MSE Parents Club Part 9

csh_2

SugarSpun wrote: »

MOTM forgive me for raining on your parade a bit but I'm getting a hint of alarm bells at this working from home business. Do you need a carer for the girls? It didn't seem that way, and it seems awful sudden to me to think of someone moving in after a month and becoming a housewife dependent on you inside two. I'm sorry to be so blunt.

Sorry MOTM, but since sugar has mentioned it, I have to agreed and throw my tuppence worth in too.
Its still a very new relationship, neither of you know yet if it will last. I'm sure Lucy is a lovely woman, but if she gives up her job, in the space of six weeks she will have gone from single to every single aspect of her life revolving around you, your home and your girls.
I'm being really blunt and you can throw rotten tomatoes at me if you want, but I don't think that thats a healthy thing to do.

jillie1974

SusanC wrote: »

I recommend baby led weaning. Weaning was pretty much a non event in our household because that's what we did. What I did was cook and freeze a load of sticks of veg (e.g. carrot, swede, parsnip) and then if we were having something which was unsuitable or didn't contain big lumps we could give to Alice, we would just microwave a stick or two of veg. I also used to sometimes give her a stick of bread soaked in what we were having (e.g. if it was spaghetti bolognaise) but I make sourdough bread which is more dense and therefore doesn't go all soggy and fall apart. We kept a food diary for the first few months so if you wanted I could give you a more detailed list of what sort of things we did.

that would be fab, thank you very much.
i can give you my email addy if thats easier than posting it on here.

harley1 wrote: »

Hey Glam, glad to see weaning started well. Hope it wasn't too messy, I have some lovely plastic sheets (free with some magazines last year) for when we start. Cringing at the thought of food on my white carpet. xxx

Welcome home Sami. Missed you, hope you had a good time in the end. xxx

must admit when we were deciding between wooden floors and carpet over the summer thats what swung us to the wooden flooring...and our front door opens straight into the sitting room and with all the snow and ice our carpert would have been ruined.


MOTM- i think its all a bit weird that Lucy wants to give up work so soon. i know things move fast but it does seem a bit :eek: to me

sami- how did you lose chris? and welcome back :j

Sami_Bee

Mil's mum good to hear El's doing well

It was so scary losing Chris in a foreign country!! It was at security in the airport, we (OH n I) were busy stripping shoes/coat/belt off, taking Ed's coast off, folding pram and removing the wheels :rolleyes: and we just assumed Chris had gone through with ILs but then we got to the otherside and getting everything back on when OH picked up Chris's coat and couldn't see him to put it on him cue everyone panicking FIL ran down the way out incase he'd just kept walking we're all shouting "Christopher!!" OH is trying to tell a swiss security person we can't find him when FIL spots him still on the otherside of the x-ray thing. He was stood there crying his eyes out for mummy and the security bloke and the massive queue all ignoring him!

Maz - thanks for quoting Elle's post about huggies wipes! I'm down to 'just' 2 boxes now so gonna stock up
Do we know the dates for the events this Jan/Feb?

csh - I agree with others, your DD is gorgeous!!

tiamai_d

csh wrote: »

Sorry MOTM, but since sugar has mentioned it, I have to agreed and throw my tuppence worth in too.
Its still a very new relationship, neither of you know yet if it will last. I'm sure Lucy is a lovely woman, but if she gives up her job, in the space of six weeks she will have gone from single to every single aspect of her life revolving around you, your home and your girls.
I'm being really blunt and you can throw rotten tomatoes at me if you want, but I don't think that thats a healthy thing to do.

yeah, I didn't want to say anything either, but if MOTM was a real life friend, I would. Although, only they know the real story and it may be that everything really is just going that well. Hope it is.

ManOnTheMoon

SugarSpun wrote: »

MOTM forgive me for raining on your parade a bit but I'm getting a hint of alarm bells at this working from home business. Do you need a carer for the girls? It didn't seem that way, and it seems awful sudden to me to think of someone moving in after a month and becoming a housewife dependent on you inside two. I'm sorry to be so blunt.

The party last night was great but it took me ages to get home and I ended up having to spend €12 on a taxi because one of the trains was cancelled. I did have a great time though and feel very lucky to have made some wonderful friends here.

Molly's on day 3 of semi-solids, just had some mashed up veg and potato with thoroughly macerated chicken and loved it. Some of yesterday's carrots made it into the bowl too and were unilaterally rejected. So chicken and veg, yes, apple yes, carrots thank you Mama but no. And since I know you all love to hear about poops, it is SO WEIRD that there is finally some solidity to hers.

I think 'carer' was probably the wrong word. I can't think of the right one. I think she wants to be there for the girls when they need a female for help and the girls are quite pressuring. I've told them to be gentle, but they are in effect, kids, and they agree and then an hour later, they forget themselves. I also think since being with us, she is becoming a bit maternal to the girls. She enjoys the responsibility. She also no longer enjoys her job and her boss belittling her and she really loves being crafty and misses her old 'work'.

