MSE Parents Club Part 9

searching_me

ManOnTheMoon wrote: »

Nothing wrong with bluntness in the right place and yes, alot of people do not listen until bluntness is used, but I find their is a time and place for it and always a reason for it, which is why I never take bluntness personally.

People do tend to love bluntness until it's about them, but as I say, I tend to laugh at bluntness, even if about me, just because I know their must be a reason for it.

can you teach lthis lesson to my RL friends please :rotfl:x

Sami_Bee

just my opinion but I think you have way too much :)

kindofagilr wrote: »

Labour Bag
Maternity Notes
Old Nightdress (or big tshirt) for giving birth
Tankini Top (or big tshirt) if I can have water birth
Bedsocks
Bottles of Water I'd only take one sports cap bottle or a straw to use with hosp cup
Snacks/Juice for OH - if he's anything like mine he'll be too stressed/tired/worried to eat/drink (although I had a quick-ish 6hr labour both times)
Vaseline
Facecloths/Flannels
Facewipes - I'd use baby wipes as they're multi-purpose
Hairbands
Camera - make sure batteries are charged/have spare
Change of tshirt for OH
Ice Chips in cool Bag really wouldn't bother, you'll want a drink not to have something too cold to hold
Diluty juice - not unless you don't like water?
Peppermint tea bags - is there a specific reason for these?
DS, MP3 Player, Book? if you have patietline tvs at ur hosp I wouldn't bother, or maybe just take 1 of these
Change for phones/tv etc
Stress Toy (OH's suggestion ) if you think it'll help?
Straws mentioned up there ^

Baby Bag
5 Sleepsuits (various sizes)
5 vests/bodysuits (various sizes)
Nappies and Nappy Bags - my hosp provide these too
Cotton Wool - my hosp provide this
Scratch Mitts
Going Home Outfit (shawl/blanket/pramsuit/hat)
Small Cuddly Toy for Crib - I agree with GISI on the hosp germs
Dummy - I doubt you'll need one so soon, newborns pretty much just sleep and eat
Muslin Squares
Forumula (in case cant BF) hosp may provide

Post Labour
Comfy Clothes (jogging bottoms/loose tshirts)
Nighties
Light Dressing Gown
Underwear (inc 2 0r 3 nursing bra's) I'd go for 1 or 2 bras
Maternity Pads & Night time always I'd reccomend just maternity ones
Towels
Slippers
Toiletries
Hairbrush
Something to read while poo (I know thats from someone on here lol)
Breast Pads
Heartburn Meds
Arnica Tablets
Ear Plugs - not sure about these but if you're a light sleeper..
Nipple Cream
Toilet Roll - I just used the hosp stuff it was decent soft stuff at mine
Alcohol Rub - hosp provided mine

Thanks guys

phew hopefully that helps you :undecided

ManOnTheMoon

searching_me wrote: »

can you teach lthis lesson to my RL friends please :rotfl:x

How would you react to someone laughing at you for being blunt with them?

Sami_Bee

ps kindof - if you're taking formula you'd also need bottles?
unless there is an underlying issue (medication or something) then you should be fine BFing just remember to ask for help whenever you need it and that it can be (and usually is) very tireing/frustrating/uncomfortable/painful at first but you'll both most likely get the hang of it quickly - expect the worst and you'll be pleasently surprised is my thinking

redmel1621

harley1 wrote: »

Thanks Mel.

You're right, I'd be just cutting off my nose to spite my face to try to manage on my own. That damn independant streak will get me into trouble one day. I always said I'd never ask people to baby sit, it was my choice to have her blah blah blah. Just didn't realise how hard somethings are with a pushchair.

Really really makes me appreciate that I don't have to worry about a wheelchair.

How are you feeling this morning? Apart from unappreciated, hopefully it was just a 'heat of the moment' comment and not really meant IYKWIM.

xxxx

Aah things are very hard aren't they especially on your own, I also have that independant streak and it does me in sometimes!!

I'm fine thanks for asking, but yes still very angry/upset with dh about the things he said:mad:

3onitsway wrote: »

I'm very childish and stubborn, so would for the next week or two do absolutely nothing for the person who said that, just to make him realise what you actually do for him .

He'll soon notice when he's ran out of clean undies and is starving to death. :rolleyes:


Morning all.

So am I...which is why I told him to F...off and sort himself out from now on. I know I am being childish but I don't care, I am at my most insecure when pregnant and comments like his just push me over the edge!!

Sami_Bee wrote: »

Honeys I'm Hoooooooommeeeee

:j:j:jHope you had a fab time, I will carry on reading now and find out how it went:D

BeenieCat

Maz i know i was moaning about bf troubles last night as little madam was being lazy, but i bought a dummy in the first few days and although she doesn't seem bothered with it, it hasn't done any harm. I gave her it when she was crying in car seat when taking my DS to school and that's the only time she's kept it in.

