MSE Parents Club Part 9

redmel1621

weezl74 wrote: »

Hi again,

I'm feeling really down today and yesterday.

I think it's tiredness (been up since 3.30) the weather and hormones. But it's manifesting as tearful overwhelmedness, financial anxiety and questioning myself, friendships and relationships

might try to see if I can ask someone to have F a little while this afternoon so I can sleep...

xxx

Hiya Weezl

((hugs)) and I think it would be a great idea for you to catch up on some sleep.

It is probably hormones and tiredness combined plus the fact that it is getting very close to the arrival of Kester and I know I myself have been wondering how things are going to work out here.

Hey, yesterday on the way to Chester dh wanted to take a short cut, from the retail park to my mums area of Chester, I burst into tears absolutely sobbing my heart out because I wasn't 100% sure of the route he wanted to take:o:rotfl: Does that make you feel an better:p

angelfairy

My_Fathers_Daughter wrote: »

Hiya AF - same thing again tonight is the only way I am afraid. She is bound to be resistant and cry because she wants things to be how she wants them.

that fine, because i know i have to get this sorted for her benefit so will be tackling it again tonight.

If you are definitely trying to separate bottle from sleep then maybe a bottle and then a quiet read when she is sleepy is the way forward? Or would it wake her up again?

that's my biggest fear is letting her wake up 'too' much. that's what i worry about when she is crying in the cot and why i have always picked her up or fed her because i never want her to wake up too much.

LOL!! I'm lots of use aren't I!!

you always help

I do agree with csh though, when Benjamin is tired he doesn't want a bar of me, he just wants to be left alone....but not 'alone' alone LOL.

LO is like that when she is stressy (like last night when i wasn't letting her stay out of the cot for too long) and why she kept pushing my hand away

We have never mastered patting either, and he only wants to hold my hand when he wants to IYSWIM.

so, will think about it today and see if i want to move the story around but that is the only think that i might tweek. oh that and add the nursey rhyme 'teddy bear teddy bear' after i found the words in one of her books last night
xx

weezl74

thank you all so much, what nice friends on here!:T

The friend I asked to help has texted back that she can't today. My other possible has done her back in badly.

So I think I'll try a bit of that sleep while the baby sleeps thingie and see if Fergie will (fingers crossed) have a long nap

aless02

anyone want a grouchy baby that has only just now slept since his feed at 1:30am?

think he must be able to read, as they say there's a growth spurt at 3 weeks, which he is exactly today, as he wanted nothing but massive quantities of booby all evening and night.

hugs to AF - it might be hard now, but when you want to give up just remember the reward of getting her into a good nighttime routine that can last you through the next several years

Weezl, what GISI said...don't feel too bad, as so much of it is the pregnancy hormones! I still can't imagine being 3rd trimester and looking after a 10-month-old, even though that may be me one day...you're awesome and there's NOTHING wrong with having a lazy day where you get nothing productive done.

angelfairy

weezl74 wrote: »

thank you all so much, what nice friends on here!:T

The friend I asked to help has texted back that she can't today. My other possible has done her back in badly.

So I think I'll try a bit of that sleep while the baby sleeps thingie and see if Fergie will (fingers crossed) have a long nap

everyone is great on here aren't they weezl. i was so happy at the support i got from everyone about LO's sleep last night. really helps.

what a shame no one is available today.

as you say, maybe sleep when F sleeps and then tonight could OH watch F while you do something you enjoy (nice long soak/time to read)??

angelfairy

for weezl

Don't cry little angel,
Your heart is in good hands.
You'll go the distance,
You'll travel distant lands.
Don't worry little angel,
Your tears will soon disappear.
You'll kill the pain and stand
With out fear.
Don't run little angel,
I won't let you down.
With my caress, and all the faith,
You'll forget how to frown.
Keep standing little angel,
Because I won't let you fall.
Believe it, I was there with
Just one call.
Don't hide little angel,
There's no need to conceal.
Don't fear what your thinking,
Don't fear what you feel.
Just sing little angel,
Let heaven hear the voice it made.
Your melody is strong,
Your harmony won't fade.
You can laugh little angel,
You just don't forget.
Laughing heals the soul,
No one's proven me wrong yet.
So smile little angel,
Release your beauty from within.
Destroy the past,
Let the future begin.
So don't cry little angel,
Because you can already see.
You can always and forever,
Forever count on me

feelinggood_2

((hugs)) for Weezl and AF and anyone else who might need them

jillie1974

Glamazon wrote: »