I have my concerns. She is very shy and very damaged in some ways. She is very clingy, but that doesn't bother me, I have 7 clingy girls already. I'd like her to build her confidence and I know she is confident within her old job of making things. I'd prefer he to make them and give them away or keep them rather than make money, as I think it's more of a hobby, but she done well before.

Her few friends are sensible and out of the work place, other than the mutual friend we have that 'set us up', who is one of her work colleagues. I intend to encourage her by persuading her to go out shopping with her friends with some money to enjoy herself. Problem is, she has more money than me and she may feel me offering her money to go out as an insult, when I only mean good. They are all sensible and she'll have a nice time. She's just very unsure of herself and needs alot of love. Just goes to show, you can't look at someone and know who they are, as looking at her, and speaking to her. you'd expect her to be confident, as she's good looking, intelligent, kind, caring and an all round good person, but sadly previous experiences have knocked her and the horrible person at work isn't helping. I know she fears going in every day and she wants to quit ASAP.

I don't want her to be unhappy, but at the same time, i'd like her to see her grow, so maybe we can together see what else is out there that is within her boundaries and comfort zone. I don't want to push anything though, as i'll upset her and that's not what I intend.

€12 is nothing for a good time out. It's when it €12 after a bad night! It's good to hear you have made some good friends. Always hard to do when you go anywhere, let alone another country.

Thanks for the poop news. You've made my day

tiamai_d

Eeeep Sami, scary stuff! Bet your heart was in your mouth!

Its another Christopher thing then, My Christopher did it at a huge fair thing when DH and BIL took the boys camping. He was dragged onto stage (local radio was there) as 'the lost boy'. Reminds me, I still need to get him an ID tag...

kindofagilr

Hi all

I am stepping out of lurking, I am from the pregnancy thread, due a boy on 8th March.

I've been trying to get things sorted for the birth or just get my head around what I still need to get.

So I have done my hospital bag list, can some of you lovlies look over it and see if I have missed anything off or if there is something on there that I am not going to need.

Labour Bag
Maternity Notes
Old Nightdress (or big tshirt) for giving birth
Tankini Top (or big tshirt) if I can have water birth
Bedsocks
Bottles of Water
Snacks/Juice for OH
Vaseline
Facecloths/Flannels
Facewipes
Hairbands
Camera
Change of tshirt for OH
Ice Chips in cool Bag
Diluty juice
Peppermint tea bags
DS
MP3 Player
Book?
Change for phones/tv etc
Stress Toy (OH's suggestion )
Straws

Baby Bag
5 Sleepsuits (various sizes)
5 vests/bodysuits (various sizes)
Nappies and Nappy Bags
Cotton Wool
Scratch Mitts
Going Home Outfit (shawl/blanket/pramsuit/hat)
Small Cuddly Toy for Crib
Dummy
Muslin Squares
Forumula (in case cant BF)

Post Labour
Comfy Clothes (jogging bottoms/loose tshirts)
Nighties
Light Dressing Gown
Underwear (inc 2 0r 3 nursing bra's)
Maternity Pads & Night time always
Towels
Slippers
Toiletries
Hairbrush
Something to read while poo (I know thats from someone on here lol)
Breast Pads
Heartburn Meds
Arnica Tablets
Ear Plugs
Nipple Cream
Toilet Roll
Alcohol Rub

Thanks guys

ManOnTheMoon

Firstly, I don't think anyone is being blunt...

csh wrote: »

Sorry MOTM, but since sugar has mentioned it, I have to agreed and throw my tuppence worth in too.
Its still a very new relationship, neither of you know yet if it will last. I'm sure Lucy is a lovely woman, but if she gives up her job, in the space of six weeks she will have gone from single to every single aspect of her life revolving around you, your home and your girls.
I'm being really blunt and you can throw rotten tomatoes at me if you want, but I don't think that thats a healthy thing to do.

jillie1974 wrote: »

MOTM- i think its all a bit weird that Lucy wants to give up work so soon. i know things move fast but it does seem a bit :eek: to me

tiamai_d wrote: »

yeah, I didn't want to say anything either, but if MOTM was a real life friend, I would. Although, only they know the real story and it may be that everything really is just going that well. Hope it is.

Thanks for all your comments. I have concerns too. As previously stated, she is clingy but it is going really well.

I just don't know how to convince her otherwise. It would seem like i'm asking her to remain unhappy in a place she doesn't want to be and getting her self esteem knocked by some boss bully. Her self esteem has risen since being with us, but it gets knocked by this horrible woman.

The only alternative is to go and have words with her boss, but it would end up in tears for the boss and possibly me when Lucy tells me off for going behind her back.

ManOnTheMoon

kindofagilr wrote: »

So I have done my hospital bag list, can some of you lovlies look over it and see if I have missed anything off or if there is something on there that I am not going to need.

You missed the father to be at the birth Don't forget to pack him - all being well of course

tiamai_d

I wouldn't worry about ice chips, I think if someone came at me with ice chips to suck I'd tell them to sod off (and the book to read for pooping was me )