Kindof i agree with Sami's post, you won't use most of what you've listed. I know i had a home birth but i didn't need much at all, just bare essentials i couldn't be bothered with anything else. Also agree that maternity pads are better and the extra padding is a comfort in early days. I bought loads of Always night, but at last min got some Asda maternity and opted for them til they ran out.
I didn't even need breast pads til milk came in and only leaked after 2 weeks but i know some leak even before birth. I did wish i had straws tho cos the gas and air killed my throat and i couldn't sit up to drink so spilled water down the side of my mouth :rotfl:

I've ordered a beef dinner for delivery from a cafe, now if that isn't the height of laziness :rotfl: Costing £6 for both me and DS so prob cheaper than making it myself anyway by the time i faffed on going to the shop. (well that's how i'm justifying it)

ladybirdintheuk

Sami_Bee wrote: »

Mil's mum good to hear El's doing well

It was so scary losing Chris in a foreign country!! It was at security in the airport, we (OH n I) were busy stripping shoes/coat/belt off, taking Ed's coast off, folding pram and removing the wheels :rolleyes: and we just assumed Chris had gone through with ILs but then we got to the otherside and getting everything back on when OH picked up Chris's coat and couldn't see him to put it on him cue everyone panicking FIL ran down the way out incase he'd just kept walking we're all shouting "Christopher!!" OH is trying to tell a swiss security person we can't find him when FIL spots him still on the otherside of the x-ray thing. He was stood there crying his eyes out for mummy and the security bloke and the massive queue all ignoring him!

Oh my - your heart must have been in your throat. He won't do that again in a hurry!

ManOnTheMoon wrote: »

Firstly, I don't think anyone is being blunt...

Thanks for all your comments. I have concerns too. As previously stated, she is clingy but it is going really well.

I just don't know how to convince her otherwise. It would seem like i'm asking her to remain unhappy in a place she doesn't want to be and getting her self esteem knocked by some boss bully. Her self esteem has risen since being with us, but it gets knocked by this horrible woman.

The only alternative is to go and have words with her boss, but it would end up in tears for the boss and possibly me when Lucy tells me off for going behind her back.

I quoted this then read the rest of the comments since too - I agree she is a grown woman and you can't stop her from quitting if that is what she wants. Can you encourage her to look for something else though (or at least look into a class or something to get her out and about and boost her confidence a bit?

redmel1621

Sami_Bee wrote: »

Mel - are you looking at the getting an icandy pram?

Yes:o

Millie's_Mum wrote: »

Mel I'd probably stop doing whatever it was and then get raging mad at it being left and end up having to sort it all out days later. You need to try and talk to him honey and explain that he can't talk to you like that, nobody would take criticism well if it was thrown at you like that. Can you talk to him?

Yes I can talk to him, he can be very understanding, I think it is more me at the moment though, I don't want to be in the same room as him never mind talk to him....

SugarSpun wrote: »

Mel, if you're an MM in real life are we FB friends and if not may I add you? I'm an LLG. I'm glad LO is eating properly, but :rotfl: at his performance anxiety - very cute now it's sorted out. Scruffy too - I didn't know babies would do that.

MOTM forgive me for raining on your parade a bit but I'm getting a hint of alarm bells at this working from home business. Do you need a carer for the girls? It didn't seem that way, and it seems awful sudden to me to think of someone moving in after a month and becoming a housewife dependent on you inside two. I'm sorry to be so blunt.

Mel, if someone told me I was crap at raising my kid/s I would kindly suggest that they eff off and never dare to speak to me that way again. But I wouldn't change the way I do stuff because I do it the way that works for me.
And what Weezlie said.

Molly's on day 3 of semi-solids, just had some mashed up veg and potato with thoroughly macerated chicken and loved it. Some of yesterday's carrots made it into the bowl too and were unilaterally rejected. So chicken and veg, yes, apple yes, carrots thank you Mama but no. And since I know you all love to hear about poops, it is SO WEIRD that there is finally some solidity to hers.

Yes I am MM irl, and definitely add me:D

Thanks everyone for the back up on being criticised, as I say, it wasn't exactly those things he said, but was some very hurtful things.

Well done Molly on eating and nah i'm not a fan of carrots either:p

MOTM - I just want to echo what SS said, I was think something very similar as I read your post...obviously we only know how it sounds not actually how it is iykwim...but something just didn't sound right to me when I read it:o

searching_me

:rotfl: motm that theres a reason for it and listen to word rather then how im saying them x

redmel1621

Right caught up..

I see motm has already responded to our concerns about Lucy giving up work now she has just moved into a ready nade family.......Maybe things will work out just fine. Is there any way you can get her to agree that if you or the girls feel it isn't working out, her being at home 24/7 that she will find some kind of part time work out the house! and believe me being at home all day together does not always make for a happy couple!!!!

Sami - How scary losing Chris, thankfully he was only very close and it was all over quite quickly.