MSE Parents Club Part 9

sparkle03

SugarSpun wrote: »

Thank you Sparkle - I didn't realise you'd had a difficult time as well. I do blame myself, and whenever I do something wrong I feel like a very rubbish mummy because I couldn't even get that small thing right and then the way she was born is always lurking. I forgot to put her double-thickness night time nappy on last night and this morning she woke up in a wet patch and I feel horrible about it. She's fine, happily chatting to her toys, but I'm a mess.

Im not just saying this but I do understand how you feel Its so hard when you feel as if something is your fault. I do honestly wish I could help more with the root but Im just going to sound as if Im brushing the way you feel to one side and thats not what I want at all, but if you feel counselling would help then I really would go for it. Try to remember that we all deal with things so differently and where emotions are concerned with matters like this there is no 'right' way to feel!
As for the nappy last night we all do daft things like that all the time, I didnt tell anyone as I wasnt posting at the time but I let lexi fall from the arm of the sofa a couple of weeks ago.
I felt so bad I had to ring OH at work and tell him to come home as I was rubbish at being a mum and Lexi deserved better In my heart though I know it isnt true I just felt sooo bad as !!!!!! was I doing letting her stand up on the sofa??? We might be mums but we are only human.
Do you think maybe seeing as you have had a hard few days what with the medical bill and other stuff you have mentioned things have all just got on top of you and its coming out in everything you do not being right?
Once again im not trying to poopoo how you feel just throwing it out there xx

got-it-spend-it

Jillie- sorry you feel ike OH wasn't there for you. That must be a really horrid feeling and I think the way you have dealt with SIL's death has been so strong.

Let me know how bumps and babes is as I keep meaning to go to our one here

redmel1621

weezl74 wrote: »

do you think maybe she thinks you have all the stuff already? x

Weezl, she is my best friend! We visit each other/phone at least once a week and txt every day...she knows exactly what i've got and what I need. She also knows I have been a bit worried lately and was wishing I had a doppler, and that I have been in two minds over the carrycot for the pram (which would mean I don't need a moses) Anyway...sorry to everyone as I think I am getting a bit preggy related here:o

SusanC wrote: »

It was an Independent midwife who did not follow procedures she should have and was on her own so it is highly unlikely to happen with an NHS homebirth however it is unpleasant and distressing so I wouldn't advise anyone who was pregnant to read it as you are likely to be more upset by that kind of thing when pregnant.

sparkle03 wrote: »

Weezl I would agree with Susan here, not worth you reading it at all hunni xx

I wish someone had warned me before I read it and became utterly distressed over it, I can't get it out of my mind now:mad::(

Sorry I did ask earlier, but maybe not very clearly as I was rushing off for the school run....what is the documentary that was referred to as finding out there was a problem with Tigs baby?

nikkit72

**Sneaks in :hello:*

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**Sneaks back out :hello:**

jillie1974

right i need to go and put some things in the change bag (should not empty it when i'm going to use it the next day )

SS- hope your meetings go ok

angela- i didnt know rose had been born prem till MFD mentioned it. I did post last night that all babies/todllers/children on here are special and miracles so no-one would feel left out.

weezl74

angela6834 wrote: »

I hope i have in no way upset anyone posting x

no, I think you're right to raise it. :TI for one would rather know than lose you. Or anyone.

I don't know if this sounds lame, but whenever this comes up, this is the thinking process I go through...

oh no! xxxx lovely poster feels sad/ignored. That's rubbish! Must try harder to make sure I'm not just sat here smiling and nodding but try to respond to more people and have a better memory for the details.

Then I have a crappy night's sleep or fergie is whingy, or I have a row with OH or a showdown with my boss and I slump into sharing more of that instead.

I guess that's maybe what everyone does a bit?

Anyhow, that doesn't seem to be helping, cos it keeps happening to people. Angela do you or anyone have any ideas what we can do to make the thread not like that (ignoringy/left-outy) any more.

I for one would like to do what I can to make it better, even though I'm not one of the long standingest or more regular posters.

xxx

scruffy96uk

I think a :grouphug: is in order x x

I'm glad you came back Angela now I know who Roses' Mummy is. Don't leave, I know it's not nice when people/things are over looked but sometimes it happens, it's hard for it not to.

Bruno Get well soon

MOTM Hope ur DD is ok now and things are getting back to normal.

:hello: Weezl long time since I've been on here at the same time as you? How r things and how is bump?

ETA totally agree with Weezls' above post

sparkle03

redmel1621 wrote: »

I wish someone had warned me before I read it and became utterly distressed over it, I can't get it out of my mind now:mad::(
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Sorry Mel, I didnt mean to not tell you hun, I know I 'saw' you yesterday but dont know if it was around that time as I was in and out xx

feelinggood_2

Personally, I think all our babies are miracles. I know MDW's Katie is a miracle. I'm still amazed by Toby's existance, seeing as I'd decided that I wasn't going to have babies.

scruffy96uk

feelinggood wrote: »

Personally, I think all our babies are miracles. I know MDW's Katie is a miracle. I'm still amazed by Toby's existance, seeing as I'd decided that I wasn't going to have babies.

Couldn't agree more x x