MSE Parents Club Part 9

carlamagee

mookiandco wrote: »

Oh Carla, its like pulling off a plaster, you need to get it over and done with. ((((hugs))))

I patted myself on the back when I first sent out e-mails and made a list of potential CM's and then when they started to respond I found it so hard to take that step and actually arrange to see them. It somehow made it feel so real.

But just take that step and see one (and you will probably find a million things wrong with them and want to hate them because no-one else is good enough to look after your babies) but once you've been brave and done it, you will feel able to see others and eventually make a decision.

I found it was such a huge weight off my mind when I finally decided on the CM for Leila and I really got to enjoy my final few weeks of ML. Just be brave xxxxxxxxxx

Ta, mooki!
I have emailed back sayig that it would be a good idea to meet up. i thought the same - just get one over n done with!
its just actually doing it thats scary and horrible!!

Fitzio wrote: »

Carla – It must be really hard to leave them. To be honest, I never thought it would be until I had H, and now I can’t imagine leaving her with anyone else. I guess you just need to find the person whom you trust most and are most happy with even though you are not happy with the situation, and you will just get used to it in time. The kids will be fine, they will get used to it quickly I am sure. It’s the mums who go through the emotions of it! I am not looking forward to it at all.

Ta Fitz! I wasnt this bad when going back to work after i had Katie, but i think it was because my mum or my sister were minding her. its so different to put your trust into a complete stranger when your children are concerned!

Im so glad you ladies were still up. thanks.xx

elle_gee

Don't forget Claire is a childminder too.. am sure she'll help with any questions you have

How long until you're back at work?

Fitzio

Good for you e-mailing back. You know you don't have to go with her anyway but at least it will make it slightly less scary when you arrange to meet others. To be fair, I don't mind leaving H with my family for short periods of time, but at least I would have confidence with a child minder that it's a business relationship and I am paying for things to be done the way I prefer to a certain extent. If my mum was looking after her, she would think she could do what she wanted and it would cause no end of problems.

Off to bed now. Hope everyone had a good new year. Was Weezl going to the theatre in London or have I imagined that? Hope you had a good time if so. If you weren't, I think you should go soon just so I don't feel stupid and I am sure you would enjoy it (!!??)

Night all. x

carlamagee

am still waiting on my boss arraging a time for us to "have a chat", im due back feb some time. Although, i think i will give my head office a ring tomorrow...also need to phone tax credits to see if they can give me an idea of how much they may be able to help me with.
oh its all so much.

i didnt know Claire was a childminder.....i was on the nicma website, and was actually thinking of becoming registered myself. although i dont know if i could do it!

SeptemberBaby_2

elle_gee wrote: »

This is really bad (and probably sad to be excited about) at the age of nearly 26, but I just cooked my first roast ever!

Well done you! :T

I'm 36 and have yet to cook one! :eek:

xx

SeptemberBaby_2

chopsticks wrote: »

OMG - totally had forgotten about that!!!!!!!!!!!!! :eek:

Luckily it's being Sky+d as we series-linked it. Don't tell me what happens though as prob won't watch it until tomorrow.

I watched it on xmas night via boxset! .

xx

SeptemberBaby_2

searching_me wrote: »

wow everybodys feeling ready for the 2nd bubba i give you all credit i couldnt of handle having zoe and jayden so close i just know myself and i know i would crumble we have talked about a third but never until jayden is in full time education x

I wouldn't have had my two any other way, SM. My sisters and I are very close in age and I wanted that for my children too. And my age when we decided to have children had alot to do with things.

But I might have felt diferently if Poppy hadn't learned to sleep through from a few months old! :rotfl:

xx

Jaymee-Marie

Hi i'm just looking for a bit of advice...... I start back at work on April 5th after 9 months of mat leave. when do i inform tax credits of my return for work, They are paying 80% of my childcare costs so do i inform them now or closer the time.I don't want to be back at work and struggling to pay childcare as they have not paid up yet.They have already provisionally told me how much i can get?

SeptemberBaby_2

Dora, I missed the post about your fall. Lots of hugs and I hope you're ok.

And hugs to you too, Carla. I don't have any experience with CM's but Poppy goes to nursery for 2 half days a week and I just knew when I had found the right one.

xx

SeptemberBaby_2

Jaymee, hopefully someone will be along soon to help as I have no idea!

xx