Cos it's too icy for them to get the lorry down the streets. They didn't come last week either so I have a full wheelie bin, a black bag in my blue bin just cos there's nowhere else it can go and I have 3 bin bags by the back door - I'll take these 3 down there.
They said we can put extra bags out next week when they do collect but I don't want to put too many out cos they have dirty nappies in and the cats will probably get at them!

Big hugs to you AF - I feel awful saying about Jack going down on his own but I do know how hard it can be.

its been 4 weeks since they collected our bins. when i rang yesterday again!!! to complain i told them if they were not collected today they would get all the bags full of stinking nappies on the council steps!!!! hopefully with the snow/ice thawing in the rain they will come today. I'm waiting till 1pm and then its war!!! gonna ring the bbc/grananda/radio and kick off!!!

Tigsteroonie wrote: »

I know that some of you are close to Manchester, have you seen this?

Free Fashion Makeover

had a phonecall last night about this. just asking more questions etc. will find out today if i've been picked!!
wish me luck (ooh you could all see me in RL on the telly!! lol)

ladybirdintheuk

kindofagilr wrote: »

Just popping in

I have a question, I remember a while ago someone talking about a book designed for you to read to your bump, it was from amazon I think

Does anyone know what its called?

Its just OH likes talking to bump but I think he feels silly sometimes cos he doesnt know what to say, so I think having something to read would be good?

Any suggestions?

I don't know the specific book, but could you just get him to read a kids story book/poems? I read Whinnie the Pooh to my bump

weezl74 wrote: »

Hi again,

I'm feeling really down today and yesterday.

I think it's tiredness (been up since 3.30) the weather and hormones. But it's manifesting as tearful overwhelmedness, financial anxiety and questioning myself, friendships and relationships

might try to see if I can ask someone to have F a little while this afternoon so I can sleep...

xxx

Poor you. I'm not surprised you are weepy being up at 3:30. Can you take him into your bed at naptime? I find Izzy sleeps for longer if I do that, so if I need to sleep too it is sometimes the way to go

angelfairy wrote: »

we have thought about that

hi lady,

last night was my first night of doing a 'routine' with all intentions of sticking to it. i am going only the lines of gradual withdrawal with a bit of cc thrown in (in terms of not letting her push me around as to what she wants to be doing - ie. going to sleep in my arms or in my bed, although i never leave her inthe room on her own when she is crying)

by golly it was hard, but i got through it and will be doing the same tonight with a few slight tweaks so not as to confuse her.

Well done you. Just remember you are Mummy and in charge

after i went to bed last night, she went through to 3.10am. i managed to get her to settle herself without too much of a problem. she then went through to 5.30am. as she normally wakes up around 6ish and has some of a bottle, i decided to let her have her bottle then. i did that and she was again awakish when i put her down and she then woke herself up at 7.30 am.

That's not TOO bad then. Keep a note of where you are now, and then you will really see how much you have improved by this time next week.

i am wondering, should i do the story after the bottle so that she is more awake when i put her in the cot or whether to do the book before the bottle and just not let her go off as much on the bottle as i did last night.

she wont have a bar of me trying to hold her hand or put my hand on her chest when she is crying. she just pushes me away.

i am hoping she doesnt hate me as when i said to her this morning 'kisses for mum' i got a nice open mouth kiss straight on the lips :T

aw. Of course she won't hate you. Just remember she is just cross because she isn't getting her own way. I suspect that is something we are all going to have to get used to for at least the next 18 years

On a different note, Izzy received some size 9-12 tights for christmas, which she has donated to the fairys as they won't fit for long. PM me if they are any use to you.

weezl74

Aw! AF that poem made me cry! in a nice way:)

I hope you read it to yourself too...

hugs all round, going to try for a nap...


xxx