MSE Parents Club Part 9

ManOnTheMoon

ladybirdintheuk wrote: »

I quoted this then read the rest of the comments since too - I agree she is a grown woman and you can't stop her from quitting if that is what she wants. Can you encourage her to look for something else though (or at least look into a class or something to get her out and about and boost her confidence a bit?

I'm trying to encourage her to do something and she is keen, only if it's the right thing. When she was doing crafty things before, she used to go around youth groups, day centres and similar teaching people. So i've suggested she get in contact with her contacts from that and see what she can unearth. I just want her to be happy, as I know she hates her workplace.

redmel1621 wrote: »

Yes I can talk to him, he can be very understanding, I think it is more me at the moment though, I don't want to be in the same room as him never mind talk to him....

MOTM[/B] - I just want to echo what SS said, I was think something very similar as I read your post...obviously we only know how it sounds not actually how it is iykwim...but something just didn't sound right to me when I read it:o

Sorry to hear you are being spoken too so rudely. Hopefully you can sort it out soon.

I've probably posted it wrong so it's misled folk I'm a walkover as a partner and a Dad :rolleyes:

searching_me wrote: »

:rotfl: motm that theres a reason for it and listen to word rather then how im saying them x

People often hear how it's said and not what is said. If I yelled 'Hello' people would hear it more than if I politely said 'My leg has just snapped in two'.

Firm and polite is a good way I find, it's polite but with backbone. Then if the other person gets annoyed, they look stupid

Sami_Bee

Mel everyone I know that has/had the icandy apple/pear has liked it,
the probs I've heard though are; if you want to put the single wheel on the front its very difficult so if getting it from a shop ask if they can do it for you.
the foam on the handle sometimes comes off but was fixed quickly
its quite heavy
and one friend had a problem with it being very flat but that was coz her DD had bad reflux and couldn't ever be lay totally flat
so all in all it gets a good write up from all the RL people I know

searching_me

i'll remember that for next time motm i think it stems from being bullied by school kids and my mother that when i found my backbone to stand up against things i go too far funny thing is its always always always the girls that have the problem with it .. men just get it straight away ... generally why i like hanging with the guys then i do girls .. expect on here of course your all lovely x

redmel1621

Sami_Bee wrote: »

Mel everyone I know that has/had the icandy apple/pear has liked it,
the probs I've heard though are; if you want to put the single wheel on the front its very difficult so if getting it from a shop ask if they can do it for you.
the foam on the handle sometimes comes off but was fixed quickly
its quite heavy
and one friend had a problem with it being very flat but that was coz her DD had bad reflux and couldn't ever be lay totally flat
so all in all it gets a good write up from all the RL people I know

Great...More rave reviews;) I am meant to be trying not to buy it:p
It is the brand new one, the Peach (Blossom) I am looking at. I went and had a play wit it yesterday, it is sooo nice, just not a very nice price tag!!!

ManOnTheMoon

redmel1621 wrote: »

I see motm has already responded to our concerns about Lucy giving up work now she has just moved into a ready nade family.......Maybe things will work out just fine. Is there any way you can get her to agree that if you or the girls feel it isn't working out, her being at home 24/7 that she will find some kind of part time work out the house! and believe me being at home all day together does not always make for a happy couple!!!!.

Well, since I posted earlier, she has been looking at new jobs in the local paper and a local playgroup need someone part-time and she has put a tick next to it. I've not spoken to her about it yet as she's doing something with some of the girls, but i'll sit her down later.

It says no experience necessary but must be willing to train in NVQ (various levels) Childcare and Health & Social Care (amongst others) and will be subject to background and CRB checks. 5 mornings a week, 3 hours a day, 15 a week, during term time only and provide work references for the past 3 years.

I have no idea how these things work. Does anyone have any previous experience of playgroups? She has worked in a GP surgery for a number of years and has assisted in their mother baby groups and the like in that time.

She's ticked it, so she must have some interest.

harley1

SM, lovely lady has come up with a great idea for you on other thread. Could save you loads of money and be completely original. Sorry for tempting you with the Starry Night piccys. xxxx

feelinggood_2

MOTM - I did voluntary work in a Playgroup before getting an Apprenticeship (which included an NVQ) while working at a nursery. What do you want to know?

searching_me

im coming harley x

ManOnTheMoon

searching_me wrote: »

i'll remember that for next time motm i think it stems from being bullied by school kids and my mother that when i found my backbone to stand up against things i go too far funny thing is its always always always the girls that have the problem with it .. men just get it straight away ... generally why i like hanging with the guys then i do girls .. expect on here of course your all lovely x

It wasn't advice really, more curiosity.

I had a poor childhood too, as it seems a fair few have here. I'm pretty straight with people, although thaw once I get to know them. My girls and Lucy aside that is. I'm a sap with them :cool:

I've always gone by the motto - Some people need a kick up the butt, some need an arm around them. People react differently to each method. I know if someone tried to kick me up the butt, i'd kick them back - harder

Krystaltips

BeenieCat wrote: »

Thanks krystal for the post explaining how the helpline works. It just rang and rang i prob didn't wait for the end though. I hate ringing people at the best of times so you know its bad when i don't put it off. Did hope someone could give me some ideas here but i think i missed the boat there's been loads of bf talk lately. I will just have to ring my hv on monday just seems so far away. Don't know what's happened everything was perfect but now its so hard. I've obviously messed up somewhere.

Sorry hun, have you tried ringing again today? You can try just using the side of your finger to nudge her chin down a touch and her mouth should open a bit wider. When you start, make sure your nipple is level with her nose so she has to tip her head back a touch to latch on, her mouth will automatically be a bit wider than if she's tilting her head forward...

I can't talk really... Caitlyn's queen of just slurping it in... :rolleyes:

ETA, out of all the baby groups I've ever been to with either of my girls, booby groups have always been the most welcoming, less cliquey

SugarSpun wrote: »

elle, we have loads of unseasonal clothes too, but most of them were gifts. Someone gave us a 9-12 month snowsuit -

And a lovely snow suit it is too