MSE Parents Club Part 9

emlou2009

Have got a huge casserole in the slow cooker, should be enough for 6 portions with any luck! Truck loads of veg in it. I hope it actually tastes nice, I think I might have overdid it a bit on the veg. It'll be OH that moans if its too "veggy", he gets distressed enough about the lack of meat I feed him as it is :rolleyes:

I am getting increasingly worried about my nan. Her short term memory loss is getting much worse, and quite quickly
Yesterday she told me that her mobile wasnt working properly, and I said it probably wouldnt be and she's lucky to have got away with it working for this long cos she put it in the washing machine in February. She had it in her dressing gown pocket as it was getting close to my due date and wanted to keep it close by, but forgot, took the gown off and put it in the machine, then realised and took it out as the machine was filling up. The phone didnt work for a week, but she left it on the radiator and when it dried out it was ok. She swore blind to me that none of this happened, it would be stupid of her to put her phone in the machine "because everyone knows thats not how you clean them!"
She is also getting increasingly rude in her old age, on xmas day M&FIL invited her round on this coming Sunday for dinner which was lovely of them, saying they wanted to get to know the other side of the family to be. She said "Oh, I'll have to see if I'll be done at Church by then or not, and I'm definitely not coming if its icy." Making excuses before she'd even given them a chance! I rang them after I'd taken my nan home thanking them for their offer but made out that I didnt want her to come because she's a panicky passenger, and its a 40 minute drive to get there and she would do my tree in too much, luckily they werent offended.
Then I invited her round here tomorrow for a roast, it being new years day I thought she would probably welcome not being on her own, but she screwed her face up and said "ANOTHER dinner?" then "Wont your dad be there? I'm not coming if he's there." Yes, he will be here, for a couple of hours, but I was going to go and get her after. "No, it will be too late for me to eat then, I'll be up all night with indigestion." Not a single thank you. Fine then you old bat, have a nice bl00dy new years day on your own!!
I feel awful cos I love her dearly, she's been more of a mum to me than anyone else, and Seth loves her to pieces, but she it is SO draining seeing her at the moment. I'm glad I've gone back to work, cos it gives me a excuse not to go round, but she still seems to expect me to go round every day that I'm not at work, and when I do I seem to sit there biting my tongue all day cos of her rudeness

3onitsway

csh wrote: »

The devils own food. It is manky and vile and stinks your house out when you cook it.

haggis(n.)made of sheep's or calf's viscera minced with oatmeal and suet and onions and boiled in the animal's stomach

Ewwww! Thanks for that! :rolleyes:

tsstss7

Csh afaik you can claim child care tax credits or buy childcare vouchers from your employer (from your gross income therefore saving you money in tax) but not both. You can only claim cctc though if you are both working over a certain number of hours (one full time and one part time over 16 hrs I think).

Anyone can buy vouchers so long as their employer is in the scheme so it suits higher rate income tax payers most as they are getting 40% discount in effect. CCTC on the other hand are income based so will decrease as your income increases.

Someone on this thread asked the same qu recently and I think the answer was that a household income of around £27 thou was about the turning point between which was best to claim.

csh_2

tsstss7 wrote: »

Csh afaik you can claim child care tax credits or buy childcare vouchers from your employer (from your gross income therefore saving you money in tax) but not both. You can only claim cctc though if you are both working over a certain number of hours (one full time and one part time over 16 hrs I think).

Anyone can buy vouchers so long as their employer is in the scheme so it suits higher rate income tax payers most as they are getting 40% discount in effect. CCTC on the other hand are income based so will decrease as your income increases.

Someone on this thread asked the same qu recently and I think the answer was that a household income of around £27 thou was about the turning point between which was best to claim.

Thanks we will be about £45k cos I am taking a 12k pay cut to go part time. Will we be better off with the vouchers then?
How does it work, is it just tax relief on the cost of nursery?? I am dim lol

Sami_Bee

Krystaltips wrote: »

... The only member of Hubby's family that bought the girls a christmas present.. Bought Caitlyn a packet of wipes.... :rolleyes: Not even decent wipes... Cheap wipes.... It's all very bizarre....
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I'm sorry but this made me :rotfl:

aless02 wrote: »

Claire - would totally only give a partial refund. They're being nobs, clearly!...

anyone else just realised aless is gonna fit right in here?

3 - are you gonna buy the matching coat that was on the pics of the zia|?:p

Mazcabs wrote: »

Does 1lb 3oz seem alot of weight to put on in 17 days? I was shocked when William was weighed yesterday

it's alot compared to my 2 but all babies are different, sounds like you've got a little bruiser in the making

Krystaltips

3, they tend to come in plastic wrap rather than stomach nowadays lol...

Welcome Emz

Em, I think old people, like children, go through phases... My nan is being really lovely, thoughtful and generous at the moment but for about the last 2 years or so she's been nasty, rude and downright horrible sometimes for no reason whatsoever... It got to the point where my aunt wouldn't ring her for weeks at a time because she upset her every time she rang... We don't know what the turning point was, we just started noticing she was being less rude gradually until we could honestly say she was actually being nice... Maybe it's the same with your nan?

tsstss7

emz68 wrote: »

hi
can i join i have 3 kids love emz xx

welcome - how old are your kids?

emlou2009 wrote: »

I am getting increasingly worried about my nan. Her short term memory loss is getting much worse, and quite quickly

No advice but <<hugs>> my gran is 84 and quite demanding at times - I have a big family though so its not all on me.

csh wrote: »

Thanks we will be about £45k cos I am taking a 12k pay cut to go part time. Will we be better off with the vouchers then?
How does it work, is it just tax relief on the cost of nursery?? I am dim lol

You would most likely be better off on vouchers but you can check by going on entitledto.com

You buy the vouchers from your employer from your gross pay so effectively saving 40% if you are a higher rate tax payer but still a reasonable amount if you are not.

Apparantly it can affect pension contributions though so you should read the MSE page on it before you decide.

Sami_Bee

Em - I think you need to get your Nan to a doctor, it's most likely the usual getting old and batty but it could be demetia which is horrible and the sooner its caught the better it is all round, you really need to go with her though otherwise she'll likely get there and forget why. fingers crosed it's not though

emz68

Krystaltips wrote: »

3,

Welcome Emz

thankyou hope you having a good day the weather is awful here pouring and pouring lol

emz68

tsstss7 wrote: »

welcome - how old are your kids?


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thankyou they are 13,15 and 20 two boys and a girl