to use the name they have on record unless you have asked them to change it in their records.

Does Aimee have your name now?, or your old name? That could cause a lot of problems if they send a letter to him putting Aimee down as another name? Not like legal trouble, but the change of a childs name is something that winds men up!


(((Hugs))) Weezl - I hope you're napping.
I always think that the hormonalness (did I just make up a word?) of pregnancy is something nobody warns you or tells you about. I, and more so OH was quite shocked when I was pregnant and turned nuts!

Thought i'd tell you all something funny.
My DD came down last night, very late with a pained expression on her face.
Me - What's wrong?
DD - I'm not telling you.
Me - Well I can't help then.
DD - No, you'll laugh at me.
Me - I won't laugh, I promise. What's wrong?
DD - No, you'll laugh.
Me - I promise.
DD - I'm really really ded constipated!
Me - :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

I'm such a rubbish mummy!

This morning she said 'I can't go to school, what if I need to do a big fart in class'. :rotfl: ( I told her to tell Miss to pull her finger).