Rant about unsuitable xmas gifts

Buttonmoons

My mum bought DD a bratz doll for Christmas this year, she told me about it, I told her to take it straight back to the shop. Ugly sexualised dolls, I don't think they are suitable for any age!

nottslass_2

I totally agree with where you are coming from on this one & Personally hate to see little girls paraded about as teenagers.But....................
Think about it,what will be the worst thing that could happen for you (or DD )if you let her have the gifts ? Will the presents compromise her health/ safety or ruin her for life ? If not & its something that you "just don't approve off" how about a compromise? eg if its something to wear how about shes allowed to wear it at home or said friends only ?

Good luck.

Edinburghlass_2

I once bought my daughter's friend a little make up set around the same age, the Mum said to me it was her daughter's favourite birthday present as her Mum wouldn't buy it for her, I'm now wondering what she was trying to tell me :rotfl::rotfl:

Errata

If it's clothes, shrink them in the wash. If it's high heels, loosen one of the heels so it falls off. If it's makeup, borrow it and use it up.
If you give me a clue about anything else that's unsuitable for her, I'll come up with some more creative ideas

bestpud

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

As an afterthought - it is now normal for people to buy their children's friends presents? When did this start?

Funny you should ask that as I've been thinking just that this evening!

Up until last year there was only four girls in dd's class so they exchanged small gifts. I know the parents and none of us would be stupid about it; a couple of pounds maximum was all we spent.

Now there are a couple more girls and I've been wondering what to do this year as I don't want to get into something 'big'. I've been trying to broach the subject and see how the land lies but haven't got round to it.

Anyway, today she came home with a gift from one of the original girls (who bought all round) and I feel there is so few of them I can't leave the two out, so now need to get five little gifts.

Then tonight, another friend of hers (not from school) dropped a little gift in for her... :cool:

It's nice for dd of course, but I find it quite odd if I'm honest!

I'll be more prepared next year but I'm also wondering if this is the norm...?

BitterAndTwisted

All the people on this thread suggesting that the OP does something underhand and/or tells lies about the presents are really, really surprising me and I truly hope they are all just joking. Not really a terribly good lesson to be teaching a young girl, I reckon. In fact, a worse lesson than allowing her to have things inappropriate for her age imo. A better one would be to discuss, explain and compromise just as we do (or should) in the adult world.

robpw2

im so glad none of you are my parents
your all suggesting that you should portray to the ops daughter that its ok to be devious and underhand
fair enough as a mother you can object to your children having certain things but unwrapping your childrens presents before christmas is just plain cruel
if you dont like these people then you didnt need to accept the presents in the first place you could have just said , if you dont want your daughter to have this stuff then why are you allowing her to associate with this other child

katieclampet

Personally I don't think you should have opened her present anyway! But since you have, then I think you should talk to your daughter about the present, and set out some ground rules about when or what she can do/wear/use it. Explain why you disapprove.

Alternatively, "accidently" fall, break or smash gift, be apologetic and repplace with something more appropraite.

katiex

aliasojo

robpw2 wrote: »

fair enough as a mother you can object to your children having certain things but unwrapping your childrens presents before christmas is just plain cruel
if you dont like these people then you didnt need to accept the presents in the first place you could have just said , if you dont want your daughter to have this stuff then why are you allowing her to associate with this other child

Hang on a wee minute...the presents were opened to check what they were as I had a feeling they would be unsuitable. They were then rewrapped and put back under the tree until I decide what I'm going to do about them. Daughter is none the wiser and has no idea I've even looked at them.

Daughter came in from school the other day with the presents, they were given directly to her. As for 'if you dont want your daughter to have this stuff then why are you allowing her to associate with this other child'.....we live in a small country town with a small school, she sees her everyday even if she doesn't see her outwith school.

Think you're a bit too quick off the accusatory mark there rob.

aliasojo

katieclampet wrote: »

Personally I don't think you should have opened her present anyway!



Alternatively, "accidently" fall, break or smash gift, be apologetic and repplace with something more appropraite.

katiex

Seems to me you are chastising me for doing something wrong on one hand and encouraging me to do wrong on the other.