MSE Parents Club Part 9

Krystaltips

My heating's been on constant since about September :eek:

rose_tinted

Hi Weezl 74
Thanks for the welcome.
I did say in my post I have 2 daughters one is 5 and the youngest was 2 in december.
Do u have any cravings at all? I do but not for food xx

feelinggood_2

Nanny phoned earlier, we are delaying the start date by a week due to the snow. OH just about managed to get to work, but will be home early because of the weather, so it suits me fine to wait another week. Homestart lady is due tomorrow, its been almost a month. I just have to wait and see if she turns up. I'm not sure all this is helpful to be honest, I feel like I want to be left alone.

On the subject of HV's, I met mine while pregnant because of me being at risk of PND. I think the good HVs are wonderful and really useful, but too many just aren't effective. I wonder if it is time restraints or something. We have one newly qualified HV at the clinic, who cannot seem to answer any question and just stares at you open mouthed until you walk off. I wouldn't mind if she said "I don't know, I'll find out and let you know" but she just gives this blank stare like you are talking gobbledy-gook. I had an Outreach lady visit once too, and she told me to call her if I needed her. I think a lot of people are like me and find it really hard to ask for help, so might benefit from a bit of pushiness. Others don't like that though. Must be hard to get it right.

Part of me wants more support, the other part just wants to say 'just leave me alone'.

Buttonmoons

The first HV i had was nice. Of course she left, and no-one told me, and then I'd be assigned to someone else and no-one told me. They are just a shambles and I took umbridge with an old bat who told me that I was being a negligent parent because Keira wouldn't go to sleep at 6months without my rocking her for a bit and letting her sleep with a dummy "Let her cry, ITS BETTER FOR HER THAN YOU ROCKING HER"

WHATEVER BIATCH!

rose_tinted

emlou2009 wrote: »

Hello rose!

Are your LO's boys or girls? Do you know what your next one is yet?

Both girls and I found out at the scan with them.
This time I wanted a surprise so haven't got any idea.
My hubby thought i would need to find out and I didn't:D
M xx

emlou2009

Oh Claire's reminded me, the weetabix cake was nice, you're still my friend Weezl :rotfl: but I have had a little too much of it and feel a bit sick!!

I found that my stupid draughty damp filled house gets cold within a couple of minutes of the heating being off, so its on constant but on the lowest setting. That is, unless OH sees the setting and announces "thats why I'm freezing then" and turns it up, having not mentioned being cold beforehand and sitting in a t shirt :rolleyes:

Krystaltips

Lol Em, we have a phantom 'heating turner uper' here... Every time I walk past the thermostat I turn it down... Hubby constantly denies all knowledge of why it's right up to 21!!! :eek: :eek:

It's probably that 'someone'... You know... The one that always takes the empty toilet rolls off the bathroom floor... and puts the shoes and coats back in the cupboard... :rolleyes:

weezl74

Claire_Jones wrote: »

I've already told elle off but Weezl you are in trouble as well! I had to make some of your flapjacks the other day - needless to say there aren't many left and my diet/losing weight has well and truely stumbled!!

(got raisins and cinnamon for the next set)

ooooh cinnamon and raisin flapjack! yummy yums

Sami_Bee wrote: »

you are so disaplined our heatings been on constant since we got home from skiing

LOL, there are other words to describe me too sami stingy is one! and I have kester and bulgyness to keep me warm:rotfl:

emlou2009 wrote: »

Oh Claire's reminded me, the weetabix cake was nice, you're still my friend Weezl :rotfl: but I have had a little too much of it and feel a bit sick!!

I'm glad you like it!

sorry rose_tinted you did say, d'oh!

ummm cravings..... not since end of trimester 1. What are yours?

xxx

SusanC_2

redmel1621 wrote: »

Susan - Apart from with ds1 (and then only in the early days) I never had any need to see a HV and tbh just used to find their visits annoying and intrusive. I have also moved house numerous times and have never had HV wanting to visit me in the new area??

I'm glad I'm not the only one. I didn't mind that she offered to visit and I think it's a good idea to do so in case people feel the need for a HV but I just don't feel any need. Apparently it is trust policy here and they are supposed to visit within five days so she kept apologising for not having been in touch sooner.

weezl74 wrote: »

oh and health visitors, I've never felt a need of one either. If Fergus is unwell, I would go to a GP, if he isn't then I'd seek advice from here/google/mum friends.

