MSE Parents Club Part 9

csh_2

weezl74 wrote: »

Hi again,

I'm feeling really down today and yesterday.

I think it's tiredness (been up since 3.30) the weather and hormones. But it's manifesting as tearful overwhelmedness, financial anxiety and questioning myself, friendships and relationships

might try to see if I can ask someone to have F a little while this afternoon so I can sleep...

xxx

Awww, Weezl huge hugs xxxx

I think the weather and the January blues is probably playing a big part x
Everything seems a million times worse when you are tired so please do try and get a wee respite from fergie and get your head down.
Go straight to bed, don't worry about any mess or anything and I promise things will seem so much better when you get back up.

We are always here for you x

angelfairy

Sami_Bee wrote: »

buy a bigger bed?
Night honey xxx

we have thought about that

ladybirdintheuk wrote: »

Morning all. Elle I thought you were turning in early last night?:rotfl:

And AF and Beanie (and everyone else too!) I hope you all got to sleep in the end. When did you start your new regime AF? We have been doing ours since last tuesday night and she has slept through the last 3 nights. I'm still having to gently hold her down to start with, but when she calms down I'm just sitting next to her and doing the occasional back rubbing. So we till have a little way to go, but it is taking less time to get her to sleep than it was when I was feeding her. You will get there

hi lady,

last night was my first night of doing a 'routine' with all intentions of sticking to it. i am going only the lines of gradual withdrawal with a bit of cc thrown in (in terms of not letting her push me around as to what she wants to be doing - ie. going to sleep in my arms or in my bed, although i never leave her inthe room on her own when she is crying)

by golly it was hard, but i got through it and will be doing the same tonight with a few slight tweaks so not as to confuse her.

after i went to bed last night, she went through to 3.10am. i managed to get her to settle herself without too much of a problem. she then went through to 5.30am. as she normally wakes up around 6ish and has some of a bottle, i decided to let her have her bottle then. i did that and she was again awakish when i put her down and she then woke herself up at 7.30 am.

i am wondering, should i do the story after the bottle so that she is more awake when i put her in the cot or whether to do the book before the bottle and just not let her go off as much on the bottle as i did last night.

she wont have a bar of me trying to hold her hand or put my hand on her chest when she is crying. she just pushes me away.

i am hoping she doesnt hate me as when i said to her this morning 'kisses for mum' i got a nice open mouth kiss straight on the lips :T

weezl - have you had fairy post yet???

morning all

got-it-spend-it

weezl74 wrote: »

Hi again,

I'm feeling really down today and yesterday.

I think it's tiredness (been up since 3.30) the weather and hormones. But it's manifesting as tearful overwhelmedness, financial anxiety and questioning myself, friendships and relationships

might try to see if I can ask someone to have F a little while this afternoon so I can sleep...

xxx

Oh Weezl, big hugs.
I know you wouldn't, but don't under-estimate the effect of pg hormones on your state of mind. I think I only really realised after I had H just how overwhelmed I'd been by it all. What I'm trying to say is it's totally normal to feel like you do, not that that's much consolation. I think getting someone to watch Fergie so you can relax is a fab idea. Do you have someone you can ask?

angelfairy

weezl74 wrote: »

Hi again,

I'm feeling really down today and yesterday.

I think it's tiredness (been up since 3.30) the weather and hormones. But it's manifesting as tearful overwhelmedness, financial anxiety and questioning myself, friendships and relationships

might try to see if I can ask someone to have F a little while this afternoon so I can sleep...

xxx

oh weezl .... big hugs and loads of tissues for you

good idea to get someone to have F for you, i would more than happily offer my services but couldn't get to you in time.

please dont question yourself, you are absolutely amazing in all respects and i think i would have everyone's agreement on here about that.

we love you
xxxx

csh_2

AF: I do bottle downstairs and go upstairs and into bed for story.

quite often K just wants left alone when he is tired, like just now for example he was sitting crying on my knee, obviously tired, but wouldn't settle.
I've stuck him in his pram and hes pulled the blanket over his head and went to sleep.
Sometimes people are annoying when you are tired, even when its mum and you love them x

weezl74

angelfairy wrote: »

weezl - have you had fairy post yet???

sorry AF I meant to come on last night when my neighbour popped round with it (our letterbox is a wee bit wee!) and say a huge thank you, but then I got a bit down and preoccupied .

I am very grateful though, and impressed that your fairies have piccies of your Avatar on their labels :cool::p

My_Fathers_Daughter

Hiya AF - same thing again tonight is the only way I am afraid. She is bound to be resistant and cry because she wants things to be how she wants them.

If you are definitely trying to separate bottle from sleep then maybe a bottle and then a quiet read when she is sleepy is the way forward? Or would it wake her up again?

LOL!! I'm lots of use aren't I!!

I do agree with csh though, when Benjamin is tired he doesn't want a bar of me, he just wants to be left alone....but not 'alone' alone LOL.

We have never mastered patting either, and he only wants to hold my hand when he wants to IYSWIM.

angelfairy

weezl74 wrote: »

sorry AF I meant to come on last night when my neighbour popped round with it (our letterbox is a wee bit wee!) and say a huge thank you, but then I got a bit down and preoccupied .

I am very grateful though, and impressed that your fairies have piccies of your Avatar on their labels :cool::p

of dont apologise, i just wondered if they had found you in these weather conditions.

hehehe at pic. i was trying to find something 'fairy' orientated to put on the label. i have a thing about nice things with wings

i really do not like the thought of you being down. you are an amazing mum and wife and growing another gorgeous wee one and that is absolutely brilliant no matter what else.

xxx

searching_me

((hugs)) weezlie i know that feeling all to well .. stress while pregnant though is never good hope you manage to get some sleep..

going out today to find out if philips pay was correct but gay OH said he worked a solid 2 weeks and only got £150 so something dodgy is going on .. jayden trying toast for the first time and he loves it .. im not completely sure if hes enjoying eating it more or playing with it but its going down all the same ..

right big cuppa then off it pop xxxx

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