I have never understood their role or profession and find it hard to ask without sounding rude!

See that's how I work - if Alice is ill I make an appointment with a Doctor/Nurse at the surgery and pretty much everything else I read up about myself. The other thing I have done is ring NHS direct but all of those things have been out of hours things anyway.

Having said that, I do think that having them available for people who want/need them is a good idea. Not everyone has both the information/knowledge and/or support from friends/family that they need and so support from a health visitor can be very helpful. Also if the child has health/development problems then a health visitor can be invaluable - I've mentioned before that one of my brothers was brain damaged during birth and my mum has said that our health visitor was wonderful whereas for the rest of she would have been fine without.

Fitzio wrote: »

Health visitors - surely they are important and whilst most of us would have no need for them, some people do.

When you look at cases of child abuse and neglect, I can see why there is a need for HVs to see people at home. Some poor little baby somewhere may be being abused and his mother is saying she doesn't need a visit from HV. Should they just take her word for it, and then nothing is done?

I know HVs take a bashing on here, but they are trying to help, and whether you take their advice is up to you, but I can see completely see the relevance and why they come out to visit people. If they only did it on request, I am sure the people who are neglecting their children would not be the ones requesting it.

I totally agree that health visitors are important for some people but they are Health Visitors and not Social Services. I asked the question about HV's because even though I'd already told her that I had no problems, had never had any and had never had any need to see a HV, she asked me if I'd had a bad experience with a previous HV as she couldn't see any other reason why I wouldn't want a visit. She said that it would be nice for me to have met her so that if I needed her I would know who she was which given that I have never needed one yet didn't seem like a good enough reason to me.

emlou2009 wrote: »

I think they are so used to people bending over backwards for them cos they dont really understand what they do, that when someone does they are really quite shocked! When mine came round after we took Seth to A&E, she told me on the phone that she was going to have to come round and check us out and if we didnt let her in she would raise the case with social services as there was clearly a problem! I made it clear that I didnt need the help and she couldnt understand why I was so "anti-her" as she put it, so I told her I know what a HV job role is and it isnt to threaten us with social services because my son fell off a bed. Havent heard from her since!

I did wonder if she was just a bit shocked because most people just agree to visits even if they don't need them.

feelinggood wrote: »

I feel I have a 'need' for a HV but so far not really received any help. Still feel a bit abandoned, after my email asking about giving LO up for adoption, they didn't ever offer to come and see me.

This is what makes me really mad - that they can spend time arguing with me that I should have a completely unecessary visit just because I've moved two miles but then they don't have time for somebody who is clearly in real need. Maybe you should move to Durham - clearly the health visitors here have more time on their hands than yours.

BeenieCat wrote: »

Does anyone know anything about the cold weather payments? The site says 4 have been issued for time period 1st Nov to 12th Jan in my area, so i should get one or two since Amber arrived on 21st Dec? I will ring IS and ask about it, every penny helps - dreading my gas bill although i'm actually in credit for once :eek:

Assuming you informed them about her I would have expected you to get them but of course making any kind of change has the potential to throw a spanner in the works so I would check that they are planning to pay you if I was you.

feelinggood wrote: »

Is it just me who is excited about the 12 month jab and getting to say he is breastfed? They don't ask after 12 months though

Ours never asked at any of the vaccinations but I just filled it in myself. I would have been excited if I'd thought they would actually ask though. I only got asked if I was breastfeeding by HV at ten days and then by the GP in a very suprised voice after I said I hadn't had a period yet at my eight week check.

BeenieCat wrote: »

Apparently both sides have made complaints saying i bang on their walls. I told her when i made the complaint that one night they were being noisy but i was in bed and not dressed so i banged on the wall to express my annoyance.

I do hope they get this sorted out for you soon - it's the last thing you need when you've got a new baby.

rose_tinted

My cravings are hoovering up!!!!!! Smelling and chewing rubber!!!!!!!!! I have had no food cravings.. Soz this belongs on the preg.thread doesn't it.
I don't post much ,can you tell ,hopefully that will change on Mat leave xx